Is it normal if you are still in-love with your ex-boyfriend?

Philippines
June 18, 2010 9:26pm CST
Good day to all. I just noticed that it is really hard to forget the person that you fell in love so much. Just like what my friend is experiencing. She had her broke-up with her ex-boyfriend for almost five years now. But, still, she keeps on saying, "if ever she will given another chance to go back during those days, she will do everything for that guy. And she still loves her ex-boyfriend so much". And because of the third party, their relationship ends up. My concern is, it really normal to still love your ex? Or maybe, the healing period is not yet over?
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• India
19 Jun 10
No its not a normal love with ex-boyfriend... my friend loves.. but that the guy cheat my friend... she had broken with her ex-boyfriend before 1 n half year... now she loves another guy... still she have an thought about ex-boyfriend... but she always scold him only... chit he cheat me... definitely i live nicely infront my ex-boyfriend with my new boyfriend.... In my side it is not a normal thing to love ex-boyfriend...
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• Mexico
19 Jun 10
Hi prety priya: I try to understand the position of this girl that still loves her ex and I see it like a normal thing because this only means that her love to her ex was so deep that she keeps thinking about him but at the same time I understand that this is not good. In fact there's no use on still thinking about a guy that is probably with another girl, that makes part of her past. Thanks for your answer. Have a nice day. ALVARO
@Archie0 (4669)
19 Jun 10
Hello there, well yes i think there is nothing abnormal in being in love with your ex. I think in fact it shows that you loved him truly. I have been in love with my boyfriend for merely 3 years even after we broke. I tried to get engage in other guys but nothing helped me to forget him. And i think it is normal, but it really hurts and affects you alone.
• Philippines
19 Jun 10
[i][/i] A wonderful response. You are right, it really hurts and affects me. However, there are also times, when I remember my ex-boyfriend, some good moments reminds me, so, I dont feel the hurt instead.
• Philippines
19 Jun 10
I guess if you don't help yourself to move on you will never forget someone you have loved. If you keep reminiscing the 'what could have been' or the 'if' words over and over in your mind guess you can not give yourself a chance to see the present. It says your heart feels what your mind dictated, is not the other way around. Before I thought to love someone more than yourself is right, but I prove it wrong, you cannot give someone you do not have. We must value and assess our needs, and we have to learn commitment to ourselves first. So when we finally meet the perfect person we won't just love them by emotions but with commitment to be faithful, with trust and we can accept the whole being of that person. Reminiscing your past won't give you a chance to meet the right person, and if it is your ex-bf, then there's nothing to worry but prepare yourself for the right time, to become a much better other half when it time for you to meet again. God bless you!
• Philippines
19 Jun 10
A very good point. Very nice response. Your response is appreciated.
• Canada
19 Jun 10
I don't think it's normal. I think your friend needs to move on. There's a reason things end and she broke up with him. So obviously he did something wrong to her.
• Mexico
19 Jun 10
Hi aira sheila: I don't think it's the brightest idea but it's normal to keep loving a person that has touched in a deep way, that you consider it was the love of your life, etc but I won't recommend a person to do this because there's no reason to keep on waiting for a person that is probably enjoying his/ her life with someone else. I think that your friend need to go out and make a complete recovery of this pain that is still with her. Thanks for sharing with us this story. Have a nice day. ALVARO
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
19 Jun 10
For me yes and the healing process is over but it is defend of the feelings of your heart.
• China
19 Jun 10
It is normal.Maybe they were actuation to broke up.But they are loving each other in their heart.
@ndubose (418)
• United States
19 Jun 10
It depends are you really in love with your new boyfriend and how long was the previous relationship?
@Naisan (215)
• Philippines
19 Jun 10
awww i can attest the same, i haven'y gotten over me ex still--i wish it would be all over like it never happened. but i know that i have to learn from it. everything has its own purpose..maybe in time i'll learn to let go
• India
19 Jun 10
I don't think it is OK. It will tie you down and will always create obstacles in the path of new relationships. It is always better to free yourself from the shackles of past. You may continue to have good feelings for Ex but once somebody has become Ex he has become part of history and not a current reality. Actually it becomes bit difficult to accept the reality because of the memories of good time spent together but sooner or later one has to come to the terms.