Of all the people, why him?
By eM
@eLsMarie (4346)
Philippines
June 19, 2010 11:20am CST
My cousin's having a serious problem. She has an ex-boyfriend whom she loves most. They've been together for about five years and they were the best of friends for almost six years or seven years, I think. My cousin's parents were really strict and when they found out that she already had a boyfriend at the age of eighteen, her parents sent her to another university. They still continued their relationship until she graduated from her two-year course. After my cousin and her boyfriend applied for jobs at the same office or building, that's the time when their relationship started to became shaky. The guy started to become so mean with my cousin because he'll always think that my cousin's cheating on him. When they broke up, my cousin resigned because aside from the fact that their relationship tends to be shaky, she can no longer take the pressure because it's not allowed to have a girl/boyfriend in that office. She have worked so hard.
In her new working place, she had a friend who became her best friend. We've met and the girl has a very good personality. I think she's the right person to be my cousin's friend but the problem is... she's the girl of my cousin's ex.
The guy wanted my cousin back. He'll always tell my cousin that he planned to court somebody to where my cousin's working so that he'll have the chance to be with my cousin. If you were on my cousin's side, would you tell the girl that her ex was just fooling her or something? Wouldn't the girl be suspicious about it? What if the girl finds out that they were ex lovers, would she still believe my cousin? It's pretty hard. I can't take seeing my cousin weeping. I know that she's still in love with the guy and I really want to shake her head. 
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4 responses
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
19 Jun 10
Hello eLs,
The situation your cousin's in,is really a hard one.
She's being torn into pieces,pain,love,friendship,truth and sacrifice.
She's still in love with the guy,and it's natural,they've been together for a long time.
She has to sacrifice herself,if the new girl found that,your cousin had relationship with the guy.(gosh...i can't imagine the scenario)
The girl,maybe felt suspicious if your cousin would tell her that the guy is just using her.
But,your cousin can still try to explained about it,it doesn't matter if the girl will believe your cousin,or not.
What matters most is,your cousin did her part to save the girl from any heart break,tears and pain.
Your cousin can also find another job after telling the girl about the truth,so,in that case,the girl will think about the matter.
And,also,your cousin must decide if she can move on without the guy on her life.
The guy doesn't deserve her,yes,it maybe pain and hard for your cousin,but,she must be thankful to know the real personality and behavior of his boyfriend before they've got married.
just try to make steps,for better and to save others from being fooled.
It is worth trying for...and i hope she can make it.
let's hope for the best 
@eLsMarie (4346)
• Philippines
19 Jun 10
I really hope that she does because I don't think she'll control her emotions if she'll succeed in telling the girl the truth. No matter how much I wanted her to forget her feelings for that guy, she's still longing for him much more when they've met. 
I can't believe how stupid she is... 
Seriously, I got so affected when she called to me one night and told me that she felt the guy's sincerity. It's just so awful that the other girl, surely, is already very in love with my cousin's ex. 
I can't believe how stupid she is... Seriously, I got so affected when she called to me one night and told me that she felt the guy's sincerity. It's just so awful that the other girl, surely, is already very in love with my cousin's ex. @jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
19 Jun 10
oh my,if the girl is so inlove with your cousins ex,that will make the situation harder then.
i can understand about your cousins feeling,they've been together for long years,and,it's not easy for her to let go.
But,you must try your best to open her eyes,she shouldn't be fooled again.
She deserves much better man,and not her ex.
Be patient with your cousin,she's dealing between her heart and reality
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
19 Jun 10
i believe there is a phase where i girl becomes a woman. at this point you're cousin is still acting like a girl. but what am i saying you woman mylotters know better
all am saying is that she should try use her head with her heart while thinking of what this guy is doing, or at least listen to you people. she will out grown it and that ex of hers will surely take it to the beating
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
21 Jun 10
oh... what an irony! to have met the new girlfriend of you ex(whom you love most.) i think your cousin is in a very difficult situation here... there should be honesty between your cousins friend and her. i think the problem here could only be that her friend might think there is a hidden agenda for her to have kept this a secret. since they are now friends i think your cousin can tell their past but give no further comment about their relationship. if she asks, then just be honest and that should basically what it should be.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
19 Jun 10
Hello Else Marie,
this is indeed some one else's worst decision. and this is beyond me, i may have known a few when it comes to relationships but never got this deep, and it is complicated. there adults now and they made decision for themselves.
but you know, poor girl, she had to be there just for his boyfriend and now he would start shouting and screwing around on your cousin. maybe she needs time for herself, to love thyself and at least put a stop too much on loving him.
the guy is fooling around, honestly. she needs to see it in her eyes.
