What if someone you like doesn't like you back?

broken heart - a broken heart can tell a thousand stories
June 27, 2010 4:29pm CST
This question used to apply to me a lot in the past but have now found someone who I really love and who loves me back. But have you been through rejection in your life and if so, how did you cope with it? I could write several books on my own experiences, but shan't bore anyone with them here unless they are really that interested in knowing. I can tell you however that I do know all about pain and suffering so if you ever need advice I am more than happy to answer questions.
15 responses
• India
28 Jun 10
Hi, Please don't misunderstand me. But I sincerely believe that highlighting one's pains and crises doesn't make one feel good. The best way to survive a rejection or a bitter break up is simply to replace the current object of obsession with new one. Falling in love, unlike most of us believe, is voluntary. First we are attracted to one or more features of a person. Then as we get closer we allow ourselves to start thinking about that person. Most the romantic relationships are one sided. You love your computer, but you are not sure if your computer loves you back. You may fall in love with any arbitrary person, but you can't expect this person to love you back, even if he is aware of your feelings. You love God with a mere belief that he loves you too. You love nature but it doesn't show proof that it loves you as well. So, reciprocated love is fewer in numbers. I come to know that you know all about pain and suffering. Thats very positive thing. Only the strike of pain and sadness can expose the truth. I am so glad to know that you've learned from those stormy seasons and reached some positive conclusion about everything. Truly happy men are good interpreters as well. Thanks. God bless you
• India
28 Jun 10
with you? Uhm... don't you think its bit too early to say that?
• United States
27 Jun 10
That is an interesting question and I will say this... There has never been anyone that I've liked that I've ever been rejected by. I have been rejected in other ways such as being denied for a job, etc. Even if I didn't walk up to the person that I was attracted to and tell them, they would know that I liked them just by the way I might look at them, lol. It was crazy. Telepathic-like almost. Me and my husband today still have that instant attraction. I can look at him and lock eyes with him and he'd know how I felt and may even feel the same.
27 Jun 10
That is beautiful! I've only ever fallen in love with people I've known over some time so this is why my experiences hurt me that much more, but would never have approach someone I didn't know in case they turned out to be really weird. I've had stalkers and crazy men after me, but they were also telepathic creeps I just kept my distance!
• Philippines
2 Jul 10
It did happen to me before when i was still in high school i got a crush on my best friend. I really got hurt when i see him with someone he loves. But i tried to move on with my life and act as if nothing happens. After a couple of years my bestfriend told me that he feels something for me. I really dont know what to say. But i decided to tell him too that i like him before when we were still in our high school. But i guess it is much better for both of us to remain friends.
@RONDOLAWE (776)
• Indonesia
30 Jun 10
i do try search for a new one and get over it for last one and if he or she dont wanted like you are i to come back just good way to meet some body new and this world is alot of women also man why so selfish with that
@kukueye (1761)
• Malaysia
28 Jun 10
Rejection try again don give up. - Sometime u need to analyze why rejection ? Maybe i need to improve?
well persoanlly i think is part of life being rejected.IT takes 2 to tango, and if love is not given back , then i guess forget about it and move on.SHould not cry about it too long then it become depressing. Keep on trying if continues to fail then have to analysis yourself what i been kept rejected maybe the way i talk, the way i dress, the way i live? Sometime in this questions u need good friends to help your along.
@airasheila (5459)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
Good day to you Shikiraclare, Well, your topic question can be applied to all, let say, you have a housemate wherein you want to befriend with her or him but unfortunately that housemate dont want to accept your friendship offering. Another thing, if you have a crush or somehow feel something towards a boy or a girl, and that boy or girl does not like you at all neither to be friend with you. These situation will definitely brings you pain. A pain that will really make you cry and think, what is really the matter and why those people whom you like does not want to like you.
@991188 (54)
• India
28 Jun 10
I don't mind at all. Never ! If someone rejects your 'love call', just smile at that person and tell your heart that God might have better plans for you or both of you. May be you will soon meet someone far better than this person. Don't worry, be happy !
@991188 (54)
• India
28 Jun 10
I don't mind. Never ! If one rejects you, just smile at that person and tell yourself that God might have other plans for you or both of you. May be you will soon meet far better person than this one. Don't worry, be happy !
• India
28 Jun 10
This is always very tough and sensitive situation.When we love someone that means person is very valuable and important to us.And it becomes more complicated when you come to know that person you doesn't have same value as you have for him/her.It is now upto us weather to move on leaving this or to carry on our love without much expectations.If you continue doing the later one your hard work will certainly show good, desired result in future...Best of luck.
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
This is the question that you can ask to almost everyone or every person that you know. I had this experience numerous times in my life. I cried a lot of times during this moments. when you almost felt that you were liked by someone but then again it isn't happening at all. It's just an imagination in my Head. A feeling that i want to forget, that always reminds me on how much sadness i have during a time where i showed all my feelings for someone only to be dumped. You cannot do nothing about it. All you have to do is to move on. Do things that will make you forget that someone. Even if you still remember him/her before you sleep. you have to erase every bit of memory of that person. Try to look for new things of your interest and always be happy.
@dearlene (78)
• Indonesia
28 Jun 10
I think rejection is always hurts. I myself never been rejected before in relationship because I myself don't want to feel the hurt If I rejected by someone I like. But in other case I can tend to handle the rejected.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
For me I don't take it seriously I wait for the time even if i know not to come true I take it inspiration only.
@med889 (5958)
28 Jun 10
First I would feel sad because It feels bad to see people disliking you when you like them. Then I tell myself that I am the best and I know who am I and I do not need someone to love me if they do not, I will never force them but if they do then they do, so simple.
@jennbart (1333)
• Philippines
28 Jun 10
Well yeah in a way I was rejected. He was showing signs in his actions.. and I also like him but.. then after that Iam not so sure anymore.. I think he just like to make the other feel he likes them.. FALSE HOPE. But really doesnt like me. oh well... Im thinking, Iam a bit boyish. so that may be a factor for it.. Right now Iam trying to wear dresses.. growing my nails a bit. I want to show him what he lost!
@malihat (216)
27 Jun 10
I haven't ever been rejected outright but I have had similar experiences and I just feel like you need to get some sort of closure to move on. If your friends and family know, they will obviously try to help you but you can only move on if you really want to. You may suffer from low self-esteem at first (I know I did). Eventually however, you will realise that you are a good person who deserves to be happy and that happiness must come from within, and it is when you realise this that you will be able to move on.