Do you feel possessive of what you owned?

Singapore
July 2, 2010 2:55am CST
From tangible items like stuff you owned to intangibles like friends, family, ideas, even topics that you started here in mylot. For example, if someone stole your handphone, or your ideas, what would you do? Would you go all out to defend what you think is "yours"? Or would you just let it go and just count yourself unlucky, hoping that the other person gets his just desserts? I'm the type that would just let it go, but one exception is my friends and family, I would always try to stand up for them if some wrong has been done to them.
5 responses
@sjlskl (3384)
• Singapore
2 Jul 10
It depends. Firstly, it is the price value. If it is expensive, of course I will be possessive. Second would be the item sentimental value.
• Singapore
2 Jul 10
Sometimes things with sentimental value carries more weight.
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@Joshuael (109)
• China
3 Jul 10
I donot want to feel any possessive sense.But no feelings of that doesnot mean I will lose all.I know something is always inside our spirituality and will never leave from us.I possess it forever,it is the logos.The difference is only whether I am aware of its existence or not.I should be aware of its existence by subliminal instinct at any moment,but I shouldnot deliberately think of it by logics,because the more I think of it,the less I can access it by instinct.If we expect to possess too much,we are easy to loss them also.If we let everything happen naturally without greedy desire to possess,we will own more in life.
• Singapore
5 Jul 10
Hi Joshuael, I fully agree with what you said. Holding on too tight will make us lose things faster than if we let them go. I don't have to own a thing to admire it. A flower looks nicer in the garden than in my vase.
• China
3 Jul 10
Well,I am a person who is very possessive.I am so possessive that I lost my lover the other day.I limited her a lot because I didn't want others even to see her a second.In the end,she couldn't stand me and drop me. I was very sad. I am only mean about my lover but I am very generous in other things. So I think we shouldn't do like this. I just feel too possessive of what I owned. Good luck~
• Singapore
5 Jul 10
Hi lys, I would say it's very stressful for her. I have been in a similar situation and I feel suffocated by it. I would say, if she is to be your partner in life, you must trust her. Do you want to lock her in a cage where nobody can have contact with her? That is impossible!! If you are a generous person, why not have a generous attitude towards relationships too? Not sure if you have heard of this analogy, but I'll just share it here. Love (or any kind of relationships for that matter) is like holding sand in your palms, if you lightly grasp it, it will stay in your hands, if you squeeze too hard and want to posssess it, it will slip through your fingers. Hope this is food for thought for you.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
2 Jul 10
I am guilty of feeling possessive with items i own. if you borrow something of mine, I am a mother hen of fret and worry until I get it back. I am less possessive with the people in my life. Those i will share willingly.
• Singapore
5 Jul 10
Oh my, these things must be of great value to you.... Friends, we can always share them....
@dian21 (606)
• Philippines
2 Jul 10
I am possessive with my tangible things like my pillow, cellphones. I even have my own glass at home. I got used to it since I was a kid. It seems that I should always be careful with all my things because no one will do that except me. I will really fight for my things. With my family, it depends. Of course I cannot share my husband to others, and if they attempt, that will surely be a war. With ideas or topics like for example here in mylot, that won't be a big deal for me. It is okay. I cannot accuse someone here of stealing my idea, bacause probably we just have the same wavelength or just coincidental. Anyways, anything goes here in my lot as long as we follow the guidelines.
• Singapore
2 Jul 10
Husbands are exclusive, of course we cannot share! For personal items like mugs and pillows, not sharing them is probably more of a case of hygiene.
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