Here is question if you had friends with benefits but broke up and now he wants?
By unique16
@unique16 (1531)
United States
July 6, 2010 12:10pm CST
Here is question if you had a friend with benenfits but the chemistry was not there for you and you broke up... you did the breaking up because the person said I would never date you when you did this relationship twice now... nothing came of it... you never went on dates or out because he was with someone else but kept telling once the house is up for sale then we can date... but you found someone knew and You feel really good about this new guy... he takes you places like the amish country, the beach, and walks in the parks and tell you he miss you when you are gone for a few days etc...gives you key to house and says you can snoop anywhere you want and change anything you want... where with the guy with benefits you never allowed to visit his even the first time around.... The guy with benefits seems out sorts now with me and says he will do this for me and or that... that house is up for sale and the other person has left...There is no chemistry between us... do tell the guy.. I been trying to save face with him without hurting his feeelings...guys are sentative too... I keep trying to wait till things cool down and that write a letter but every week he asking how is the relationship going and have I gone all the way.. with new guy... I feel it none his business where I am with the new guy... am I right on this?
Thanks Unique16
2 responses
@GardenGerty (157675)
• United States
6 Jul 10
I think you need to make a clean break. It is none of his business what you do with the new guy. It sounds as if it is a lovely relationship and I hope it blossoms into a permanent thing if that is what you want. The other friend is mostly using you.
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@unique16 (1531)
• United States
6 Jul 10
Hi GardenGerty,
Thank you for the comment. How are you with this weather...so very very hot outside! Yes, that what I been thinking... but I doing my best not hurt his pride or ego...etc... that what I thought... he does not need to know everything I am doing with new guy etc... I hopeing for that too. The new boyfriend did ask me to his girlfriend which the other guy never did and never plans to we had arguement over it last christmas and I touch on the Subject in february and nothing changed his attitude towards me... then I started to feel stiffeled and smothered etc.. and I feel that I knew something was not right the guy with benefits. When I told him it was over I felt relieved... I did not expect that right away I thought I would be sad etc...but I was not...
So thank you!
Are you done with census taking job? and do you have plans for a vaccation to the beach or somewhere for you and your family?
Did you get to see the 4th of July Fireworks?
I did and they were good.
Well I better go.
Always good to here from you.
Sincerely unique16
@sweetloveforeve (13106)
• Portugal
11 Jul 10
well that guy has no right to ask you bcs when you needed him and his love it seemed he always had other more important things to do than you. otherwhise this guy with whom you are right now he always cared for you he took you to places to be with you and he even gave you his house key for you to go there anytime. this guy with whom you are now he really loves you and did everything for you^^ the other one just maybe wants you back but if you love this guy with whom you are now stick to him bcs he is one of a kind guy that always cared for you. it doesnt matter if the other one is rich bcs he didnt care much for you right? :( dont care for him anymore unless you feel you still love him and he does something that really proves his love for you. if you love him sure dont be with this new guy but also dont be after the other one unless he really proves his love for you and just after break up with this new guy.
