Black Sheep: Do you really believe there is one in every family?

@redphile (2267)
Philippines
July 12, 2010 8:55pm CST
Black sheep is being the one in the family who is perceived as mischievous or doing naughty things. They say that every family has got one. In my family, I'm not sure who, but there are definitely a lot of naughtiness that happens in our family. How about you? Do you know who is the black sheep in your family? Or have you thought about that maybe it is you or your family thinks that you are the black sheep? Have you ever felt that feeling? Your thoughts please! Thanks!
11 responses
• United States
13 Jul 10
Yes, for about nine years of my life I was the black sheep of my family. I cut them off, only talked to them when I needed them and hid my dirt most of the time. There's always been more than one black sheep in our family but some of them like me come to our senses and ask for forgiveness. It's not fun being in this state and I'm so glad that trust friends and family were there to help me out of it.
@redphile (2267)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
I think the asking forgiveness part is what's important for whatever wrong doing we may have done in the past. Like what I said, we may have been a black sheep all our life, or sometime in our lives. It definitely is not fun but we learn from it right? That's what matters to me or to anyone else, or even to our loved ones. If they are family or friends, then they will forgive you. Bygones be bygones.
• United States
16 Jul 10
I agree. :^)
@redphile (2267)
• Philippines
18 Jul 10
thanks for sharing! Have a good one!
@Dezzaan (80)
• Sweden
13 Jul 10
I am/was definitly the black sheep in our family and was doing A LOT of naughty things when I was younger. But I am not sure that my family would say describe me as the "Black sheep", just their little rebell ;) But I have felt that feeling and I've felt really bad about it afterwards when I thought of what i've done.
@redphile (2267)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
if deep inside you have a good heart and clear conscience, i think its just normal to feel bad about doing something bad or naughty. Its just not normal if you didnt feel anything at all after doing a bad deed. Maybe some are just rebels and like what i said, those are usually the younger ones. They do naughty things when they were young however it will be a lesson learned when they grow up.
• Sweden
17 Jul 10
Absolutely, you need to make some mistakes in order to learn some :) As long as you learn from your mistakes it's nothing to worry about
@redphile (2267)
• Philippines
18 Jul 10
we need to have every human experience possible to learn and be stronger in future struggles.
@webzap (885)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
I don't know, but 'black sheep' is just a saying, in my opinion. Having a black sheep in the family perhaps develop due to some reasons. Might be due to the kids in the block that your kids play with that implies waywardness. Proper cultivation of our son's or daughter's character and instilling good things in their mind might help our family be black-sheep-free.
@redphile (2267)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
Black-sheep-free family. I like that concept but yes I agree that it maybe because a kid hangs out with the wrong kind of people. Or people that has bad influence to them. We should learn that as early as a baby or infant, we should be instilling or teaching good things to our kids.
@webzap (885)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
Yes sure, good guidance of our kids of course starts with the parents and this would surely make them grow up a responsible person.
@redphile (2267)
• Philippines
18 Jul 10
thats right. I believe that the biggest or the earliest influence we have is our parents. Whatever the child learns at home, he or she brings it outside, school, work, wherever.
@clocks123 (1230)
• United States
13 Jul 10
i don't believe there is a black sheep in the family. we all do wrong things in our lives so we can't point our finger at someone else. we all make mistakes and our families might not like what we have done or agree with --so they label black sheep. please no labels
@redphile (2267)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
Well it is just a saying or expression, I believe it is also part of the idioms list when I was in school. I agree that we all do wrong things in our lives and the important thing is we learn from it.
@katiesueg (259)
• Italy
13 Jul 10
If your family is big enough, and if you consider unkles, cousins, etc. there is almost bound to be at least one black sheep. If you consider the rebellious people in your family as black sheep, they are not necessarily bad, they may just be unwilling to conform to what the family considers appropriate conduct. Curiously is my family, I have found some of the black sheep (black sheep meaning rebellious and non conformist) to have turned out later in life as the kindest and best hearted people. I think of a cousin of mine, Fiona, who as a girl loved to give wild parties whenever her parents were away and scandalised the family with her short skirts and defiant attitude. Now she is a model mother and grandmother and also is the chief responsible for taking care of a handicapped brother. You could not find a better person in the world. So hats off to black sheep.
@redphile (2267)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
hats off to black sheeps huh? =) well, people make mistakeas and learn from them so I wouldn't really say that black sheep should be thrown into jail or be crucified for doing something wrong. I think everyone in anyway has done a lot wrong and has learned from it. A person is not a totally bad person all throughout her or his life. Eventually he or she will learn and will just laugh about the past and will definitely teach their children's children not to do it. Or to do it in another way.
@wolflvr (336)
• United States
13 Jul 10
I know my family has a few black sheep. I guess the bigger the family the more blacks sheep. I never thought about myself as the blacks sheep and don't think that other family members think I am the black sheep of the family. In fact everyone wonders how I ended up so normal considering how the rest of the family is. Maybe I am the black sheep because I am the only normal person hmmm......
@redphile (2267)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
so you think its the other way around huh? Thats a different kind of way of looking at it. Maybe being a black sheep is not just the most mischievous in the family. Maybe he or she is the one who differs from the rest of the family, not necesarily the bad one.
• United States
13 Jul 10
i think you got a black sheep in ever famliy there is know famly perfect of self stars that are living fesh ever day make millions you know like my famliy there is too many black sheep that do weird things to get bye you know but hell who knows with this world today but i tell you that the loser it is like of scubbs people out there and they mess up bad some i say out of 100 america theres is a less one bad apple in the bunch you know so dont give up on them just sit back and let lfe take its course so you take care and that was good question
@redphile (2267)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
i also believe that too. M0re money, more problems. Celebrities tend to behave badly well most of them, according to news. But still, time will come that that black sheep will turn out to be a good shepherd one day. You will be surprised how a person can change from a beast to an angel. We just have to give them a chance to improve.
@jennyze (7052)
• Indonesia
13 Jul 10
Yes, I believe that, except when the family has only one child, who will be the black sheep then? I saw there is always one in the family who is not doing like he/she supposed t do, like her/his other siblings. Some turned out okay, some turned out very bad. Being the only daughter in the family, I don't have any competitor. But one of my brother is the black sheep in the family, and he turned out to be very very bad. Ahhh
@redphile (2267)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
well, it can be a cousin or another cousin or maybe none at all. I think being a black sheep of the family is just at one point in a person's life. Its not all his life that a person is bad or wrong at all times. There will come a point in time that that person will improve and will become a better person.
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
Some would say that there will always be one thats considered as the black sheep in the family. I used to think that It was me but when my brother came. I think it was him. haha. He did a lot of naughty things I wouldnt do in my life. I was too scared of my Pop. He wasnt scared of anything. So, probably it would be him and now he's trying his best to change and fix his life. He's still young. He has a lot of growing up to do.
@redphile (2267)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
Being scared is not bad at least we learn that we should not do this or that or whatever our parents have taught us not to do. LOL on your brother. I felt that I was a black sheep before, but that was when I was still very young. But now that I am able to help out my family in life and I know that I have done good deeds in my life, I just erased the idea that I am a black sheep. When a person is young, they explore, let them be but we should still guide them. They will eventually learn right from wrong.
@Genericbe (1379)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
I guess it depends more on a personal thought when believed to have black sheep in a family. They common uses this term in a person who have made opposite doings among them. a person who they think never had contributed good actions on them. Meaning, they considered his as black sheep because he is totally different from the rest. I agree that in family. they cannot expect to have children to be exactly the same qualities as the parents.And for some, who do not wanted the actions of their children, opposing the parental wants, they considered someone as black sheep at all, instead, they pull up the person to help him realize his mistakes, they will just accept the fact he is a black sheep and have no more plans to let the person change, but, let the other people known he is of that kind in them. I have no feeling of such in my family. But, in my other friends whom said to be considered as that kind? I do not let them accept to be one. I help them realize and improve themselves more. Let them take off the bitterness they felt inside and always ready to listen as a friend who can understand and for which I realized that he is not a black sheep at all. It is just he is misunderstood by other people because he was not granted by enough time for him to prove that he is not a black sheep at all. IT was he was judged based on what others feel and thereby had neglected also his feelings at all and chances to change for the better. Happy mylotting
@redphile (2267)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
We may have our own black sheep feeling once in our lives but then it does not stay as long as we have grown and learned the right from the wrong. We should all learn to live that there are good and bad people in the world and we cannot do anything about it. We can try to change the people around us that have been led to the wrong path. Being different is not bad as long as a person still practices his or her morals in life. Living free but free from bad habits or influences. It is inevitable but we can certainly do something about it.
@dian21 (606)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
I think that my family thinks that I am the blacksheep. But of course I would like to deny it. Because I always answer back to my parents when I know I am on the right stand. I always say what I feel and what my opinion is. For me there is nothing wrong with that. Those things make them think that among the three siblings in the family, I am the black sheep. However I don't believe I am,because I don't do naugthy things or just fool around. I just always express what I want, so I am not really bothered with what they think about me.
@redphile (2267)
• Philippines
15 Jul 10
We can always answer back anyone as long as we are on the right side. But as for parents we should still respect them and not raise our voices to them because we are just their children and we don't have nay right to do that to them. Whatever or whoever they maybe. Without them, we are not here. But hey , why do you think you are the black sheep? I believe so too that there's nothing wrong in saying what you feel but you should still be careful what if the one you are speaking to was hurt and fights back without you knowing it? We should know where we stand and speak our mind intelligently.