What you do when your dear one broke up your love with her/him?

India
July 13, 2010 2:21am CST
I was initially had a friendship relation with a girl later on it blossoms it as love and I proposed her. Initially she didn't rejected it and was bit shy to accept the same. Our life went good for a while with happy moments. Suddenly there was some family problem in her house and because of that she started avoiding me gradulally. I asked what is the problem to her and she had replied that her parents wont accept this love as her brother also got opposition for love from her parents and had a big quarrel with them. So she dont want to have the same and want to be quiet safe. I tried convincing her a lot, but she didn't take it that. I really still love her very much and i cant avoid talking to her, but she hardly avoids me nowadays. It hurts me so much as well. What you do when she/he accepts your love in the begining and suddenly she/he tries to break up your love due to some personal problems eventhough you convince her/he a lot. You would like to continue talking to her/him?
10 responses
• United Arab Emirates
13 Jul 10
it will definately hurt me..but if i truely love her i will be able to understand her and wait till the situation is under control. I will wait for her all my life and if she comes back thenn i will be the happiest person in the world.
@abin1287 (114)
• India
13 Jul 10
I agree .. You should support her, and not depress her more. When she feels things are under control,then she will come back to you. So,as of now, you just be with her..if not physically but at least emotionally support her..and tell her that you respect her decisions. And pray to God,also. And i am sure..if your love is true, she will come back to you..best of luck..!!
• India
13 Jul 10
Yeah you are right, if she had come to me after she realize it that this problem wont exists long and can convince her parents. I can wait for her my whole life, but what if she gets married with the other guy, its totally will mess up in our life.. And dont know whether we could continue our good friendship atleast.
@rose0822 (123)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
your going to wait for her for your whole life? what if your waiting for nothing? if you'd tried already to fight for her and then shes not that willing to fight for you either i think you should stop it. give her time to realize your worth. for sure if she realize it she will come back to you. if don't then move on..
@smartjack (521)
• India
14 Jul 10
My friend i think probably she doesn't love you as much you do otherwise she would have not rejected your love. My friend don't feel bad for what i am telling you but for me this seems the fact. She must have accepted your love only to keep you happy. May be she didn't wanna lose a friend like you. She also doesn't wanna make her parents mad at her for her love relations with her. She must be valuing her parents more than you that's why she doesn't wanna make them upset. So it is better that you start forgetting her my friend. i know it is not easy. Keep your self busy with work or studies. make your mind occupied. You will be able to move on. Don't force her. Let her make her own decision. Let her be happy with what she decides.
• India
14 Jul 10
Hmm.. Thanks my friend, thanks a lot for your advice.. I'm not going to force her anyways, but i cant avoid continuing my friendship with her.. Let her come back when she realize it, i hope she will come back for sure if she really loves me, till then i will concentrate on my work to develop my career.. :)
• United States
13 Jul 10
I'm really sorry to hear this mate. Here are my thoughts. Generally, I find myself quite slow in letting go and moving on. That doesn't mean I spend my time trash talking the person though. In this context, I would give a certain span of time for the person to change his mind. Perhaps 3 to 6 months or so. If there isn't any change, then I would try to live my life the way it was before we became a couple. We can still be friends once she is ready, but perhaps some space would do us well for the time being.
@jesgil (95)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
i would really really feel so hurt. her reason is not enough to break up with you. i think there is more to what is really the reason why she have to broke up with you.
• Anguilla
13 Jul 10
It really hurts, but all depends upon the individual. If u really like her u can continue with her. no matter if she like u or not.
• United States
13 Jul 10
may she fells that she sared to go in public when yall are the gahter you know the she fell that way at first probly not right so go to think maybe she is scared you never know maybe she is thinkg about her famly the yall tell your folks or her the you let them know i know at none of my busness but may you should give it some time like try to relax a little bit try not to think about it so hard you never none may she need time to see where her heartis go to be she might come back you never know just prayed on it you will see you know but you take care and talk to you next time
• Portugal
13 Jul 10
jjstare i dont think she loves you im sorry to say this :( if she loved you she would talk with her parents and tell them how much she loves you or would ask you to go talk with her parents. but give up so easily? she wouldnt if she really loved you also she wouldnt avoid you like this. also why just after a long time her parents didnt accept your love? she didnt tell them she was your gf in the beginning? you should talk with her one last time and tell her that you really love her but if she still avoids you just let her bcs if she really loved you she would fight for you and not give up just like this and hurt you like this :(
@miaka05 (17)
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
It's true that if your dear one broke up with you, it is hard to accept especially if that is the reason. I know you would want to talk to her. But how if she is avoiding you? Maybe for now, just try to be patient and wait for the right time. If you are really for each other, then you would really end up with each other. Just do what you want without her and just be contented with that. Maybe, if time comes he or she will be the one to approach you first. Just don't assume and easily jump to conclusions because it takes time. ^^
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
13 Jul 10
Hi, Sad to hear about this incident happened to you. Be strong !! If I were you, I will ask her out and talk openly between each other. Since you guys have been together for cetain period of time, Nothing to be hide. Speak out the main problem and try to get the solution to it. By avoiding you is not the solution to it. Try to find the best time to visit or give her a call. If she really love you, she sure will give you an explanation and will try to get the solution out together. To have a strong relationship, a trust is very important.Without a trust,there is no need to carry on that relationship. Takecare !!
• Philippines
13 Jul 10
I will just accept whatever his decision is, I mean you cannot force someone to love you if she's not in love with you anymore. Try to move on and meet other friends, socialize to find someone new to love