I turned down a good job offer. Was it a good decision?
By annwishes
@annwishes (54)
Malaysia
July 13, 2010 7:54pm CST
I quit teaching at school 2 months ago as I want to focus on writing a.k.a be a full time writer and at the same time monitor my kids who are 8 and 11 years old. Normally, when I go to work my kids will be at the daycare. And my husband's job require him to move from place to place and from time to time.
To settle the problem of shifting from one place to another, changing day care from one another and not to mention the kids' schools, my husband and I have decided that I should quit working. So for the past 2 months I stay at home, do some writing and trying to earn some income from the internet. About two weeks ago, a friend offered me a post as a lecturer in a university about 10km from home. I was excited at first as I would be getting fixed income again. I was called for an interview yesterday.
AND GUESS WHAT??? I DID NOT GO FOR THE INTERVIEW....
After being a work@home mum and SOHO, I do not want to be doing 9-5 again. I do not want to drive through the massive traffic jam to work, leaving for work early to beat the traffic, coming home late in the evening and stress at work. Now even though I don't earn much, at least not yet with this online income as I have just started, I am happy. The only thing that is bothering me is was it a good decision to turn down a good job offer?? Help me out friends.
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13 responses
@angel_21 (6)
• Philippines
14 Jul 10
I totally understand how you feel cause I myself is a work at home mom. I'm not earning much and I don't have a stable salary. I have a 2 year old and a 3year old daughter and guess what? I use to teach too before I gave birth to my eldest daughter and quit working fulltime. As for your question, I think you made the rigth decision. I mean, you still try to earn money to help with the household expenses while at the same time you're fullfilling your role as a mother to your kids. It's tough being a mom, sometimes we have to sacrifice our dreams for the sake of our family. There'd be more oppurtinity for you in the future, but right now your kids need you. Hope this helps. :-)
@moonchild1au (6240)
• Australia
14 Jul 10
Congrats for doing what you think is right...as for wanting to know if you have done the right thing, if you calculate the cost of putting your children into after school care against how much money you bring home, if there isn't much left or it becomes equal, it means you have done the right thing because it's not worth going back to work if you're not making much money after paying for after school care for the children. I hope this helps you.
@annwishes (54)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 10
Thanks to all who have given responses. i appreciate it so much.
@babyEj (1522)
• Philippines
14 Jul 10
Oh! I hope you got a good reason why you turned down the job..., "my first reaction". Well if you think you don't have much to worry about money then it'll be okay since being at home means you are going to be a full time mom for your children and a wife to your husband. I do really understand the feeling because I am also stuck at home after I gave birth to my son then it made me feel down , i don't feel going out. But now I am working again...it needs a matter of time.
@annwishes (54)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 10
stefanisaiah, edohusnull and babyEJ. We do have goals and aims in our lives. I do have my very own reasons for turning down the offer. Thanks for your piece of mind, I do appreciate it. Thanks. Have a great day.
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
14 Jul 10
I think you made a good decision. Your main reason for quitting job in the first place was because you wanted to take care of your kids. For them to go from one day care to another is not a good environment to grow up.
In term of money, since you work from home, your expenses would be less than before, I guess. And you can start being a full time writer, which you enjoy.
I turned down a good job which offered me twice as much as I got in my current company. Guess what? The company closed down after only one year operation.
@aliki123 (122)
• Greece
14 Jul 10
I think your desicion is good since you choose what you really wanted ,there is no point rethinking after all you seem very confident that you will achieve to earn some income online.I agree with you that the job sounds good and more secure but still if you choose this ,then it is better for you and for your children since you will have more free time for them.
@Muteki (114)
• Japan
14 Jul 10
I'm not sure about the situation in Malaysia, but in the UK teachers are in demand so turning down a teaching job, to concentrate on the family is not a bad decision at all. If your situation changes in the future, I guess (in the UK anyway) there are various other opportunities.
Missing good offers always seems like a massive loss but it can turn out to be the best thing, especially when a job could inconvenience your family and cause stress.
@annwishes (54)
• Malaysia
14 Jul 10
Yes Jothimani and Muteki, both of you are right. In my case, the kids and family needs should be my first priority. And I've to work very hard to earn some online income as it is not easy at it looks. Thanks again. I feel much better now.
@Mitraa (3184)
• India
14 Jul 10
In my view Ann... You have done a great decision! You know the pleasures of free working and go worldwide from home now! Hope, your efforts must reward you with real financial freedom! Work with pleasure and excitement and the world will be yours!
Thanks and have a good day!
@edohusnull (195)
• Indonesia
14 Jul 10
Hi :)
First let we analyze what "good decision" is...
Good decision is an act to take the final choice when we thought the choice was the best ones due to or related with circumstances at the time.
Based on that, so you can fit in to your case, so there is no bad or good decision for your case, you do what you have to do.
People said the chances is only once in a life time, I agree with this but just for several things, i.e. the chance to die, is only once in a life time :)
But job offers is hundred time of chances.
I'm not saying your decision is good or not good, I just only say that your decision was affected by circumstances. That's natural...
Happy nice good day :)
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
14 Jul 10
If i was you i would have gone for the interview. I dont say thay you didnt do the right thing, you have done the right thing as per your situation. But by attending the interview you would have learnt something that you could pass on to your kids. You would have come up with some new ideas. We always need to take chances you never know it could have been a boon in disguise for something great in your life.
@jothimani (184)
• India
14 Jul 10
Don't worry about your decision. you made a good decision in my opinion. job or money whenever we want we can make it.i mean takeover it. in our life health and kids are important thing. This decision is really really helpful to your family. ya i'm sure you can make enough money from online. so enjoy life..
@stefanisaiah (167)
• Philippines
14 Jul 10
Do you feel any regreats turning down the good offer? If no, then you make a right decision. In my own opinion, you did the right decision. For me I prefer taking care of my kids than doing hard work for money. After all your husband income can bring food to your table, right? So this is not bad.
@stacycycy (1)
• China
14 Jul 10
dear, i totally support this decision. In my mind, job is only a part of life not whole. If job give us boring or make us upset, quit it!
