will you keep contact with your ex ?

China
July 16, 2010 7:35am CST
my friends told me not to keep contact with my ex girlfriend when we broke up.be lovers,or be strangers.they called this the primary principle in love.but i cannot make it.she went to another city alone and called me sometimes when she had something unhappy.and i also made call to her for several times.we talked freely and even be more intimate than we were together.but we all know we can never be lovers again.maybe we come to the word just to be good friends.now she made new boyfriend and encourage me to date other girls.actually,i'm looking for my Ms Right.i wish happy days for us all.
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20 responses
@ip5217 (1656)
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
I think your partner is selfish. He/she wanted you company when sadness visits. Now that he/she is in a relationship you are now left alone. I suggest next time if you want to break up with someone, you need to move on.
• China
18 Jul 10
yes,I think so.
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
definitely i would not keep any contact with my ex. It would only useless to keep a contact with my ex because at the very first place the reason we broke up is a USELESS relationship.=)
• China
17 Jul 10
I am sorry that I don't agree with your views.Maybe being friends is a better choice for you both.You know,friends is more tolerative with each other.There is no consuming desire of possession in relationship like that.
@lixiaoyan (179)
• China
16 Jul 10
From your words ,I know that you are a absolute gentleman.I have no ex boyfriend,my Mr Right is my first boyfriend,we keep going together from the very begining.As my opinion,if you are still concerned about her,and have not felt any unplease in contacting with her ,just go aheah and do what you want to do .Besides,as you have said that you are impossibable to be together again and she also already get a new boy ,you are ought to put more attention on yourself and to find your love. Good luck gentleman.
• China
18 Jul 10
Thank you for your admiration.
@abhi000 (235)
• India
29 Jul 10
Ya it is good for keep in contact, their is no harm talking through in phone,but you have to know the limit if you cross your limit then it is not good she may cross you once gone mean forever go no you have to think like that.
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
Well, if you both are happy, then I don't see any reason why you shouldn't keep in contact with each other. Unless your future lovers would not be happy with you having contact with your ex. I mean, there are those who really doesn't want you to keep in contact with ex just because of jealousy..
• China
18 Jul 10
Many people all over the world is talking about this discussion now. For my opinion,there is no pure relationship between ex bf and gf. So I contact with my ex by msn at most,try my best avoid meeting face to face.
• China
17 Jul 10
Why not? I want to remind me of the memory pleasantly .If my ex-boyfriend didn't cheat me or did something I can't tolerate then(maybe needn't do like that surely,we should be more magnanimous and time is the best remedy to all the scars,right?), I would keep contact with him from time to time.I want to be a considerate and magnanimous women.And I believe that more friends bring more happiness in my mind.If a couple won't be lovers each other,I think they will deal with each other better when the strong desire of possession between lovers disappears.
@med889 (5958)
17 Jul 10
When I broke up with my ex then we were talking after that too, we became friends and it was easier for both of us to maintain a healthy relationship but lately, he has adopted a different attitude, he is more jealous of what I do not with my boyfriend but with my career, he is a law student too and every time he would tell me that I am not too good in the field and this irritates me, he had had many girlfriends after me and he broke up with all of them, and when I left him, after some one year I found the man of my life with whom I am sharing a relationship for five years and we are even getting engaged this year, so my ex think that I am getting more successful than him and I think this is what makes him angry and looks stupid. Now I prefer to do not keep contact at all with him.
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
I agree with what your friends told you about not keeping in touch with your girlfriend after a break up. It is part of the moving on process not to get in touch with an ex. If you two communicate even after the break up, then the tendency is it will you both holding on with the relationship. It is not a rule, but proper to stop communicating with an ex and let time heal all the wounds.
• Philippines
17 Jul 10
that is so so hard to resist most specially if you had a good connection, theres the hot fire in between you..haahahaha.... a static electricity that comes out, when you here her voice or his voice,,,,its so hard to resist temptation
@lingli_78 (12845)
• Australia
17 Jul 10
i can feel from your post that you still love your ex... it is hard to maintain a pure friendship relationship with an ex... that's for sure... especially now that she already had a new bf... i think you should give her up and start looking for your Ms Right to spend the rest of your life with... good luck... take care and have a nice day...
@zach123 (23)
• United States
17 Jul 10
of course i'll keep in contact with my ex i'll be friends with her for life if we become exes
• United States
17 Jul 10
I know this works for some people, but I have to say I can't do it. I believe when a person becomes an ex they are ex-out, but that is in my opinion. Obviously it has hurt you to have continue a friendship relationship with her so I would say venture out and meet new people and well if somewhere in the future you run into to your ex just wish her well. Good luck to you!
• United States
16 Jul 10
Yup y not if she feel conferrable i i wont mind if she wants to be frind with me i ll treat her like shez my friend onli as not like we have broke up so no relationship..
@chayne12 (13)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
you really love that woman still. she already has a boyfriend so you better move on. you will forget her sooner or later. that's life. in love you can be happy or you can be sad. its okey. you can be good friends but for me, i think she has move on already so its time that you do so. as much as possible avoid her inorder for you to forget her easily.
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
It's a thing that you and your ex are still friends despite of the break up. I love the idea that you both are still open to each other. The intimacy that you have is controllable so that's pretty okay.
@Metatronik (5911)
• Pasay, Philippines
16 Jul 10
If I am on your shoes then probably I will try my best not to contact an ex lover because what is the sense of breaking up if we are still close to each other to the extent that we are still acting like we are in relationship? As much as possible I will treat my lover as stranger so as part of respect and moving on can be peacefully happen.
@nicholaYa (121)
16 Jul 10
well.for my personally. i think i would not like contact with my ex.i dont like it. so i will not do it.
@kalinka1 (73)
• Belgium
16 Jul 10
I think that the most imported thing is how you both feel, if you want to stay friends and stay in contact, then why shouldn't you. I even have friends of mine who have broken up and they are still really great friends. In the beginning it might be a little strange, but if you both want to stay in contact and you both feel good about that, then my advise is go for it and stay friends.
@incus99 (1086)
• Philippines
16 Jul 10
Why not.. I do believe that ex lovers should be friends someday..