he always say 'i love you" ...but isn't it just an expression?

@amrddy (215)
Philippines
July 18, 2010 2:13am CST
My friends husband always says the "I love you" thing to his wife but I don't think he knows the meaning of the word. If he really loves his wife he cannot afford to do and say things that will hurt his wife or his family. It even came to a point that they had a showdown and would part with each other. In fact my friend was already willing to let go but the husband after a few days changed his mind and started wooing the wife and does not want to go. Don't you thing this guy is unstable? HELP...
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14 responses
• United States
18 Jul 10
It makes the girl feel better and has a great effect on there marrige. If soemone jsut stoped saying that term then the relationship will have less love in it. :D
• United States
18 Jul 10
Wow you are right myself hehe
• United States
18 Jul 10
It is true that saying "I love you" can make a person feel good but people say those words all the time without meaning it. Telling someone "I love you" but treating them like dirt is not good on a relationship.
@dawnald (84131)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Jul 10
He's probably like my husband - it's more separation anxiety and fear of abandonment than love.
• Portugal
20 Jul 10
aww im sorry for it. he says he loves your friend and then he hurts her? thats veryy bad :( sorry for it. anyway i dont know but your friend should talk with him and ask him why he is so sweet in a moment and suddenly starts to say bad things to her. she needs to talk with him and say im not liking your attitude. what is happening with you and she has to say what she feels.
@Shinyqiu (119)
• China
19 Jul 10
Hi,I think the three words "I love you" is very romantic and holy way to express one person emotion to his lover.As your mentioned i don't think you friend husband undstand the really sense for this three words and he don't love his wife.As for me,if you love someboday deeply,want to get together with him in the entirely lifetime,You maybe burden weight of "i love you".Pls remember,don't lie for you lover all the time.My former bf has said it when we fall in love warmly every day,i believe it ,andy sweetly in heart.But now i finally found that he radically don't understand this three words.I have injured when we say byebye to each other.So never easilly to say it but in heart.
@akopoaysi (740)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
hi amrddy! i may have a question for you.. are you married?? if yes, you may understand your friend.. if not, that's is why you do not.. i am not a councilor or a therapist.. but i am married.. if you are in a marriage.. saying "i love you" to your partner even if it is out of a habit. it is still a good thing and it doesnt mean he didnt mean it.. if they have marital problems even it is so big or so small, if they want or even one wants to reconcile and make their marriage work.. then it is a good thing.. because maybe they still "love" one another.. i know "love" is not enough but it is a start.. i know many will argue with me that "love is not enough".. but for me it is not.. because "love" doesnt pay the bills, put food on the table and more.. marriage for me is... loving your partner in sickness and in health, for better or for worse, for richer and for poorer, a compromise is must because every person is different from one another even if they are compatible to each other, admitting he/she is wrong is a good thing too, and accepting for whatever he/she is a must.. because you will be with him/her for the rest of your life.. and that is marriage.. maybe just for me.. :)
• Philippines
19 Jul 10
I think all relationships get through rough stages. And we shouldn't judge him yet especially if we don't know their whole story. My husband and I fight often, even came to the point where we really separated for a few months. But now, we're back together and we still fight sometimes, but we made it a point to try and resolve it because we know that we love each other and we don't want to lose our relationship. People get angry all the time, at a lot of things and it sometimes affects relationships we have. I think the key there would be to try and resolve what problems they're having. And if that doesn't work, then they should just break-up.
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
19 Jul 10
Hi, The three words "I LOVE YOU" is easy to say out,but the meaning of it is not that simple. By loving someone,it means you will be taking care of him/her with your true heart. Always at his/her side when he/she need you.Share happiness and sadness together. Feel sad to read about this incident happened to your friend. I guess your friend's husband does not know the meaning of LOVE,as he hurt his wife feeling. They need to have a nice talk face to face to get the problem clarify.Or else their relationship will not work well.
18 Jul 10
This is really hurts if I were the persons involved. why he has done things like that knowing he can hurt her in anyway.This person really not unstable.he doesn't know what he really likes in his life perhaps that everyone around him keeping them hanging on and to hold still for some reasons that we really don't know what it is behind his mind.
@cupkitties (7038)
• United States
18 Jul 10
Yes he is unstable. He sounds like someone who wants to have control over somebody and he sees that he's losing that. Unfortunately most people listen to the words instead of using their eyes to see the real truth right in front of them. Hopefully your friend can see it.
• China
18 Jul 10
I think this guy do not really love his wife . He can not look after his wife , although he always said "I love you ". He donot deserve her . He just cheat her emotions . That is my opinion.
@Skade24 (750)
• Romania
18 Jul 10
Th womans need to here it more often. And maybe he wants to make her feel better, but we(womans) all know that, men don`t always mean, when they say "i love you", sometimes i feel like it`s not from their heart, sometimes they say it just from habit.
• Philippines
18 Jul 10
Sometimes, saying i love you is not enough, specially when you're already married. Loving comes with the effort that we exert in order to make the relationship work out, to make it last for a lifetime, amidst the challenges and the differences. So i don't think that guy really means the words he said to his wife if he cannot prove it and if he cannot stop hurting her.
• Philippines
18 Jul 10
I love you maybe the sweetest thing our ears could ever heard but if its not sincere then i rather choose not to hear that word after all. That happened to me once when my former bf used to sya that a number of time to me, in fact we even became a couple because i replied back with i love u too after he texted me that statement, but at the end of the day i found out that he is just fond of doing that, sending to a lot of girls. Its so hard to accept what happened but moving on i have learned mine, so i suggest u better be extra careful and see for yourself if he is really sincere on what he's talking.
@floris (26)
• China
18 Jul 10
this kind of person always chop and change . it reflect that person takes no heart to your friend