Do You have a Nanny for your Child? Why or Why Not
By Angelgirl16
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
United States
July 19, 2010 12:00pm CST
Hi,
My neighbors are working professionals, one a doctor and the other is a dentist. It seems that they have great working hours. Usually, they are leaving for work at the same time that I am leaving (:30 am) and have returned before I get home at 3:00 pm.
They have two small children, and they have a nanny/housekeeper everyday except
sundays. The nanny arrives very early in the morning and leaves very late evenings. She is also there when the family goes on vacation.
I often wonder if she is happy with her job or if she is in a situation where she has not other choice. She doesn't speak enlish, I know because I got some of their mail and I took it over and tried to explain that I had been going for the summer and my mail was on hold and so was the doctor's because of a post office error, but she didn't understand me.
I really don't know if she is the nanny or the housekeeper. Grandparents are usually there to take the children in the morning and the parents are back home when the children are at home.
Do you have a nanny to help care for your children because your life is so demanding or you just need your space?
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4 responses
@lilangelspreschool (1129)
• United States
19 Jul 10
This is just my opinion but I had children because I wanted them. I wanted to spend every possible moment with them that I could. I think it's great to make a good living for your children but more than that I think the children need their parents more than all of the money in the world.
I think it's unfair to have children to just leave them with someone else all the time. There are people out there that cannot have children and want them more than anything in the world so, if all your going to do is leave them with someone else maybe you should have thought twice about having them in the first place, you know?
It makes me sad for the children involved and I'm sure their confused by it as well.
Just my opinion of course =)
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
20 Jul 10
Hi,
Thank your for your response. I am not the one with the children and the nanny. It is my neighbors who are both professionals and from what I can see, are excellent parents. They are at home even when the nanny is there. So, it seems that they don't leave their children with the nanny to go partying or jetsetting off to some lovely vacations without their children.
I raised one wonderful healthy child. We read together, we went to church together, we ate dinner every evening, we had dates on a special night of the week where we would go to the early evening movies and then go for pizza or a burger. My child never knew that we were poor. That statement came after they were grown and gone.
I think , even people with lots of children can do a good job of raising them if there is a lot of love and caring. Parenting is a hard job for anyone. I know people who has only one and are lousy parents.
@lilangelspreschool (1129)
• United States
29 Jul 10
Learn2earn- I absolutely practice this. I love my children and I don't like being away from them at all.
Angelgirl16- I know it wasn't you, I was talking about the neighbors, sorry if I said it wrong. Oh, I didn't realize their at home when the nanny is there, I don't get the point of that. I was talking about people that leave their children all day and night long with a nanny so they don't have to worry about the hard times in parenting they just have the good times. I have seen many people do this and I think it's terrible. I'm sure we have all seen this a time or two. I absolutely think some people should be parents and some should not, bottom line. I have 3 kids and I do the best I can with raising my kids. My sister on the other hand, when she only had 1 did not spend most of her time with her child but she spent her time trying to pawn her off to everyone else...
That's more what I was saying. Hope I didn't offend you! 
@babshish (1387)
• India
20 Jul 10
Hi Angelgirl16,well I am not in favour of keeping nanny for chiildren atleast below age of 7-8 years, as this is the time when child needs more attention of parents rather than anyone else. Yes I can understand that there are situations when both parents need to work for living but should try to avoid as much as possible. Like in my case both myself and my wife are professional, I am software engineer and she is chartered accountant and was doing a good job, but when we had a baby she left the job just for the sake of our kid and from past two years she is dedicated completely with the kid. Now she has started doing some part time job when our kid goes to playgroup so she can brushup her knowledge. The age between 1-5 is the time when your kid grasp things very quickly and learns thing and this is the time when they need more attention from parents. So particularly I am against keeping nanny for kids.
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
20 Jul 10
Hi babshish,
What a wonderful committment you and your wife has made for the sake of your child. You both had great careers and when your bundle of joy can along, all bets were off. That baby took top priority. Wonderful! And I lucky is that sweet baby.
I agree with the age of needed attenion from parents. I used to own and operate a daycare. You can't imagine the disappointment the parents had when they missed their baby's first something or other. First step, word or just simply crawling..
It's a shame that we have given all those treaured moments up for the love or necessity of money.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
20 Jul 10
Well I could not afford a nanny or a housekeeper but I would not want a nanny for my daughter because I treasure every moment I have with her and I could not bear the thought of her spending so much time with someone else. I am fortunate to be able to work from home and I do appreciate that is not possible for all mothers. My sister takes her daughter to a day care centre because she works every day; for her it is much cheaper than hiring a nanny and it is better for the child to have time with other children. Personally I would not want a nanny but a housekeeper I would not say no to!
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
20 Jul 10
Hi paula,
I totally understand the finance of having a nanny or a housekeeper. We aren't all as financially able, like my neighbors, to afford one. I didn't have or couldn't afford one eiter. And in the neighborhood where I lived at the time I was the mother of a youngster, no one had a nanny or housekeeper. Daycare can be expensive too, I know I used to own one. But, boy did I love those kids. I always thought I should have had more, so they made up for the missing children. Now I work with elementary students from kinders to 5th graders. I love my job and I am lucky.
Being a stay at home mom is a great way to spend quality time with your children. fortunately now there are great job opportunities that women can do at home an make a decent income.
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@mariarizza (4)
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
Hello, I'm a working mom and I have a nanny to look after my child when I'm at work. I'm not very lucky to have a "work-at-home" job so I have to spend my working hours at the office. As much as I wanted to spend every minute with my child, I couldn't because I have to work to earn money in order to feed my child. Seriously, I searched the internet for a long time for any "work-at-home" jobs I can apply to but all I got were scammers. Lucky are the women who are married to husbands with huge monthly income, this gives them the opportunity to stay at home and care for their children. In our country, if we don't work, life is very hard. Anyway, my child is not entirely alone with the nanny at home, my grandmother and my aunt is staying at home too so they can look after my child and the nanny as well. Leaving my child with a nanny doesn't mean I don't care for him, he means the whole world to me.
@Angelgirl16 (2171)
• United States
20 Jul 10
Hi,
I applaud you for your committment to your son. I know that it is difficult to have to make a decision as to whether to go to work or stay home with your child and starve. The answer is a no brainer, You must work. You are lucky to have your grandmother and aunt there to watch out if there is trouble with the nanny. Your child is not mistreated because he has a nanny. In fact, I think he is very blessed to have a mother who looks out for his well-being.
