how to avoid friend?

India
July 20, 2010 11:21am CST
tell me is there any good idea to avoid friend who is asking money from us, without hurting him/her and without making any mess to the friendship?... have you came across any such interesting incident of avoiding the friend being asking money from you?
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12 responses
• India
24 Jul 10
For me it is very difficult to avoid friend because they even helped as when it is necessary.For the timing better to tall them I will try from others.
@darylT (85)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
just avoid answering his text messages or calls. maybe, you'll get the message across. if he still doesn't get it and you accidentally see each other, just tell him frankly but gently that you can't lend him any more money 'cuz he hasn't paid you yet the last time he borrowed from you.it happened to me and that's exactly what i did. it embarrased him of course.
@bkrm_gupt (220)
• India
24 Jul 10
Oh!i am unknown to this situation but i think it is hard to avoid our friend,it's better to say that u don't have just now.I will try from others.
@krnavtr (285)
• India
24 Jul 10
Better you say you don't have but you shouldn't avoid him or her but instead continue the same relationship of what you had before.Hope by saying you don't have will not hurt your friend isn't it?Till date i didn't came across for such an incident.
• India
21 Jul 10
Hi, You are saying that friend is asking money.I think you can say your situation that you can not give money this time like that.As a friend, he or she will understand you.So do not need to lie anything.You can say it straight.If you say any lie means, later you will suffer if your friend come to know that you have lied.
@dawnald (84146)
• Shingle Springs, California
20 Jul 10
How about just saying, "no, I don't lend money."
@sach143_u (859)
• India
20 Jul 10
It depends on your friendship and the way that you are going to talk with your friend. Yup i also came across with such scenario and previously i had given so many times but still he was asking money then i told my situation like unable to get pocket money or not getting salary properly or i all ready spend money for some other purposes or i had given to some one else. Like this you can convince your friend.
@cbjones (1157)
• United States
20 Jul 10
It's hard to avoid someone when they usually have a great deal of access to you. Avoid someone you consider to be a friend can be really tricky. It's not like you can hide in a box whenever they are around. Nine out of ten times, they will look to see what is in the box, and see you squatting down in there. Avoiding inst' the answer. If you are both adults, you can just tell them straight up that you can't provide what they are asking for at this time. A real friend wouldn't try to turn it into a guilt situation, so you don't have to worry about hurting their feelings. Stand firm, and they'll understand that you would help if yo could.
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
Why is that friend asking money? If he is a very close friend and he really needs the money like somebody in his family got hospitalized or something, then I think it's okay to lend him some money. Friends do that right? They are supposed to help each other. But if that friend had a known record of borrowing money but not paying up, then you must be frank with him and tell him that you are teaching him to learn how to manage his finances more properly by making him learn on his own to make most with what he has.
• Argentina
20 Jul 10
My friends always ask me for money but in amall amounts so it isn't a problem besides sometimes i ask for money too . But if you want to aviod your friend tell him/her that you don't have that much money or that you need it to pay some bills . You could also tell him/her that money always causes trouble so that you don't want to ruin your friendship but i don't really think that he / her will understand and the friendship might be ruined.
@anjo12 (66)
20 Jul 10
It's very hard to avoid a friend, especially in times of need. What I would probably do if a friend asks me for some money is to lend him/her at first, especially if they really need it. But if it becomes habitual, then I would say 'no'.
@puccagirl (7316)
• Israel
20 Jul 10
It is a bit tricky, but I would probably tell the friend that money is a bit tight at the moment, so I can't really lend them anything because of that. Most people would probably be understanding in such a situation, since we all know what that is like. Have you tried that?