Why some people don't like kids?

United States
July 20, 2010 3:33pm CST
I just don't understand some people, why they don't like kids. A friend of mine especially, he told me that he doesn't kids around. They are jumpy, noisy, and he couldn't get a moment of quiet. I defend them, because they are kids, and that is what kids do. I don't think nothing wrong with those children. They are adorable, and they are fun to play with. I would love to have my own children, at least 3 of them. I am a kid person, and I want to be a good father too. What about your guys, how many of you doesn't like kids? What are the reasons?
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18 responses
• Philippines
20 Jul 10
It boils down to preference, I think. There is nothing in the world that is universally liked, no matter how big a percentage the majority might be in the LIKED camp. Someone out there will always dislike something that someone else likes and children aren't exempt from it. If it's not preferences, then it could be something related to experience. They had bad memories with their younger siblings or cousins or nieces/nephews and it gave them the opinion that kids are annoying. Or maybe it's just a matter of disliking SOME particular children and not the entire category. My mother never liked children because she had little patience and she had to take care of a LOT of children when she was still a child herself (she was the eldest in an extended family), but that changed when she had kids of her own. A friend of mine, on the other hand, like children but only if they're nowhere near her. She likes the idea of children, she doesn't particular hate them, but ask her to play or introduce a kid below the age of 7 to her and she starts disliking them for some reason. There are a lot of factors at play here and we can't really pinpoint them until we ask. Me, I'm fine with children and have even taken care of my younger cousins and nieces/nephews. But I don't think I'd like having one of my own in the foreseeable future.
• China
21 Jul 10
Yeah,there is no universal response for one question.Everyone has their own unique particularity because of their dissimilar expenience mentally.
@ANIME123 (2473)
• United States
21 Jul 10
Yeah my friend used to love kids and was going to be an elementary teacher, but after being a tutor for a while she got tired of it and did not like little kids no more she grew tired of them. I think little kids are ok you know, but it's just that sometimes they can do many things that they are not suppose to like biting, yelling a lot in front of people, and stuff like that. Still I think that's not a reason to not like kids you know sometimes they don't know any better so I think that kids are ok I never lose my patience around them I always love to play games like taga nd hide and seek with them. I have grown accostumed to kids and know that you have to treat them nicely, but also a little bit mean when they do something bad so that they can learn from their mistakes and know not to do them again.
• Thailand
21 Jul 10
I totally agree with you. You guy are right. My point of view is the kid who are in growth, so they need to act and play. Furthermore, someone don't like the kid. Firstly, They don't get marriage. Secondly, They prefer living alone or living in quite places to the place being full of children :)
@maximax8 (27059)
21 Jul 10
I know a lady that finds children noisy, irritating and bothersome to be around. She likes to have a peaceful life away from children. A man I know doesn't wish to have children because he likes to have a free and easy life. He can go where he likes and not worry about any kids tagging along with him. He doesn't mind if he dates a lady that already has kids just as long as she doesn't want anymore children. Some ladies love kids but are not able to get pregnant. I love children and always dreamed about becoming a mother. I went into the career of primary school teaching. I get to teach children of between 3 and 8 years old in my work. I had my oldest son when I was 22 years old, my younger son when I was 34 years old and my daughter when I was 36 years old. I find children enjoyable to be around. They can be imaginative and interesting to talk to.
@Angelgirl16 (2178)
• United States
21 Jul 10
Hi kingparker, It is sad that some people have forgotten that they were once a child themselves, and all the mischief they themselves got into. Of course, there could be a number of reasons why some pleople don't like children. Some reasons could be because of a childhood of misery, where the other children in the neighborhood picked on them or they were abused by other siblings or their own parents. I don't think a person wakes up one morning and decide that they will hate children. There has to be a reason deeper than the ordinary person could uncover.
• United States
21 Jul 10
I can't imagine not loving kids, I was a nanny even before I had kids of my own. I understand that some people just don't like kids though, or maybe they don't have experience with them or are only around misbehaving children. As a general rule I love kids period but there are certain kids (a couple of my friends kids) that just get on my nerves but its because they don't have any discipline and run wild.
@angelface23 (2502)
• United States
21 Jul 10
I used to be like that. I had a friend who had kids and we would party at their house. The kids always just got on my nerves. They were toddlers at the time. I never wanted kids but now I have two and like you I can't understand how people don't like them. They are funny and cute and so innocent even when they are driving you crazy.
@keshia2007r (2886)
• United States
21 Jul 10
I think that some people don't like kids or don't want kids, because they are not pretty much ready for them. For example if your use to doing things for yourself and only yourself, and a kids comes out of the blue and you'll have to do things for him or her, it could get quite annoying. For myself I like kids, for I'm not ready for them. When I'm ready for them, I'll have to put myself aside, but im just not ready to do that. My boyfriend loves kids, he has a lot of little cousin and they have fun together. So if your friend was around kids all the time like my bf, im sure the situation would be different.
@naoimi09 (106)
• Philippines
21 Jul 10
Maybe because they are not that mother or father figure. For me, I really do love kids, especially playing and talking to them, like my cousin, a 4 years old girl, who talks and acts as an adult despite her young age. Every time she talks it seems that she knows a lot of things. But there are also some kids who are annoying and very naughty, and sometimes they are irritating.
@jinjer168 (1599)
• Philippines
21 Jul 10
I love kids, im a kid person too because im very fond of them, so much, that i wanted to have many kids of my own but sad to say, i only have one. I like them for being so lovable and innocent. The children are the most admirable people on earth because of their innocence. They are fun to be with even though its hard to take care of them. They have the greatest energy, sweetest smile and highly contagious laughter that i can't resist. Good night!
@Skade24 (750)
• Romania
21 Jul 10
I think that the ones that are not responsible don`t like the kids, because to raise a kid means to be responsable first with you and your life, and after with the kid.
@Elixiress (3897)
21 Jul 10
I am not a kid person. I don't want to have my own children and I can only stand other peoples for a few minutes. I am not one of those people with a "caring" nature, who like to look after people, so the idea of someone being dependant on me is rather frustrating. The fact that they cry, sometimes for no reason, have tantrums and roll around the floor in shopping centres does not make me like them any more. I know there are some kids who are well behaved and don't misbehave them out in public but I find those kids a lot more rare and even they stop being adorable after about 15 minutes.
@cupkitties (6367)
• United States
21 Jul 10
Having children around requires a lot of personal sacrifices.Your whole life suddenly becomes about them. Some people aren't able to handle that even for just a few minutes. Kids can be nerve wrecking sometimes but I'm sure you must remember how we as adults seem from a childs point of view. We are just as annoying to them.
@Augustinev (7020)
• Delhi, India
21 Jul 10
really some people don't like children and their cry and other disturbance. the time very very young time children are very noisy and making disturbance to older people and so they don;t their cry and disturbance also. augustine
@rosan091 (60)
21 Jul 10
hmm i dont like those kids who often make noises,play with my important things,throw away my books and clothes.i love those kids who are peaceful in nature and obeident.
@oldchem1 (8145)
21 Jul 10
I find it difficult to imagine people not liking children but there are people who just don't like them or want any of their own. I can understand them though in a way, it is a completely personal thing, what I can't understand is people who can be nasty with kids because 'they don't like them'. I can sympathise with adults who want a child free place for their holidays or prefer the stress and mess free life that they imagine kids will lead to. I can't personally imagine my life without kids and grandkids but we are all different and have to respect each others ways. All I ask is that these people do not make nasty remarks at people with children or at children themselves - there are plenty of places that adults can go to if they want to be in a child free environment.
• Romania
21 Jul 10
I like kids but it is difficult to have around me. I have a friend , he has a daugheter and she scream and cry all the day.... i like to play with kids but this type make me feel very tired....
• China
21 Jul 10
Honestly speaking,I love childredn very much in myself.When I see lovely babies,I always want to touch their cute fat faces and hold them in my arms.. Back to this topic,I try to explain why some people don't like children in their ways.I think maybe they think they are mature enough,so they look down upon children's innocent particularity and childish behaviours. They can't change their thinking pattern,they just focus on noisy or bother from children rather than happiness they bring also.I think they are a bit colder and crueler than others who love children.