Do you spy on your kids
By teamrose
@teamrose (1492)
United States
July 21, 2010 4:35pm CST
In our youth group some of the young women were complaining that their parents didn't trust them and spied on them? This turned into quite a heated discussion on just what is crossing the limit by parents. I'm curious how do you parents feel about snooping?
Do you snoop on your child? For instance:
Do you read their facebook?
Do you read their diaries?
Do you look in the drawers in their room?
Do you check their cell phones?
Do you follow up that they are actually where they say they are?
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5 responses
@eileenleyva (27562)
• Philippines
21 Jul 10
rose, the answer is a no to all the questions. I don't have to spy on my kids. They tell me everything, including where, when and who will they be with for overnight review study.
@charmlenile (387)
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22 Jul 10
Sometimes I did but my daughter caught me by surprise and I feel awful because she said that I don't trust her and I'm not feeling well.We talk about everything she wants and what i want for her future.Am just protecting her. to be honest and open with me to make her safe all the time and she said that Mom I have a dreams to full fill in my life and I have promise that I will do my studies and study hard to achieve that. mom you don't have to be sneaking around because the people around me is my inspiration to go through you cannot prohibits me from doing so and do you think if you do that it will do good on .its not! your just making things worst and Mom! Please!Put trust on me And promise I wont break any rules of you.I know myself very well. I know your protecting me and I'm flattered and honored to have you as my mom but please can you trust me. Then after that incidents sneaking and checking her things our relationship now as mother and daughter become stronger I just let her and trust her good thing because she done good at school doing her ways. she is a matured child but I just guided her everyday that's mother do.
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
21 Jul 10
Well let's see:
None of them are on Facebook yet
None of them have diaries that I know of
I go through their drawers, but mostly to weed out things they have outgrown.
Only the oldest has a cell phone, and I haven't ever checked it.
They really don't go out on their own. The twins are two young and my oldest is very introverted. Plus if she goes somewhere, we usually drive her.
But we're entering teenagerdom here, one 13 year old and two that are almost 10. I'd have to say that it depends on the child and what they're doing and whether I feel as if there is any reason to distrust what they're doing. If I feel they're lying to me about something, then yes, I'd check up on them for their own safety.
@cupkitties (7421)
• United States
22 Jul 10
My kids are too young for Facebook and cell phones at the moment. I have dug through their drawers helping them to find misplaced items or put away their clothes. My 11 year old kept a diary for a short time but I never had to read it because she always read it to me whether I wanted to hear it or not.
@cycle6060 (118)
• India
21 Jul 10
No I don't spy on them for once they come to know I'm spying then they will become very secretive and stop discussing with me and I don't want it to happen.
