"second chance"

Saudi Arabia
July 22, 2010 9:25am CST
i had met this guy for quite a year,.,we started as friends and turns into more than friends,.,for a month being together i had loved him,.,but its so sad that he just came for awhile to love me,.,i had decided to broke up with him for he found another girl which he thinks is better than me,.,I've tried to moved on, and yes i did,.now what is more confusing is when after a year had passed he is now coming back just to win my love again,.,i can't say that i don't love him anymore but I'm 2 afraid to love and be hurt again.,should i accept him and give him a second chance?? or just ignore him because of what he did,.
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19 responses
@elleb0418 (1107)
• Philippines
22 Jul 10
Hmmm..second chance,one more chance.Well just weight all things,don't just suddenly accept what he wants,you just said you've been hurt before.I remember this line in a movie i always like to watch over and over again...ONE MORE CHANCE movie " You had me at my best,she had me at my lost,but you choose to break my heart." There;s no wrong in second chane but be sure that he will never hurt you again.
• China
23 Jul 10
Hi, I can not agree with you more . I stand with your opinion . Do not let he get your heart so easily again , even you still want to stay with this guy . And you should stop him from cheating on you again after you accept his love . Good luck to you .
@george000 (166)
• India
28 Jul 10
If you accept him and give him a second chance because now he has realized and he will not hurt again as he has experience and also he might be regretted and he will not do same thing again.
• Portugal
24 Jul 10
aww thats a very complicated situation :( but if you still love him. but what happened with that girl? was it her that left him? bcs if was him bcs understood you loved him and were the right for him i understand but if was her he went to you just bcs she didnt want him anymore. you must find out what happened bcs you love him but maybe he can hurt you again :( what if that girl wants him again? will he say no? please talk with him about what happened. just when you know you can make a decision but if you still love him and want try again go for it and follow your heart.
@meirhu (367)
• Israel
23 Jul 10
My approach is go ahead Take into account that he might do the same thing as before, but until he does if he wants a second chance give it to him. The main difference between my suggestion and others is that you should NOT stop any OTHER connections that you've made in the meantime or might make. You're ALLOWED to be connected to more than one person.
• China
23 Jul 10
it depends on your feelings.You should know why he come back to you?For truly loving you or just not a right give for him.You can make some difficulties for him to prove his love.you are the boss now,so you can judge him,then you can make the decision.good luck to you,hope he can love you truly!
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
That's easy...you just need to ask yourself this question and make your choice: Which one would hurt you more, living with him or living without him? Once you've decided, then nothing else is going to matter.
@ybong007 (6658)
• Philippines
23 Jul 10
Everyone deserves a second chance. Just remember that when you love it doesn't mean that you stop loving yourself. This is the common problem when a person falls in love. A lot of people think that when they fall in love their world would just revolve around the other person and they suddenly forget about their own. That when something happens to the relationship they are at a loss because they lost themselves already. The decision to forgive and give your ex a second chance is really up to you. There are only two things that's going happen and that is, either he meant it this time or he'll fool you the second time around. Your decision in this case would determine whether you are the type of person who sees a glass of water as half full or half empty. Goodluck.
• Belgium
22 Jul 10
if you want to give him second chance and you think that is right thing for both of you Do it,life is too short i never had second chance and maybe never i will have
@Bellapop (1281)
22 Jul 10
I say, don't accept hom yet. Because you have been hurt by him before and he needs to make the effort to win your trust back. He has to work now, and you should just wait until you feel you can really trust him. Don't be tempted to take him back too soon, he needs to prove that he really cares for you, and if he really cares he will work for it and make the effort. Hope everything works out for you. :)
@satylot (98)
22 Jul 10
I believe that everyone should be given second chance but love is a complicated topic to do. I would have shown him or made him feel what i felt when he felt me for some other women.
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
22 Jul 10
Well, I can't really decide for you. You just have to go with your gut, and tell him that what you feel toward him. If you feel like you can give him a second chance, why not give it a shot. To see if he is still real for you, or he just a player. For my situation, I might not that easy. We have to be friend again, to see how things going again. I might give her a second chance if all the signs are right.
• United Arab Emirates
22 Jul 10
if i was you i would not give a second chance. If you had done this to him...would he have given you a second chance. if you ask him...he will say yes as he wants to win your love. But i would advise you to stay away and keep your eyes open. he could leave you again and ask another chance with that girl as well..what then????
@eresilva (91)
• Jersey
22 Jul 10
The heart can be untrustworthy sometimes,,,,Don't always follow it.Guard your heart with your head.
@genius4u (20)
• India
22 Jul 10
well it's really nice that you have considered your net friends for discussing your personal issues, as such your question is considered i think giving second chance is not at all bad option but in your case it doesn't work because your boyfrd left you for some other girl which clearly shows his commitment towards you, though a second chance could be given if the matter or the reason is different.
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
22 Jul 10
if you will not give him that second chance, will you have peace of mind? That's wht you should ask yourself now...that chance, doesn't necessarily mean that you have to end up being with him again and risk being hurt again...that second chance that you will give, if you decided to do so, will just be a way to determine whether he means well this time and so that he may prove if he is really sure that he's going to stay for real now...besides, he will also be taking the risk of being accepted or declined by you this time...the ball isn't in his hands now, but yours...you can anyway easily tell if he's truthful...just look for the signs, the way he say things and do stuffs from the past...if he is still going the same path and doing the same things as before, then u gotta be careful...if he really mean it well, you'll see the better changes, the heavier emotions for you...be wiser...good luck...=)
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
22 Jul 10
I wouldn't give second chance to a person, who has spend only a month with me. Yes, sometimes people change, at first they are not ready to take serious relationship, then they are. But ... i wouldn't trust so much in that. When i move on, i close the pages of my past. It must happen something really serious to make me back for a while. First person i loved ... he was keeping my contacts 3 years. I was like reserved for him. Every time he called me, i was ready to go there and be with him. Was sure he loves me i thought may be he has changed. At the end, when he changed his girl, i even didn't know about that. Saw them walking on a central street ... and ... i was very sad. This was the first and the last time i gave chance to someone to be back in my life. Now i don't even have friendship with my ex boyfriends. May be for my future i'll keep my present boyfriend. I hope to be with him for all my life, but who knows ... I don't know if we breakup how the things will be, we share a lot of time together, live together ... may be for all my life, never mind what happen, i'll be little jealous ... this is why i prefer to stop talking wish my ex bf.
@Iriene88 (5352)
• Malaysia
22 Jul 10
Hmm, that is a tough decision. No one wants to be hurt twice by the same person. Perhaps you may give a second chance to him BUT test his sincerity. Do not give in easily, he had a price to pay for his last deed. After the test or trial period and his genuine love is proven, then you both will share one true love :) I personally has an ex-colleague who later married to his first love whom left her earlier. He showed his sincerity and she gave him the second chance but with conditions and now they have a baby boy! All the best, and take care. Be Smarter
22 Jul 10
if the guy is really sincere about winning you back again... and really show his love with all his heart... and you already forget and forgive him about the past that he did that really badly hurt you... then that's the time that you will show that he might have a second chance... give him some test to prove how much or how deserving he is for your love... and when he never give up on winning your love... then that's the time that you will decide if you give him another chance... Happy Lotting....
• Philippines
22 Jul 10
it's ok for second chances..everybody deserves them..but just remember that this person has done it once,he will most likely do it again..trust is something so easy to achieve,yet so hard to retrieve..