I am confused help me - love problem

Romania
July 23, 2010 10:59am CST
hmm... its a long story :) verry long . its something wrong if i love 2 girls ? I really don't know what is in my mind :) but i love them both ! How can i choose one of them?
6 responses
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
23 Jul 10
Mmmm ... bad. I had stories like that before i meet the love of my life. I mean ... stories with guys. I was just out of some relationship, somebody else was interesting for me and i tried to move on, but i still remembered the first one and compared with the ex guy. It will be better for u to choose one of the girls and to forget the other. May be now u compare this girls all the time and we feel bifurcated what is the right girl for you. Take this one, who give u more chances and comfort when she is with you. Take this one, who makes you smile, who is ready to do everything for u. Look in the future ... What will be in 2-3 years. I had friend girl who get married because her first thought was: " I choose to be with someone who loves me more than i love him. If i choose the one, who i love more, i'll have to do compromises with myself all my life. " One year after their marriage she left her last job, met new people and men and she was sooo sorry that she get married. I was the person who told her to stay alone, still in relationship, but without marriage. But nooo, she was with her boyfriend years and years and he wanted kids and marriage after all the time they were together. Finally, they divorced 2 years after their marriage. Before that she was cheating him with different guys, she loved some of them, with other was just passion. It's not good to lie someone only because of your happiness. I feel very guilty of my lies if i do it. So decided stop doing it, long time ago :)
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• Romania
23 Jul 10
damn man... with one i have 3 years together with other just passion :D we talk a lot we like each other.. but i want something new... i am 18 years old.. and she is 16 years old ( my gf) ... its too early to be in loved :) i like passion and adventure :D . thanks for answer !
@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
23 Jul 10
Yees, you are too young :) Then have fun, but don't hurt anyone ... :) Don't make yourself bad person who will feel guilty may be some time, may be always that he has lied the girl, who love him 3 years now :)
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@Suggar (3612)
• Bulgaria
23 Jul 10
And i forgot something :D Passion is very important, but every stable relationship is much more than a passion for two or three days or two, three years. So it's up to u how the things will continue ... :)
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@rose005 (254)
• India
24 Jul 10
Judge them carefully by spending sometime with them that which will be best in the future and if you find one of them than spend more time with her and slowly ignore the other one. I know you feel bad but can't have both of them right?
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• Romania
24 Jul 10
right man .. i cant :( damn i don't want to feel guilty for sadness of one of them. I don't want to hurt peoples :| but its a great age (18 years) i want to love and be loved , to party and all beautiful things at this age.
@will_win (222)
• India
24 Jul 10
Don't be confused my friend.Thing more which one is, you love the most while you share your feeling toward and you feel relax.See who really understand your feelings when you share with..........choose the best who will helpful at the end.
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• Portugal
24 Jul 10
well sure we want help you^^ but you must tell us more about what happened so we can help you better if we know what happened. anyway to choose you must see which one of them is more important to you. im sure that one of them you feel is hard to live without her more than the other one. and love you just love one just you dont know yet who is it. bcs love is just one person^^ to choose you need to be away from both for awhile and see who you miss more. thats the only way to find out. losing both the one that you will miss more^^
• Portugal
24 Jul 10
i didnt mean a long long time not seeing them but like three days and see how you feel^^
@eLsMarie (4148)
• Philippines
25 Jul 10
Find the right girl by knowing your feelings for the other and for the other one. You'll know if you're truly in love with the girl because you'll be much happier to be with her rather than the other one. It's impossible to fall in love with two girls with the same level of intimacy or sentiment. Choose one before it's going to be too late.
@maean_19 (4662)
• Philippines
24 Jul 10
I can relate. I was in the same situation before and I can say that you may love them both, but for sure the degree of love is not the same. Still, you love one of them more than the other. If I were you, choose only one. Choose the one who can love you back more. Someone who understands you unconditionally or unselfishly. Someone whom you feel happy even when you do nothing. Do not wait for the time that they will know that there are two girls in your life because that will be the worst scenario. Breaking one's heart may be hard, but it is the right or proper thing to do. Do not wait for the time that the feeling will go deeper because that will be more painful if you lengthen it.