How long should you wait with your next child?
By mabey1
@mabey1 (334)
Romania
July 27, 2010 6:31am CST
i always wanted more than 1 child. off course i had my fears before givving birth to my boy, but after that i gave birth to him i knew that their is not going to be a problem having another on. i can do it. off corse life as always had his words of saing. i was exousted at the first 2 month i never imagined that taking care of a baby can be so hard. but it is. i sodenly changed my mind , i didn't wanted another one. now after a year i'm changing my mind, or should i say i'm thinking having another baby, but i have my doubts. its not easy if i take in consideration the material side of things. i wold like to satrt my carier and i wouldn't like to suspend it again for mothernal lives. so my quistion for those who have been in the same situation : what should i do, my son alreaady turned one and when he turnes two i have to go back working. is it to soon to have the next baby?
7 responses
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
11 Aug 10
Hi,
I have a fear of giving birth again,the pain and contraction is killing
me and If i were to imagine back,I just feel so scared and
I don't think I am going to go through it again.
Currently, I have one son and he is 3.5 years old.
I will stick to one child at this moment and don't intend to add more.
It is not easy to takecare of kid nowadays,they are demanding and
active.
Lot of my friends and relatives advised me to add one more child,but I
am not in the mood for it. For me,one child is more than enough.
With high standard of living,I don't think it is the best time for me to
have another child.
Some people prefer to have next child after her first child reach 1 year old,
it is depend on individuals itself.
I have some relatives who has their second child not even their first child
reached 1 year old and I can't imagine how can they cope with 2 children at
the same time.
For me, I sure give it up.
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@mabey1 (334)
• Romania
11 Aug 10
your right it's hurd for us as parents to ras ethis kids. i can realted to your fear of giving birth to. but you have to say when you only thinking about your child not the birth giving phase is the first thing that pups up in your mind. one relative says to me that is just a phase in your life, a fiew hours and after that you're done. anyway you will have the finall word to say about having another kid or not. maybe later you're going to change your mind.
@parrot2010 (813)
•
29 Jul 10
I'd say when the child is about 3-5 years old. It's too stressful to have a baby and have another baby while the first one is already a baby, as far as I know it's not very easy to look after babies they'll be keeping you up at night, imagine having two babies to deal with! Go easy on yourself I know they are cute little bundles of joy but you have to think about your health too.
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@buggles64 (2709)
• United States
29 Jul 10
That decision is yours to make, if you think you would be able to have another baby then do it. It takes a woman's body 18 months to fully heal from a pregnancy. The time between my first and second child=22 months, the time between my 2nd and third child=22 months, the time between my 3rd and 4th child=36months, and the time between my 5th and 6th children=15 months. For me, the best time was 36 months. I had time to bond with my baby before having another one, and my body had a lot of time to heal :)
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@ann101 (518)
• China
29 Jul 10
You have said that you interrupted your work now,so maybe it's a good choice to have one now,so you can raise them together.And when they go to the kindergarten after 3 or 4 years then you can go to work again.It will be a little hard for these years to raise two childs but I think it's better than trying to find a job now but interrupt again when you have a baby again after several years.
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@bkrm_gupt (219)
• India
28 Jul 10
Being a mother of the child is not an easy task.we human have to suffer a lot in our life.Better we should think before what we do.suppose if i was a mother of a baby of one year i will not think of another child soon i will keep gap for 4 to 5 years to have another child.so we don't feel burden in life.
@sgp_melay (7)
• Philippines
27 Jul 10
its not easy to be a mother. specially when, you have q month old baby and a day old baby. you don't know which of them is your first priority.
ergo.i suggest that you have to be patient and wait until you baby is 4 year old.
for that, you can manage your time, for husband, your infant and your 4 year old child.
@marcinwise (391)
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27 Jul 10
I have now 11 month baby girl and I start thing about next one.
For me it is difficult to care of baby , I'm alone I don't have any family near me to help me with.
But I want start make another in January I know when i will have two will be more difficult than now. but I want my children will by nearly age.
When i don't have baby I wish have about 4 baby but now I change mi mind I hope next will by boy and I stop doing. If next will by girl I will try one more time and that it . Maybe some day i change my mind but not now.
