Should A Couple Still Devorce if They Have A Child

@paulybg (126)
China
July 28, 2010 2:12am CST
My sister-in law has juct devorced a few months ago and now I find my niece has been hurt very hard and not as lovely as before. Everyday, she just keep worrying if her mother would leave her also. So I always kept thinking, should a couple only looking for their own hapness and sacrifice the happness of theis children? Or should them still keep the family only for the children?
6 responses
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
28 Jul 10
If a couple isn't happy with each other and they're fighting constantly, then it is more harmful to their child if they stay together. An unhappy household is worse for a child to live in day by day, than it would be if their parents divorce.But, both parents have the obligstion to make sure the child is provided for and that they mutually agree to get along when the child is present. Also, when the child is of age, both parents should make sure to explain why they are no longer together and that the child is not at fault.Either way, divorce is hard on both the parents and their children.
@paulybg (126)
• China
29 Jul 10
I agree with you and both sides need to do much more to ensure the harmness to their child would be controlled to the lowest level. I would try to explain this to my sister-in-law. Thank you.
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
I am sorry about this. I know how hard it is for your niece. Broken families are becoming popular today. It is very important to consider the children in this situation. Most children in broken families tends to be emotional, less focused on things, are often pessimistic, has little self-confidence etc. This is because of the emotional turmoil or emotional pain they encounter. Most of them live in constant fear of losing the ones they love, fear of abandonment and fear of rejection. I am not in the position to tell whether it is right to divorce or not what I am sure though is that divorce is an emotional "war". A war in which none emerged as winners, only losers.
@paulybg (126)
• China
29 Jul 10
Yeah, I think children should always be the most important factor when consider divorce, now the poor child almost refuses to communicate with anyone else except her mother.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
28 Jul 10
divorce is a mutual thing, all separations are not good - i mean a relationship has to end and it won't be an easy way out, still but choosing not to leave a relationship that is really bound to fail for a child is not good for the poor child himself. if this child grows up in a unhappy and unloving parents, i don';t think that would make up the better person for this child.
@jagjit273 (1754)
• India
28 Jul 10
Well It depends on, Person to person,and their Circumsatnces and their Undersatnding and Maturity Level. Have a nice day
@rjkmrr (172)
• India
28 Jul 10
Couple should not divorce if they have a child because child will suffer a lot. They wont get love and care as of other children who have both mom and dad. Of course one can bring up to level of human but they lake in some ways. I wish every couple specially who has got child to have a successful life endings.
@jose431 (164)
• India
29 Jul 10
Yeah,in our culture most of the people still do like this.They never looks for either child nor wife/husband.Recently my elder sister has devorce with his husband though they got four childern.Now a days people don't care about their future.