will u disown a family member that doesn't care?
By s2rybot
@s2rybot (34)
Philippines
July 29, 2010 1:07am CST
when she was still in school she was provided with everything she needs..clothes, money and everything.after graduation she got pregnant. since her husband got no job the parents chose to separate them.but then they got each other after she gave birth with her first born child..a baby boy.the reason why they got back together.
during the course of family life, she got another 2 kids. and somehow she lost interest with the eldest son. turns out the lil boy grew up to understand her mother instead of the other way around.she always find it hard to show love and affection with the kid. and same goes with the father.they don't really care about their child.
even the kid's schooling, they don't support. they always find excuses for them not to give him money for school.so the boy started working. went to live with the grandparents..
and the little boy started asking question. wat has he done to deserve such kind of rejection?
3 responses
@babyEj (1522)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
Parents always love their children no matter what and how hard life is. My parents always say this statement to everyone in the family. So I couldn't get the idea why does the child in your story feel that way. Isn't it just because the parents doesn't have time with their children? Is it a brainwash coming from a relative or whoever? Whatever it is, it shouldn't be tolerated. The parents (even foster parents while parents are away) should tell the child, explain the situation and comfort him so that he'll be understanding and open-minded creature. I asked questions before like that to myself, my parents and to the people around me but it was because no one told me the real situation of the family instead I was brainwash with my uncle and aunties as well as my grandmother. Later, I found it my self and realize what had happened.
@s2rybot (34)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
i know parents can't resist their children. no matter how hard it may be they always try to give their children the best.but this boy here he had nothing. no support at all morally and emotionally and financially. i don't think that he has been brainwashed.the boy basically grew up with the care of his grandparents bcos he was often neglected by the parents. it seems like they have forgotten they have an eldest son.never in his life he has ever asked by the mother about his school or wat happened to his day.has it been a long one..and now he is in college, the mother promised the grandma to counterpart in paying his tuition fee. all of a sudden she changed her mind. told the boy he has more important things to make use of the money.and adds that if he wants to finish college he might as well find a job to support himself. is that how to treat your own son?
@astreadido (608)
• Philippines
29 Jul 10
The parents are lucky if the son really understands them and do not hate them. I would. But then again, maybe when I grew older, I'll consider myself lucky that they didn't raise. It will be traumatic for any child to grow without love. At least maybe with the grandparents he felt a little love from them.
@Archie0 (5636)
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29 Jul 10
It is nothing much but can be called as a sense of irresponsibility, These situations normally occur with certain serious issues, like if the parents have had the similar behavior in their childhood and has made them tough and careless for any relationship they undergo. Or they were just too much pampered in their time and were never taught to sooth down any relation ships. I think, it is really very much bad behavior on the parents part to do such an injustice, the boy rather cannot be explained exactly why this is happened only to him, there are several people around the world who are treated in same and disgusting manner. I think the boy should be kept away from the reality till he gets matured enough to know that he is the only holder of his life.
