'Friends' or a 'best friend' !!!!!

India
July 31, 2010 2:08am CST
Sometimes we say that friends are just friends and that all friends are equal, all friends should be treated equally, no matter how or what they are. On the other side we classify them and call one as our 'best friend'. Isn't this confusing? We're actually classifying our friends either on the basis of our liking or their usefulness. What do you think? Are you one of them who classify their friends?
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
31 Jul 10
I know a lot of people. Some of them are just acquaintances and others are friends. I don't have a 'best friend' but among my friends are those with whom I am on the same wavelength and we seem to be able to read each others thoughts. That makes our friendship more complex but not necessarily 'better'. If we are going to classify our friends then asmong them would be those that we could classify as 'user friendly' too? Those whom we can always ask a favour and know that they will fall at our feet just to be able to remain frineds? No, that is not what friendship means to me
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
31 Jul 10
True friendship is what each one of us makes of it. It is very individual. You don't just 'get' a true friend. A true friend becomes a part of you and you a part of them over time, a long time.
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• India
31 Jul 10
Hmm, quite detailed and complex study. What according to you is the definition of 'true friendship'?
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• United States
1 Aug 10
Ido agree with you!my friends.YOU said exactly good!The word "best" is useless,yes.But,have you know friends is a widely wor?Have you think about this situation?.Bussinss competer can be your friends,other bad guy sometimes also can help you and be your friend,so what should I do at taht second?We also should disjoin between the "ture friend". so what should I do?
@Okebals (110)
31 Jul 10
i would rather go for friends than best friend.
• India
31 Jul 10
Yeah, calling a friend as a best means differenciating aut friends or classifying them.
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@Okebals (110)
31 Jul 10
when you differenciate them that you give them your trust and i'm that you know the implications.
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• India
31 Jul 10
Does it mean that only a few friends are true ones and all the rest are'nt?
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@abhi333 (407)
• India
2 Aug 10
In my opinion, "classify" is not the proper word to be used for friends. I'd rather say that degree of friendship varies between friends. I, like most of the persons, always like to celebrate my happiness with all of my friends. but when it comes to discussing my problems, the friend circle becomes smaller. and if the problems are very very serious (like something related to family or other things of that sort), the circle becomes restricted to 2 or 3 friends only. so in my view, it doesn't mean that the friends are not equal, but one can't share everything with everyone
• India
2 Aug 10
Hmmm, I agree. We need to have some privacy in life and we can't share everything with everyone.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
1 Aug 10
Well friends are best!
• India
1 Aug 10
Hmmm, no doubt about it because it's the ultimate truth about them.
@bkrm_gupt (219)
• India
2 Aug 10
I friend is someone doesn't tell you to do bad things.
• India
2 Aug 10
No doubt, true friends never tell us to do bad things. But what about calling a particular friend as the 'best' one?
@ptower76 (1616)
• United States
3 Aug 10
Since childhood we tend to place everyone we know into the category of friend and as a result confuse the level of our "friend's" influence in our lives. But after experiencing true friendship, one begins to realize that there is indeed a difference among the level of friendship that exists in our so called friends. The love of true friendship is a very powerful and sacred bond that many of us rarely experience in our lifetime. I have had 4 people throughout my entire lifetime that have met the criteria that I have established to be true friends. One of them is gone today. The other 3 I know are true friends because I know that i can always count on them when I need a friend, and that I know have genuine love for the friendship we share. I consider myself very lucky to have them. Many of the people that we label friends if we think about it, can fall under other categories besides friends. Acquaintences, cohorts, peers, and neighbors to name a few. I don't classify my friends anymore. I believe because I have experienced true friendship.
• India
3 Aug 10
Hmmm, you are a lucky man. You got 4 true friends in a single life. Not all people get this kind of luck. Thanks for sharing your experiences!
• United States
31 Jul 10
I personally have a lot of friends and one best friend My husband. He is my rock and the love of my life. Not only is he my lover he is my best friend and partner. I remember when I made out my wedding invitations I had this wriiten: Today I married my best friend, the one I love, share, the one who gives me hope. I have this hanging over our bed and every night before my husband and I go to bed we read it. My husband is a great man and I do not know what I would do without him.
• India
31 Jul 10
Hmmm, seems like you share a very strong bond of love with him. Enjoy your life because all aren't as lucky as you are! Good wishes and happy mylotting!
• India
31 Jul 10
I am fully agree with you, thanks for your comments & sharing.
• India
31 Jul 10
I am fully agree with you, thanys for your comments & sharing.
@sunvg1976 (108)
• India
31 Jul 10
'Friends' will share only all enjoyments with us , but a 'best friend'will share our sorrows and supportive to withstand or help on the bad occasions .
• India
31 Jul 10
Hmmm, that's a good point! But, in my opinion a friend who shares sorrows might be a close friend and not necessarily a 'best friend'.
• India
3 Aug 10
We cannot treat every friends as same. Somebody might be close to our heart. Someone will be our favourite person but not close to heart. To someone we feel comfortable. So i always classify friends and treat them the way they're to me.
• India
12 Aug 10
It is better to have friends rather then having best friend. I have lots of friend but i don't have any best friend as such.