How do I break up with my bipolar girlfriend?

@kolsti87 (521)
United States
August 1, 2010 11:56pm CST
I am planning on breaking up with my girlfriend but there is one problem: she is bipolar and I'm afraid she will either kill me or herself when I do it. I care about her feelings and I don't want her to hurt herself or me, but I can do this forever! What am I going to do?
7 responses
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Aug 10
If you really care for her you would let her friends know maybe before you broke up with her, so that they can be there for her. I'd say you could be there for her but it might hurt too much. I guess, and I know this sounds bad, but maybe the best time to do it is when she's really happy manic, and not depressed. Still, having friends and family around her is good.
@kolsti87 (521)
• United States
2 Aug 10
The thing is, if I do it when she is manic, she'll be okay with it until she drops into depression and will have a break-up on top of that. I don't want anything like that to happen.
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
2 Aug 10
I come from a family of bipolars and at one time thought I was, so I know that that is not good either. I just don't know what else to tell you other then she'll need her friends around her, and maybe her support group if she goes to counseling for it.
@kolsti87 (521)
• United States
2 Aug 10
Yeah you are right that she'll need tons of support. She REALLY liked me while I just kind of liked her and thought it would be fun to have a girlfriend and that she was pretty nice. I think when she finds out she is going to do something violent as I once saw her throw something across her room out of anger and I don't know what she'll do about this.
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• Portugal
12 Aug 10
well the best you can do is go talk with a doctor and tell the situation of your gf and explain him that you want to break up with her but how can you do it without she hurt you or hurt herself? doctors for sure know what to advise you bcs the truth is with bipolar people we never know how to react so the best person to advise you is a doctor but sure if they dont help you much just be honest with her and say you want to break up not bcs of her but bcs your feelings changed or i dont know but tell her how you feel. i dont know why you want break up but just say to her why and say you like her much and dont want to hurt her. she has to understand that you cant be with her bcs that way you are unhappy. just talk in a sweet way and she will understand but first talk to the doctor to advise you the best way to say it to her. maybe she has to take a medicine first before you say it so she wont do nothing bad.
@med889 (5941)
2 Aug 10
In anyways I think a conversation with her is very important so you have to talk to her and do it politely explaining what you feel and this is important for both of you too.
@jugsjugs (12967)
2 Aug 10
I think that alot of people out there tend to stay with a person,as they are scared that the person may harm themselves if they part.I do not think that if they are bipolar or not that it will make much difference as there are alot of people that try to harm themselves and others when they are told they need to end a relationship.Just make sure you word it well,as in that it is nothing that they have done and that you do care for them,but you feel that it is not love anymore.You may get a shock if they say to you that they werte going to end it.
@sach143_u (859)
• India
2 Aug 10
Friend you are in very tough situation, if you should have think this before loving that particular girl. But i didn't understand why you want to leave your girlfriend, is there any problem in between you and her? or did you quarrel each other? If you say the reason then it will be easy for me or some one to help you in mylot.
@ynalane (105)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
So hard to do, Breaking someone feeling was the hardiest thing to do for those people being respectfull towards other feelings. Well for me, You can do it by simply telling her the truth,that no other party involve,it just that your out of control to handle her. open her the possibilty that you two are going back to friendship stage,no commitments,less expectation,meansless hurt each other feeling.
@jennyze (7029)
• Indonesia
2 Aug 10
I see, you have a real problem. Best to ask some helps from her family and friends before you made the break, so they would be there for her and they would not blame you when something's bad happened to the girl. This could be a lesson for you not to view any relationship lightly.