Misunderstanding between friends

@will_win (222)
India
August 2, 2010 5:26am CST
Two of my group friends,they loved each other and helped each other in any difficulty but one day their friendship broke down due to some misunderstanding .she is shocked that he is spreading rumors against her.when he came to know he could not bear it.so he end up there friend relation with her.After few days she came to know that he didn't, she felt sorry and lonely...........she came for me to help her to solve her problem and she wants to be friend with him but he refused to talked to her but i don't have any idea .......what i should do ........please help me.
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9 responses
@sach143_u (859)
• India
2 Aug 10
Its some what difficult but if you try then its possible. If you are the best friend for both then try to convince her first and then another one. You people go out and there try to mingle and obviously if you go then some times its need of help of others then they may talk each other. Or else create such type of problem where he or she can solve that problem and visa versa then sure they will be the same like before what they had.
@krkavsy (191)
• India
3 Aug 10
It is possible upto an extent but the best thing is that we should call both parties together and tell their views. Make sure that none of them hide any of the facts. It should be like an open book so that the matter gets resolved.
@Shavkat (137238)
• Philippines
11 Nov 12
backfight - http://www.google.com.ph/imgres?q=backfighter+images&num=10&hl=fil&biw=1024&bih=499&tbm=isch&tbnid=ouLXi4-L_SAGwM:&imgrefurl=http://www.facebook.com/pages/Insecurity-is-the-reason-why-backfighter-are-born/102151499851829&docid=Jg0UIsqm1T0stM&imgurl=http://profile.ak.fbcdn.net/hprofile-ak-prn1/50315_102151499851829_1919_n.jpg&w=176&h=220&ei=iHOfUMLRKc32mAXcgoHIBg&zoom=1&iact=hc&vpx=292&vpy=11&dur=343&hovh=176&hovw=140&tx=85&ty=102&sig=114198038999086947610&sqi=2&page=1&tbnh=150&tbnw=120&start=0&ndsp=11&ved=1t:429,r:1,s:0,i:67
I don't like the attitude of stabbing you, especially if there is no reason at all. I would prefer to confront me right away. It doesn't need to be heard from other people. This kind of scenario will happen in friendship, thinking it was real.
@nancy0618 (477)
• Philippines
3 Aug 10
having a misunderstanding with our friends is normal, if we do not have that then there is something wrong with the relationship, never in my life that i had seen two best friends did not make a fight or misunderstanding, not all people are perfect. maybe you should set a time and set up so this two friends of your will meet and talk, there is no other way to resolve this conflict but to talk
@kukueye (1759)
• Malaysia
3 Aug 10
I think the hurt person need time to forgive, i guess your friend can sent the person some cards of gifts to said sorry. Sometime it hurt so much it will take long time for forgiveness to occur.Forcing for friendship will not happen overnight and it is not good also may cause more harm then good. I guess sometime hurts need time to heal and forgive.
3 Aug 10
its not easy for to find friends that you have been with all your life. In making decisions we should be doing the first basic and rightful things before making any conclusion on something. We just misunderstood what the rumors have been that the impact with you is nasty as it gets on the other hand but we cannot blame you for its just only the reaction coming from you without confronting him privately but it takes time to heal that matter. and you just have to wait for the proper time and timing to interact and to get that matter straights just cool it friends still friend when you talk with no judgment. and explain the matters or issue so he can imply his reactions.
@diogz22 (516)
• Philippines
3 Aug 10
The best thing you can do is to try to help them fix their misunderstanding in that way their friendship will be saved.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
3 Aug 10
i too am now confused as to what the issue was... this is a misunderstanding about your friends... the girl thought her bf is spreading rumors about her right? and when she confronted him... what happened? Did he deny it? was there no explaination thereafter, and no proper conversation too? I think this is just a petty quarrel and if they would just spend some time to talk seriously and discussed what happened, i think this can easily be resolved.
@attente (986)
• Philippines
2 Aug 10
the guy must still be in the shocking stage. give them time to think over things and they would realize that they miss each other. That kind of thing is really common to teenagers, the backfighting thing right? or you can talk to the guy and asked him to have a silent talking with the girl. silent talking doesn't literally mean not talking and remaining silent. it would be the sorry and discussing thing type of talking which no one would shout and would try to hear the other side. in that way, they would understand each other. be blessed! :)
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
2 Aug 10
Misunderstandings between friends should be resolved quickly. If too much time passes, the bonds of friendship are strained and easily broken. Friendship is too important to be wasted. Don't let a misundertsnding come between you and a friend. The pain is too much to bear.