what is the best reason to get married?
August 3, 2010 10:00pm CST
Hi mylotters.. Most of us would want to get married in the right time...but in your opinion..what would be the best reason for tying the knot? Do you think getting pregnant is reason enough? Or if you love someone so much that you wouldn't want to lose him to someone else even if both of you don't have a job yet is a valid reason to get married? what do you say?
4 Aug 10
A very good discussion, though i'm a Tan and i'm not attracted by many girls 'cause of my skin and the girls do date only white boys.. so marriage is the only reason to go out on a date with my wife and spend the outings together. I'm very aware that i'm very young to think for a marriage, but my urban life and the urban girls are making to think the other ways.. Girls in village are fond of boys are neat inside their heart rather than outside beauty!!!! But i can't migrate to a rural area for this reason alone!
5 Aug 10
oh...you mean girls in your place prefer boys who have a lighter complexion? because here in my country.., i believe i have the right to assume that men who are tan here are more attractive and considered as sexy and very manly... but of course white guys are neat but here in our place most of the white guys are vain and feminist,..hahaha
6 Aug 10
Dear God!!! It's completely reversible in my country... More white men are available and they are the hot cakes for girls.. Tan are less considered , if they have a muscle structure like Arnold Shwarzenneger then hey will be considered.. Others are simply ignored with 0\10....I'm very sad!!!
• United States
4 Aug 10
hello deve.. well, human has been craeted by God to have a life partner, be a couple in a marriage. marriage is not just a matter of making love or giving birth a baby. it is more than that. there are many reasons why people want to get married and those reasons may vary on one another. i am married myself now. and what i can tell you is you may not feel the importance of getting married before you are married and live together with your husband or wife..
4 Aug 10
hi aurel..yes i agree with you..though i'm not yet officially married but soon my boyfriend and i will be settling down too..and i want our marriage to work well..that's why i don't want to make hasty decisions and thus brought me to this topic..i would love to hear from fellow mylotters point of view..thank you for sharing yours..=)
• United States
11 Aug 10
hello deve the only reason to get married should because of love. a lot of people now are getting married for the wrong reasons. just because you get pregnant does not mean you have to get married! some people do not understand that. but some people go that way because its what they think is right or is what should be done. that is getting married for the wrong reason. and for that, the relationship will not last! hope this answers your question happy mylotting & good day!
11 Aug 10
hi there deve ann! for me, the best reason for getting married would be love and commitment. marriage for me is a lifetime of commitment. it is like committing yourself to everything it requires. you are committed to share a life with, to make a good family, to cherish and care for the marriage, to make the best of living, and of course the commitment of getting hurt too. if you only wants to get married because you don't want to lose the guy then i think you don't love him enough, because if you do you'll never doubt of loosing him in anyway. if you're getting married because you're pregnant, that leaves you no choice because it is for the sake of the child. and besides i think getting pregnant is a choice too, it was never an accident. it only happens when we want it to. so we should be ready for the consequences. every thing in this world has the right timing. if it is not yet the time don't push yourself too hard on it. don't rush things too fast to happen. or else it will fail. you only get yourself into trouble. think a thousand times before deciding on anything. and don't decide on your own. one should always consider everything that's involve. anyway, happy mylotting. im not getting married yet although we are in our 7th year because we both believe we should not hurry things if we are not yet ready. besides we still have a life to spend together. keep smiling.
5 Aug 10
Getting married is a very serious and delicate decision. Once you are married, you cannot just back out when you just get hurt. Marriage is not also the answer when someone gets pregnant. Because if you don't really love each other and not serious of what you did, you will not only be the one to suffer but also the baby. Everything in the marriage will be miserable if that will only be the reason. Also, when getting married, you have to be prepared psychologically, emotionally, physically and financially. In short, you must be prepared totally. Because in marriage, it is not always sweetness and happiness, there will be a lot of trials that will come along the way. If you are not emotionally and psychologically prepared, you will just give up the marriage soon. And building up your own family, you should have the resources to raise the family especially if you have children already. But there are times that even if you both don't have job yet, as long as you love each other and very determined to succeed and be able to find job or sources of earnings, the your married life will succeed. You just have to always support each other even if there will be problems.
4 Aug 10
i think marriage is a way you want to make your partner feel warm and safe.people get married for many different reasons.each one should have their only reason.you can't judge which one is best.you can only find your reason of marriage.I think what you should do is that you should choose your Mr/Mrs.right at the right time for your marriage.