Do you think that being a good parent is guarantee?
By bingskee
@bingskee (5234)
Philippines
August 4, 2010 8:25am CST
As i have written in Hubpages, from the hub Being a Good Parent is Not Guarantee,
"Being a good parent is not guarantee at all. We cannot say that the child will be a respectful, responsible and morally upright individual because the parents are. There are a lot of influences. Also, the children are unique individuals themselves. I don't believe that what other people are doing must be the reason why someone is turning into a monster. It can be and it depends. It can be if a person has a weak personality. It depends if what was inflicted was irreversible. Or if it was not healed by the love, concern and affection."
What do you have to share about this. Let me know.
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6 responses
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
4 Aug 10
All that we can do as parents is lead by example. We can teach our children right from wrong. We can be there to guide them along the way. the choice is up to them how they live their lives. We can only hope the best for our children. There is no written promise that our children will follow what we teach. This is not a reflection on what kind of parent you are. It is a matter of the child's choice to follow or not.
@peedielyn (1207)
• United States
4 Aug 10
From passed experience, I can tell you that no matter how great a parent you are, your children will do what they want. If they are taught that good things come out of good things they are likely to follow good examples 85% of the time while the other 15% is from experimenting. I had a good father, he was there as much as possible but at the same time I had a bug that just itched me to try things. That made me want to "discover things" that I shouldn't have. On that note, I learned alot. It should be a given that good parents have good kids but it doesn't always work that way. I think a good parent is one that diciplines their children, talks with them and teaches them about things. I am not saying be with them 24/7 but to guide them with their decisions and teach them the consequences.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
4 Aug 10
hello to you, peedielyn!
discipline and communication is very important. i think no matter what, the children should feel that they are loved and cared for. sometimes we have to put ourselves in their shoes, or go back to our previous lives if we had done the same things they are doing.
you are blessed having a good father.
@peedielyn (1207)
• United States
10 Aug 10
Thank you, I feel blessed. A lot of the times when my kids are doing things, I think back to when I did that, and when I did that. I have fun most of the time and try to protect them from the things that might get them into trouble. I guess it's a good thing that I was a kid once. I find it funny that my kids are just like myself when I was little. I love it, and learn all over again...maybe this will make me an awesome grandparent one day!
@aiwiuy (23)
• Thailand
5 Aug 10
Dear Bingskee
I haven't got children yet. But from my role of a son, I think that parents have a big and decisive influence on their children behaviour. Children learn a lot from their parents' personality. But the problem is that you have to understand what is a good parent?
A good parent is not only a good mirror for her children but alse give them love, concern, confort, affection, and so on. A good parent should devote her life to their children. I mean she has to sacrifice her life for the life of their children.
I have a great respect on my MUM who has spent all her life sacrificing for us, her children.
@bingskee (5234)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
i am amazed at the great respect you have for your mom. she must be doing the role right! :-)
on the sacrifice thing, i can agree to some extent. but parents also have their needs and wants and i think it is but right that they enjoy once in a while. they deserve treats in life, too.
@laylakanda (30)
• Vietnam
5 Aug 10
Hello Bingskee, at first , I have to say I haven't got any children yet ,even a boyfriend either.However, I believe that parents are the most important part in their children life, at least in the childhood, they have great and decisive influence on the children behavior but It's not that mean children depend everything on them.T think even a child still have a special, independence wuay to grow up day by day. It belongs to nature.So sometime, I think parents should make opportunities for their children showing up themselves.
