do your husband help you in your household chores?

Philippines
August 5, 2010 3:08am CST
It is used to be that wie stayed at the house with the children and do some household stuff like cleaning the house, cooking, washing etc,. Men went to work al day to support their families. Nowadays, it takes both husband and wives to have full time jobs to survive. Do your husband help you in your household chores? There are others who can afford to hire helpers to hel them with household chores. But what about other's who cannot? Men, how often do you help your wife in their household chores? Or do you think that household chores are for women only?
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@tbmomin (25)
• India
6 Aug 10
I really dont think household chores are for women only. Men must have their share of work. I feel very jealous of women whose husbands help out in their household chores. My husband just does'nt touch anything, anything at all.:(. I always wish that he would change. My father was just the opposite! He would help out my mom in anything that she did. It was usually my papa who used to do the cooking and take care of us and he never even allowed my mom to do his laundry. My mom, a retired teacher, led a hard life because my late eldest sister was not normal and my mom even had to bathe her, spoonfeed her and do everything for her. She was just like a baby. mom had to take care of her for 21 years. My mom is so lucky to have had such an understanding and loving husband. I always wished my husband would be one such. But alas! he turned out to be just the opposite. I do everything for him, do all the household work, of course, now we have a helper, but one is not enough as I am a working mother, but i dont think I can afford to have another. Sometimes I am so frustrated because he does not help me at all and doesnt appreciate anything that I do for him. But I dont really blame him. Its the way hes brought up. They were not allowed to do anything at all by their mom even though they were not that well to do. Well my mother in law is a nice person but I sometimes really hate her for not being able to raise her children up properly.I think all these things depends on parents and how they bring up their children. So as parents we should all cultivate work culture in our children.
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
:D my father is the opposite of ours. And yes it's because they are brought up by their parents that they just have to work for their family. And that wives are responsible for the household chores. And you know what? it could be handed down to generations. My brother is just like my father. Never did he help in our household chores. Simply for the reason that he is not a woman. bahhhhhh!!!
• India
7 Aug 10
Hahaha. Yes you are right. It could be handed down to generations. I just hope my son is not going to be like his dad. Hes just two yrs old now and Im trying my best to bring him up the right way and make him a good,responsible and God fearing person. Let us all try to do that. I think the world will be a better place. :)
@ckyera (17344)
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
hello bluerain, hmmm...let me think... okay, when we are just starting to live together as husband & wife, we do share in doing the household chores. well because that time i am still working and his work don't require much time and so he's the one who do most of the things in the house coz i am on my work for almost the whole day. but now, everything have changed, i am no longer working and he's the one now who's very busy with his work and so i am the one now who do everything in the house. does he helped me? nah...maybe just once in a blue moon! haha he do wash the dishes sometimes but just sometimes. he do help in fixing some things in the house, doing the things that i can't do as a woman. its tiring to do all the things in the house and i am already very happy when he helped me even for some time. even if i wish that he could help me more, i just cant ask him to do so for i know that his work and what he's doing is more tiring than what i am doing. hehe so its enough for me that he sometimes accompany me in going to the grocery and carry things for me. and its a consolation that even if he don't help me much in doing the household chores, atleast he give me a massage when he saw that i am tired from day of work. anyway, he's also very considerate not forcing me to do the household chores. he just let me do what i want to do, when i want to do. its fine atleast we do have understanding on things in the house.
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
Well at least he does the things that you cannot do like those fixing things. We do some of the fixings in the house if we can, if not then we call for others help. That's i called my father and brothers as one of the girls because they dont like doing things in the house. LOL
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@ckyera (17344)
• Philippines
7 Aug 10
well in fairness to my husband, i think he can really do all those things in the house that i do, just that he depend it all to me now, which sometimes annoys me specially when he don't have work and he's just in front of the computer playing! that's also what we do sometimes, call others to do the things for us, how i wish i have a helper here in the house, household chores are really really tiring! aww! just like my father and my brother!
@Suzieqmom (2763)
• United States
6 Aug 10
Yes, my husband does more than his share of the household chores, as well as yard work. The problem sometimes is that he doesn't do them the way I would, or as fast as I would, and sometimes I become overly critical or just tell him I would prefer to do them myself. However, in moments of clarity, I realize this is not a good approach for either of us, so lately I have been making a conscious effort not to be so critical. I don't always succeed, but I do notice that when I am less critical, he is willing to do more (and do it quicker, too!)
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
Hi suzieqmom, it is because women are very detail oriented. We followed steps on how to do this and that. And we are so used to it that once we are not comfortable on how others doour tasks, we prefer to do them. I just think of how my grandma when she taught on how to wash my laundry
@Suzieqmom (2763)
• United States
8 Aug 10
You are absolutely right, and I try to remember this when teaching my kids--both of whom are boys. Sometimes I get frustrated with them, too, when they are trying to "help" and just make things worse. It is truly amazing to see how differently male & female minds work. In truth, though, I can't complain too much--my father always helped around the house, my husband does, and my boys are willing and eager to learn. I am not sure I would have married a man who doesn't help around the house, and my husband always helped his mom, too, which was one of the reasons I "fell" for him.
@dian21 (606)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
Whenever my husband is in the house, he always helps in all the household chores and also in taking care of my baby. I am just lucky to have him and help me in everything. Because some men I know, they don't want to do household chores because it seems that it makes them less of a man. Anyways, my husband would only be here with us for after every two weeks and would just stay here only for two days because of the nature of his job. That's why, he makes it a point that during his stay here, he would do everything to make my responsibilities here very easy for me or sometimes he would do everything and I will just relax for two days. Good thing is that he does not feel embarrassed even if other people can see that he is doing everything in the house.
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
You are one of the lucky woman. You found a husband that is very much willing to take his share. Seeing them taking care of their child makes him more than a man to me. i agree most of their reasons why they let their wives do the household chores is beacuse they are ashamed of it. They think that their freinds or neighbors would think them as underdog. I just heard one man talking about it lately.
@p3ks626 (6550)
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
Yes! He does help me with household chores. He washes the dishes sometimes and do the laundry every week. I think its a very good thing that he is helping me but sometimes I just want him to do more. Like tomorrow, I will be doing a lot of things but he wants to go out with this friends. I think that is so inconsiderate.
• Philippines
5 Aug 10
:) That was inconsiderate of you. Give him time for him and his friends. You are lucky to have him. I haven't seen my father does that or our neighbor's husbands did that.
@devijay78 (1575)
• India
17 Aug 10
I am a housewife and it is me who does even the smallest work at home. My husband used to cook and help me in the housework when we were newlyweds. That slowly became less and less as he got promoted and started taking more responsibilities at office. He works from home too and that does not leave him much time to do other things. I do have a hired help now, but still I find it difficult because of my small kid. I do not expect him to help all the time or everyday, but once in a while would be nice.
• Philippines
16 Aug 10
I keep the house tidy. My husband is responsible for those tech things and all those things I do not like to do. He fixes the house and does most of the hard work.
@bumami (15)
• Czech Republic
11 Aug 10
yes he does!i am the one who is in-charge i do the laundry the clothes stuff like ironing putting it on the cabinet, he go to the market and cooks for us..
@greenowl (71)
• Sweden
9 Aug 10
Why should just the woman do the household chores if both man and woman are working outside home? It is not helping the wife, he is doing things for their common household just as she.
@shia88 (4582)
• Malaysia
7 Aug 10
Hi, My husband do help me up on housechores,not always but once a while.But everyday he will be doing the laundry for me(dump the clothes into the washing machine) and I prefer I dried them out. Sometimes, he will help me to mop our bedroom floor. Since I am a full-time housewife, I am doing most of the housechores.But when I am sick,then my husband will take over some of my job. I am glad that I have a caring and lovely husband. As long as He is giving me a good life and we have a happy family,it is more than enough for me.
@kring_m (107)
• Philippines
6 Aug 10
I'm a plain housewife and we have a son. I do the household chores but my husband doesn't mind if he does some of the household chores. It doesn't make him a less of a man doing what wives should do. I'm very lucky to have a husband like him. :)
@zralte (4186)
• India
6 Aug 10
My husband definitely helped with the chores. Before we had children, we take turns cooking and washing dishes....and if I don't have time, he will do the laundry as well. I don't want him to do the mopping up and sweeping as he really doesn't do it well and don't care enough....so even if he did it, I always have to do it again anyway. He has no problem helping me out.
@youless (97012)
• Guangzhou, China
6 Aug 10
It is unfair for wife to do the housework alone. Today some women also have to work, and it is so tiring for them to do all the housework when they are home. The family belongs to couples, so they have to share the housework. My husband will help me to do some housework and this is the common sense in my opinion. I love China
@bettydeng5 (1709)
• China
6 Aug 10
This question is often I considerd,sometimes I complained my husband who does not to help me do household chores.Why I am so busy do household chores? I felt very angry when I cleaned, washing, cooking in the kitchen, however he is reading in the house without any help. It's not unfair, why he can see me so busy? I think household chores are not women's patent, if men aren't busy, I think they should help wife do household chores. It's a family, women are not nurse.