Pregnancy affecting relationships.

United States
August 6, 2010 6:50pm CST
I found out I am prgnant with my first child 17 weeks ago! I am nervous and excited but it has been affecting my relationship with my fiance. He is the one who wanted t have kids, not me. He isn't sure if we should have kids yet (too late now thoug :P) and is a bit freaked out. It's a bit of a sour subject right now, but eventually he has to face that heis going to be a daddy. Has anyone else gone through this?? Will he eventually get over it??
6 responses
• Philippines
14 Aug 10
you need to be happy to have a baby its a gift from heaven and as you entering in the relationship and been committed yourself to man you should expect that it will be happen. I think the best thing to do is to let that child born and be responsible with it
@saphrina (31740)
• South Africa
13 Aug 10
Let me put it this way, sweetie. He played along, he have to play the rest of the game. Give him time to get used to it, but don't ever let him make you unhappy about it. Just take your time adjusting to it and i am sure he will follow eventually. Don't argue about it, okay. Luck. TATA.
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
11 Aug 10
Well speak to him and get to resolve the solution.
• Portugal
7 Aug 10
ahah but he wanted so much to have kids ahah i guess that he wasnt expecting it happened so soon^^ i didnt be in this situation but im sure soon he will recover of the shock ahah if he wanted to be a dad so much for sure he be happy bcs he loves you and thats what matters. anyway what about you? you said you are nervous and excited thats normal and i guess he feels the same way^^ soon you will see you and him all happy and buying things for baby^^
@Suke002 (311)
• United States
7 Aug 10
I've never been pregnant or married so, all I can think is wrong is he doesn't feel like he is ready to be a father yet or he was planning on having some time with you first and not have the full responsibility and the time to take care of a child. It's a full-time thing. That's all I can think of what wrong. You should just talk to him and find out for yourself what's going through his mind.
@sjaswon (639)
• Jamaica
7 Aug 10
I am sorry to hear that. You need to plan yours and him. I can't say how to solve you and him. Because I am young.