How long before it is ok to move in with somone who's more than a friend?
By Ceekay1989
@Ceekay1989 (323)
United States
August 9, 2010 11:57pm CST
talk to me people, how long do you think is an appropriate amount of time, to make tat big move amd live together, 2 days, 4 weeks, 6 months, 5 years, never, after marraige?? let me know what you think, share your comments, thoughts, criticisms, and doubts or beliefs, go for it.
5 responses
@bokal2703 (802)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
When I was younger, I feel that it must be just after marriage that you start living with your partner. It is just but normal that it should be that way, being in a society and grew up in a family that are conservative, that was being instilled in my mind. But as I mature and see how many friends marriages broken, I am starting to believe that living in is one way to assess whether you can go through marriage in the future by seeing how compatible or incompatible the couples are. So I think if the couple are ready enough to accept that someone will invade their private spaces and they are ready to accept what others may say or how their family may feel, they can go live together. Its all a matter of taking the full responsibility of the consequence of their actions...I just thought about that, but I don't think I can do it myself at the moment.
@Ceekay1989 (323)
• United States
10 Aug 10
I agree with you I think you have to try it out, how can you marry someone without knowing if you can live with even them? and with divorce rates these days at literally 50/50% chance of failing or working out its sure worth it to try it out before you take that long trip down the aisle. Times have changed so much, look how far we've come and how much everything when it comes to the dating world has changed.
@jugsjugs (12967)
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12 Aug 10
I think that it is always better to get to know a person very well,before you move in with them.I think that after about four or five months is the earliest i would be thinking of moving in with a person.If you move in with a person too early in a relationship then things tend not to work out.Some people only get with another person for a roof over their heads.
@ybong007 (6643)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
6 months is acceptable although i would still consider too early. Me and girlfriend (now my mife) start to live together after 2 years in a relationship. We live together for 5 years before we decided to get married. Being raised conservatively i still consider marriage first before a couple can live together is preferable.
@sach143_u (859)
• India
10 Aug 10
Friend it depends on the particular person how he is and how he use to take each and every matter. But for me i will compromise soon why because if we have same kind of thinking forever then it will destroy us rather than improving. So we should improve in our life and we should stay with all and enjoy the life rather than wasting the life. For me it may take a day or two or a week maximum.
@merma1267 (130)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
Not too short and not too long. It is you that can only determine on this matter. What is important you'll be able to know that person as much as you can THOUGH not easy. knowing someone is not an easy thing to know ONLY when you both living together in ONE house.
