Have you ever dated someone on the strength of someone else??

United States
August 10, 2010 1:03am CST
This has never happened to me personally... but a few nights ago.. I was watching the sitcom "Family Matters" (which I'm sure that most of you are familiar with) and Carl (the father, man of the house and policeman) convinced Rachel (sister-in-law, Harriett's sister) to go out on a date with one of the guys he works with that is over him. Rachel decides to go on the date (not because she's desparate) but because Carl asked her too and told her that a promotion may be in order for him if the date is successful because the guy really likes Rachel. Me personally... I doubt that I could go out with someone I wasn't attracted to or didn't like just because of someone else. It would all have to depend on the extent of the favor, what's in it for me and how that person acts and looks. But since I am married, it will never happen anyway... but some people I guess are just truly loyal friends... Could you go out with someone as a favor to someone you were close to and cared about?? Because I definitely couldn't!!!
6 responses
@keshia2007r (2880)
• United States
10 Aug 10
no, no way. thats something i wouldn't even feel like doing lol. its a blind date and i don't do blind dates. but i know the episode your talking about i just couldn't do it. i mean im in a relationship anyway so that wouldn't work to well w/ my boyfriend. and even if i was single, like i said thats something i just don't feel like doing lol.
• United States
10 Aug 10
I totally concur!! Thanks for sharing your views!!
• United States
10 Aug 10
Such a good question! seriously, I have done this and its the hardest thing ever to be honest, back in high school my friend had a cousin that adored me, and i didn't like him back but it had nothing to do with looks cause he was actually very good looking tall handsome had a job and car kind of guy. My problem was he had a bit of a reputation and I didn't want to become his next ' victim ' so for months my friend was like please just talk to him and see how it goes after 6 months she broke me down made me feel guilty and I talked to him he was EVERYTHING I predicted smooth, knew what to say, never an akward silence, told me I was beautiful ten times too many, was tooooooooo willing to give this 'relationship' his all, it was smothering and I knew what he was after he always wanted something and was always trying I was having none of that I'm nobodys doormat or jezabel. I gave him the boot and my friend, too. Any one who reads this I just want you to know this pleasee take this with you, IF YOU DON'T WANT TO DO SOMETHING DON'T DO IT. Don't let anyone talk you into doing something you don't want, if you say no its no and whether it be your best friend or your mother they have to respect that.
• United States
10 Aug 10
Wow.. that must have been a horrible experience for you. I'm glad you were strong and intelligent enough to see the creep for who he really was. I'm sorry that your friend wasn't in your corner... but as with anything there is a lesson to be learned. Thanks so much for sharing your experience!!
@34momma (13882)
• United States
10 Aug 10
if i was a single girl and a friend asked me to do this to help them out, I would do it. I would not have a problem going on a date just to help someone out. i guess a date for me doesn't mean love and attraction just two people going out for a nice time.
• United States
10 Aug 10
Well that is a different way of looking at it. I guess it would all depend on the person asking me the favor and the person that they were sending me on a date with. lol Thanks for sharing!!
@ada8may21 (2405)
• Philippines
10 Aug 10
I've never done such thing, and not see myself to be in that situation as well. It would be difficult to go on a date that you are not even attracted with. In the first place the reason why you gonna go for a date its because you are interested in that person per say. And the date is the only way you could know him more better. So if in first hand you are no longer like him and you still gonna go for it. You are just pretending and seems you are playing a role in a movie. In short acting, but I am not that kind of person who would pretend someone.
• United States
10 Aug 10
I couldn't agree with you more!! Well said!! Thanks for sharing your views!!
• United Arab Emirates
10 Aug 10
My God how could you convince someone to go on a date with someone else. I would also not go out with someone else like this,.
• United States
10 Aug 10
Neither would I! I actually had a friend today that said that he would "take one for the team!" I said "Good luck with that!" lol Thanks for commenting!!
• China
10 Aug 10
i think we can see this condition from twe sides.if tne one ask you out to date with somenoe for her or him own,you just object to her or him.if she or he think about things on tne side of the angles,you need give it a consideration,not just depend on the extent of the favor.
• United States
10 Aug 10
I guess I can agree with certain aspects of that. I guess it would really depend on what type of person you are. Thanks for commenting!!