Do we need to follow our heart in order to be happy?
By aaronfyzeon
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
Philippines
August 12, 2010 1:00pm CST
We love to do or choose things that will make us really happy. We also choose a person who we think will make us really happy and sometimes get blinded of what lies ahead if you continue being with him or her. Do you think it will make us really happy if there would be a catch in the future?
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14 responses
@hestylim (1210)
• Indonesia
13 Aug 10
Well, every decision we make is like gambling in life. We never know whether the path we choose is right or wrong. What we can do is just believing the path that we take is the best for us, and be ready to take every risk that goes with it.
I always tell myself to not regret. So, I will take everything that I think good for me. When something goes bad, and not as what I want, I will not blame others for that. What I do is facing the risk, the obstacles that I face.
It is not always easy.
Because of unfriendly working environment, I left that job for lower paid job.
I dealt with it till I found a new one.
If you find it is good for you, just do it. It's your life. You responsible for it.
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
Thank you for the nice response! Yes deciding on anything is always a gamble. You will not really know if it will lead you to a good one or a bad one. But if you are no longer happy with the one that you have then you will really be opted to decide for a new one or look for another option. We are always responsible for our lives. Have a great weekend.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
13 Aug 10
I always say that the good choices in life are the ones which make our heart sing whether it is a relationship, a job etc. I think that our hearts really know the answers to most of the questions that bother us; the trick is to learn to listen. In regards to love our intellect very rarely has any say!
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@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
Yes I really agree with you. But it would also really make us happy if we have thought about it a lot of times and we came to a decision that we will be accepting the person we love in our lives. We must always think of all the consequences that lies ahead if we continue to love a person. thank you for this wonderful response and have a great day.
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@de_toya (2429)
• Indonesia
13 Aug 10
Love is the uniting of differences that exist between two people rather than looking for similarities. The differences is natural, the most important is how we accept those differences without making a lie. When the lie is in a relationship, even though it was for a moment of happiness, the relationship will not last long. So, when you love someone and something you do not like about her, you should be honest and tell her. Sometimes honesty is painful but it's better than doing a lie that will cause more pain in the future.
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
Thank you for the inspiring response. Yes I absolutely agree that accepting each other's differences is the key for a happy relationship. In life, we aim for true happiness. If we think we are happy with that special someone that we have then we should also learn how to accept the consequences from what we have chosen. Yes let us also be honest dealing with what we really feel. If we don't feel the love at all with that person then let us tell them and let them know what we really feel. Thank you and have a great weekend.
@edwardjoy2000 (2387)
• United Arab Emirates
13 Aug 10
we always fee that we should listen to heart or the mind. But when you are in love all the rules become null and void. You just listen to the person you love and not u=your heart or your mind. I dont know if listening to the heart will make us happy...but we need to use our minds aswell when we make decisions.
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@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
Absolutely true. Anyway, your mind is the one who does all the decision in yourself. We must think of all the consequences that we will be encountering. It would make us really happy if we came to a point that we have thought all about it and the decision that we came up with is still being with that person based from what we have thought about. Thank you and have a great week end.
@Suggar (3606)
• Bulgaria
12 Aug 10
Hello again
Happiness is a word, what changes it meanings all the time. We got periods and moments, when we change our point of view, opinion, wishes .... :)
We don't know what will happen in future, so let's choose the best for us now, and if it's written, it will be the best for all our life :)
God bless.
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
Hello sugar! nice to hear from you again. Yes I do agree. If get to that period or moment that you were referring to being happy then all we have to do is just enjoy it. You will not experience happiness at all times so if you get sad. Then just deal with it. You have chosen that one and you have to stand for it. Whatever makes us happy as long as we are not stepping in one's shoes then let us make the most out of it. Have a wonderful weekend.
@babz02 (250)
• Philippines
12 Aug 10
If you really love someone, then he/she is worth the risk, If you are truly loving him/her, then you don't think of the consequences, you think of overcoming adversities. Our love ones are worth the sacrifice, because if it is not love, why would you be there? Our hearts can be stupid at times, but it is what brings color to lives. Therefore I conclude that following your heart will make you happy. =)
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@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
Yes, accepting someone is already taking a risk. there would be some problems that you will encounter for sure because for me there is not perfect relationship. If we really are happy with that person then we must go for it. Opportunity to be happy just only knocks not really only once but it is really seldom (not for me though) we should just grab it and enjoy it! Have a great week!
@Bluerain25 (812)
• Philippines
13 Aug 10
Hmmmm following our heart will us happy yes for the moment. But we must take into considerations on what our family would feel about it. In my case i always consider them first before making decisions. I dont want to do things i have done to them before because of following what my heart wants only to find out that it's them i will turn to when things go wrong.
there would be a catch in the future? we never know what lies ahead, we never know what we will be having in the future, we cannot be sure of the future. :)
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
21 Aug 10
hhmmm I would respect your opinion. It is not our families who are going to be with the person we love but it is us. We just have to consult them. What if they do not agree with you being with that person only because the person you love does not fit their standards. But you really love the person. How can you be able to handle that? Would you sacrifice your happiness only because your family does not approve the one you love? Are you not able to stand on your own if things go wrong? Thus is just my opinion Bluerain25. Have a great week end.
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
thank you for the brief but concise response handsome one.
@bloemart (222)
• Philippines
22 Aug 10
Following your heart makes you happy, but if you want a better, successful, happier future you must follow someone's pocket (joke).
For me, I always follow my mind. the reason brain is higher than heart because it knows a lot of things. following your heart gives you happiness, but only a temporary one. Those people who follow their heart and they become happy it is only happen in fairy tales, soap operas, dramas, and movies.
I am just doing a reality check. But the decision is yours.
@sweetloveforeve (13120)
• Portugal
12 Aug 10
we cant choose. love is something you cant choose. right now im really angry with a guy and i just want to slap his face. he said he loves me and cares so much for me and i believe he does bcs everytime we talk he really do care but why when we dont speak he just dont care? why guys say i love you so easy but show it they dont show? he deserved that i yelled at his face!
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
We are after Happiness in each of the relationships that we choose. If we are no longer happy then we should be honest to our partners and to ourselves that we should not pretend that we are still happy. We must really get out of it. Life is so full of surprises. If we are attached to the relationship that we are not happy then we are doing injustice to ourselves. He deserves to be hurt because of not being able to give value for the love you are showing him. It is easy to say I love you but the sincerity is really hard to be felt! Thank you for sharing and have a nice weekend.
@cursoralbert99 (412)
• Malaysia
13 Aug 10
We no need to follow our heart 100% in order to make ourselves happy. We also need to think and reconsider the facts around to make ourselves happy as well. Planning for the good and make self better with moderate expectation will not bring you to frustrations and depressing moments.
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
20 Aug 10
Thank you for the nice response! We should not expect too much for our partners and if they do not meet our expectations. it is the thing that will make us disappointed and will create conflict with the relationship we are having. But then Honestly should always be considered at all times. following our heart would not only make us happy. it will also make us contented. We should always follow our hearts.
@maomao20716 (171)
• China
13 Aug 10
yes ,we need to follow our heart in order to be happy ,or it can not be say "real" happy
if you love someone deeply and can donate all the things for him/her ,you must confirm he/she also can do the same action just like you ,if not ,you will regret sooner or later...
only you two love each other with real heart can lead to real happiness
