How to determine that someone wants you to love her/him?
@cursoralbert99 (412)
Malaysia
August 14, 2010 7:32am CST
It's kind of odd for me to ask this question to all of mylotters around.
Despite being sharp and smart in acknowledging plans to start something and learning something which out of my known knowledge, I am a thick headed person when coming to identify and determine someone who admire and want to further their relationship with me.
It's kind of hard for me to notice it even though some might say it's easy to detect by noticing the difference in their behaviors towards me. Understandable, I kind of hard to fall in love and notice someone who fall in love towards me, perhaps this matter related to my determination to improve my life as top priority. I more thinking of making fortunes than sharing life with others recently.
Or is it perhaps the effect from some failures in my past relationships made me stop having those feelings and start to think of better living by focusing on fortune seeking and plans to have improve my financial status.
I am kind of confused when thinking of this matter, but somehow it's always been interesting for me to get more knowledge of some business natures that might I invested in the near future.
[b]Anyway, is this a nature of a workaholic? or a nature of someone who neglect others from penetrating their thoughts towards what they believe in as misc. matters?
Either, my feelings still been blocked by my thoughts to focus on improving my life before sharing it with someone suitable with me soon?[/b]
And when being asked when I will get married, I always answer "I don't think I want to marry someone".
Hope someone will share with me how the identifying process and why sharing feeling of love with someone important to you since within this few years I am blind to love.
1 response
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
14 Aug 10
hang on a sec albert. Love is something that just wont happen until it is to happen and I am sure that you would fond one soon. There is no rules or process that you have to follow to have someone you can love. That is a feeling which would come from within and you would realize this once you are in love.
Your discussion suggests that you are a workaholic and keep yourself occupied with loads of work. I understand that there are reasons for being this way and in your case you give more priority to making fortunes. I think that despite having a busy schedule and being a workaholic, you should take a break at least once a year and utilize this time in other activities - maybe pursuing your hobbies, traveling, anything that you wanted to do but not work. This way you would have some benefits -
1. You would be re-charged when you are back to work
2. You would also enjoy other things in life and find that you are not meant to be working all the time. Who knows you may find your soul mate during one of these vacations?
@cursoralbert99 (412)
• Malaysia
15 Aug 10
Vacation is something in my mind to plan to, but I wonder if I able to go for a vacation soon. I mostly rushing in my daily life in completing some tasks and always set up the further stuff ahead as preparations. Perhaps after some deals done, I might have time for myself and enjoy the fruit of my works. Maybe you are right, perhaps I found someone during my vacations. But, will my heart open to her soon, cause of my thoughts always on completing some task which I left during vacation soon.
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
16 Aug 10
We make ourselves so busy and keep running after the "money" most of our lives. I was thinking that this happens with people mostly who are in the middle class (in my country) but I feel that people are same the world across.
In this race, we forget that we are humans and meant to enjoy our lives too. It is a good sign to see that you had found someone during your vacations. This means that there is still some hope that you are going to find someone special. Its just about controlling of your thoughts and planning out your life in such a way that you have time for almost everything - the work, the enjoyment, the vacation and the hunt!
Take Care and Best Wishes
@cursoralbert99 (412)
• Malaysia
16 Aug 10
Not yet planning for a vacation, but soon enough will when I conclude some deals around. Being working for so long without taking any vacation and just having some free time online and discuss in mylot kind of soothing things up for me. Anyway, thanks for the wishes! I really need some perspectives from different people.
