saying I love you

Philippines
August 16, 2010 5:44pm CST
I watched this movie where a couple has been together for a year. They are not yet married, just living together. The girl always tell the guy that she loves him but the guy cannot say it to the girl but deep inside he knew he loves her. His reasoning is that he haven't heard his father say it to his mother but they are together for more than 30 years. Do you think is it really necessary to tell our partner that we love him/her? As for me I always say it every time I get a chance. Are you the same? And then why?
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@Angelgirl16 (2177)
• United States
17 Aug 10
Hi juggerogre, Yes, I personally think it is important for me to hear the words, "I love you" from people who do love me. I feel wonderful when those words are spoken with honest feelings. However, Words can be as empty as an upside down bucket. If love is not shown to me, those words are meaningless. They would make me feel as sad as not hearing them at all does. Some people are not as emotional as others, but if you were to continue to verbally tell your mate that you love him or her and you never hear those words in return, has got to hurt, even if you say that it doesn't matter. We basically treat others the way we want to be treated. So, if I say I love you, it is no more than natural for me to want to hear those words back from the person I spoke them to. Of course, we do learn from our parents while we are growing up. We learn good and bad habits. Unfortunately, some of the good and bad habit remain with us our entire lives. However, choosing to change what you didn't like about your childhood is just a decision to make. Anyone can change, if they want to. So, I hope at the end of the movie, the guy had learned how to say those three precious words, "I love you."
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
Yes he did. I agree with you that aside from saying "I love you" what is more important is showing it to the one we love. But it really feels good if I hear that from the one I really love.
@kedralynn (992)
• United States
17 Aug 10
I want to be able to be with someone who I can freely say it to. I was in a relationship for 3 years with someone and neither of us said "I love you." It felt unnatural for us and I guess that should've been one of the first signs that we weren't meant to be together! The partner I have now is different. We say it whenever we feel the urge and we know we mean it. I think it's only right to say it if you really mean it.
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
Yes we should always say I love you to the ones we love for them to be kept on remembering how much they mean to us. But we should not tell it just to fill the spaces from the gaps of empty conversation. We should tell it the way we that is very sweet and romantic. In that manner, the way of uttering the "i love you" is very meaningful. Have a great day.
17 Aug 10
There are people who are not expressive in uttering "I love you". Some show their love by action. Either way loving someone is giving a part of yourself to the person. It means sacrifices, commitment and understanding. Though by showing our love is through our actions, it feels heaven when you heard it from someone who said it by heart and staring at you like no one have looked at you that way.
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
clearly the guy in the movie is not that expressive in terms of saying it. But, you know, me too at first do not like to hear the words every time.. for me, the word is not meaningful already if you always hear it. But I was wrong, we still need to hear it anytime, every time and everywhere because this will only guarantee you that the guy still loves you. My boyfriend, when I told him that he didn't say the magic words fearing to be corrected by me.... but, the moment I was used to it... I was expecting that he will tell me he loves me, but he never say the words. It hurt me, and I told him to tell me he loves me.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
17 Aug 10
Saying i love you is just something that is difficult for some people to do. It doe not mean that the feelings aren't real or that they are not there. For some, the words can come easily. For others, they are just words to say that they think you want to hear. Saying them does not always make them true. If love is in your heart, you find a way to make it shine.
@lealuvy2j (1989)
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
Saying and expressing your feelings for me is very important in a relationship. I know actions speak louder than words but I think any woman would agree with me that love is a balance between actions and words. To feel loved and to hear that three words of assurance is a surefire way for a lasting relationship. I don't agree with the movie you saw but I guess that is why it is just a movie, it is pretty unrealistic.
@kukueye (1761)
• Malaysia
17 Aug 10
Nowsday saying i love u is cheap and every cheater and liar can say that and even promise the partner that he can bring water from the moon to u too! I think beside saying i love u , his sacrifice how he treat the girl and help the girl , his intention and long term commitment is more important that mere saying i love u.I think action speak louder than words.
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
Sometimes the expression of love will not always be meant for saying 3 words, It can also express trough action,I'm very grateful for both of you that you reach that year as a couple..long live and love each other always.
@ddaguno (3110)
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
I think I've wathce that movie, I just cant remember the title. ah... no... it was just similar I guess. the one I was thinking about is Goodluck Chuck. Anyway,I feel sorry for any person who finds it hard to say I love you. You never know what will happen tomorrow. We shoukd say I love you while we can or the person who we want to tell it to can hear us.
• Philippines
17 Aug 10
make it habit to tell your partner that you love them each and everyday. You might think its something they should assume but there is something very special about hearing it from your lips
• Philippines
16 Aug 10
Yep, you know what they, "saying i love you is the hardest thing to do" indeed. But when i love someone i also say it to her. I don't stutter or hold back. I wanna let her know how much i do love her and at the same time show it to her.
@jerikjames (1045)
• Philippines
16 Aug 10
Personally, I think saying I love you to your partner is just a bonus in your relationship because it's only to make both of you feel good on the personal confession of love. But what really matters is how you express or show your love. I always tell my partner that I love her, and I always show her that I really do. And I think she appreciates it that I always tell her how I feel but what really makes her happy is that I show it to her every chance.
• United States
16 Aug 10
I am one person who need to be told people care about me. I want to hear it loud and clear as well. I know some people have a hard time saying this to each other. I really don't want it said to me if They don't mean it.
• Portugal
16 Aug 10
yes we must say it^^ even the guy loves her and knows about it its important that he had tell her that too. is the same that happened to me more or less. i believed this guy words and i felt it he loved me but he knew how important it was for me he showed he cared and he like says he is busy but we talked after it and he said he felt a loser for not answer my messages but that he was tired bcs is working much. well im sick he always find excuses like that bcs he message other people so it means he also has time to message me. thats why is so important we say it to person we love also show it and not just say.