Who Do You Wish You Never Met?
By jujunme
@jujunme (2501)
United States
August 17, 2010 10:21pm CST
For this discussion , i would have to choose my ex-husband, as a friend he was sweet and kind and very attentive. but almost as soon as we married, he became a controlling and mentally abusive individual who attemted to rip me of my self confidence (in the end he lost)rdiculed my friends and was jealous of our baby daughter (she wss the only good thing about my marriage)and so, he would certainly be the person, i wish i never met, since the scars of that marriage, are still with me today.so yes, during our lifetime,we meet and get to know many people. Most of the time, people , such as friends and family,make a positive impact on our lives, helping us to grow and learn.but, at one time or another, someone comes into our lives and causes us so much negativity and pain , that we wish we never met them at all.if you had to choose ONE person that at one time or another you REALLY cared for but, has had such a negative imopact on your life Please explain who the person was and why you wish you never met them .
8 responses
@thesids (22180)
• Bhubaneswar, India
18 Aug 10
Life is a mix of all sorts of people and they all make your life more meaningful and above all, the experiences that you have with them makes your life more educated. I would have never given it a thought - "Whom I wish I never met". But as you asked, There was a guy in the neighborhood when I was at the college, I wished I never met him and held him in the regards that I had for him until one day I found him stealing my money for his sake. If only he could have asked, I would be happy to help him out but stealing the money - this was more hurting.
Lesson that I learnt from this - "Never Trust Anyone even if he/she is your friend for over 6 years".
Happy that the loss happened quite many years back.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
18 Aug 10
You say in your post, that "all" people make your life more meaningful and while i agrre with you that a person becomes more educated by meeting them,but, you also mention that because this person stole money from you, you learned "not to trust anybody" which tells me that this person has had a very negative effect on your life and this is not meaningful or educating. Not all friends will steal from you, not all people will betray you.The fact that he left you with this impression, is very sad indeed.
@Absinto (2385)
• Portugal
18 Aug 10
I wish i had never met my cousin. If i hadnt met her nothing bad in my life would have happened. Since she showed up i turn rebelious and i started to go out more and do things that had nothing to do with me. She mad me a person i did not want to be at the time. Because of her i am very revengeful and i dont get along with any girls, only those that are like me and hang out with more guys.
@soleya (1100)
• Latvia
18 Aug 10
I wish I never met one guy, because of whom I wasted 4 years of my life. I was so obsessed with the guy, that I lost control over my life and all my young productive years I was spending on thinking about him and why everything didn't work out. You know that it is stupid to think about the guy over and over again, but you just can't stop doing it. I just wish I never knew him. I think my life would be much better.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
18 Aug 10
Your post is somewhat similar to mine.I was also with my ex for 4 years and married very young.Even though my daughter was the best thing to come out of this, i spent way too much time thinking how things might have been different if i never met him. it really isn't stupid to keep thinking this way,afterall 4 years with one person isn't easy to forget. All we can do is move forward and think of it as a learning experience and not let it spoil the rest of our lives.
@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
18 Aug 10
That is so sad. That would really be someone anyone wish didn't meet cause after all, is living in the same house.
I wish I didn't meet a friend of mine, wich is not a friend anymore. I was there for her for 4 years, but she wasn't when I needed just once. Of course that I'm happier now that I made her run
@Segerer (53)
• Argentina
18 Aug 10
Each meeting is a good oportunity to learn something even though the way can be hard and painfull. You grow by meeting people, and even if you meet the worst....you are most likely to find at least one satisfaction from that meeting, for example you got your daughter.
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
18 Aug 10
Yes, I do agree that we learn things through the people we meet and as i mentioned, my daughter was the best thing to come from this marriage and for that i am grateful. but, i don't believe anyone should have to go through that much pain, given by someone who once claimed to love you. This man did "not" help me to grow, he just left too many bad memories.
@weejordan (14)
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18 Aug 10
i wish i had never met my ex laureen so was such a fat cow and it ended up a huge big fight between me and my best friend we no longer talk as much as we use to but maybe some day me and him will be best buddies again :)
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
18 Aug 10
Thanks for your response. I do hope you and your friend get together again,losing a very close friend over another relationship must be very painful. but if he is still friends with your ex girlfriend, that may be why it's so hard for him to talk to you the way he used to.
@raviteja_ravi84 (2620)
• India
18 Aug 10
I wish i had never met my ex girlfriend. She turned about to be such a loser and she ditched me for another guy.
Well unfortunately for her or fortunately for me the guy found out that she is a loser and ditched her as well. I feel so good on the inside that i wish i could explain it more clearly right now.
Besides here i like everyone i meet and even if i don't i try to...
@noodleboy (222)
• China
18 Aug 10
I wish I had never met the guys who were playing soccer on the yard of my house.It did really influence my life. Because from then on, I was addicted to football which occupied most of my time during those years and made me lose a lot of things. I am so regretful these days.Anyway,It happpened. But I don't hate those guys, I complaint the God let us meet and caused the bad consequence. Nowaday, I always think if I don't have a yard before my house, how great it is.
