To let me happy or parents

China
August 19, 2010 6:24am CST
I am the only child. And now I work far away from home, and the work is awful.When I ask whether I can change something else, they said NO, for they think it is great in the future( the job is control by the state) and good for my future, what else they want to move here. Now for me I feel sick here. So for whome?
2 responses
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
I think ifyou cannot stand your work anymore, you are not happy and is practically dragging yourself to work everyday - why still go through it? why wait while there are a lot of other opportunities that could make you feel happy, fully satisfied with work. Your parents might not see the hardships you have with that work of yours, but i'd say, decide now. leave or stop complaining. If you decide to leave and resign from your work now, your parents may have their opinion, but it is you that are working, it is you that needs to prove to them to that your decision is correct and you have got to find what makes you happy - your parents will understand you soon enough when they see you slowly succeeding...
• China
31 Aug 10
Just few days ago, I cut my phone calls, that made my parents so worry that my mom came to see me. When the plane landed, I went to the brige to see her, she didn't recognize me from the first look, after she know it is me, she said:" You are so ugly." When I worked out at that day, we went to a place so called restaurant. None the dishes is less than RMB 20(each month payment less than 850). The day after she observed my job, and told me the work was to much pressure. After all, she now know that the hardship I went through. And now we have no misunderstanding. So settle in the northern part of China is my family dream and now I like to continue.
@meemingNEW (2226)
• Philippines
19 Aug 10
Deciding for your future particularly your work/job should be decided by you and only you. Yeah your parents can say whatever they wanna say and they have the right to do so because they are still your parents even though you are dependent already. But still, if you have work/job, its better if you really put your heart into it because that's part of doing your job well if you love doing it. But since you don't, since its awful.. If I were you, even though my parents disagrees with me quitting the job to find something else, then I'd still follow what my mind and guts are telling me. If you're not happy, why prolong the agony. You are already old enough to make decisions such as that. Don't let your parents control you. Do what you think is wiser and better to broaden your working experience. it may be sticking with your current job no matter how awful it is.. or find and venture into something new that you'd love to do because doing something you love is better than something you don't. Best of luck
• China
19 Aug 10
Thank you. I am really appreciate you words. But if I quit, I dont have a way out. To start some small business or just stay at home, I dont have any ideas. And maybe I just want to stay with my family until 2012. That time and the movie really works on me.