Why are there mean husbands that they always cheat?
By raynejasper
@raynejasper (2322)
Philippines
August 27, 2010 4:55am CST
..hi fellas.. I don't understand why husbands cheat from their wives without any valid reason.. in my case, I did my best to be a good wife and good mother.. I don't nag at him when he comes home drunk, I even hug and kiss him and make him a coffee.. I always see to it that he has something to eat before I left for work.. I do the laundry and everything.. I'm even the breadwinner of the family.. I see to it that when he needs me, I'm always there.. what's more to ask? why still cheat on me? when I ask him what's wrong, he would just say nothing and simply say sorry and then do it again.. then he would tell me to trust him.. how can I after all the pains he gave me? this pain cannot be erased overnight.. I'm really disgusted and disappointed right now.. I just realize that maybe I married the wrong guy..
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13 responses
@bystander (2292)
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
there are also mean wives... and they cheat, too... those things are not the sole domain of the male kind, you know that dear... it's just that, irregardless of gender, there are bad, badder, and baddest people...
@Libertywu (136)
• China
28 Aug 10
Hi, Raynejasper, sorry to hear that. Maybe you should let him know your true feeling about his cheating. Sometimes if somebody lie to you for good purpose, we can understand and be moved. If he always did this to you, you should take some action and pay attention to your relationship.
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@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
2 Sep 10
..I've already told him a couple of times.. I showed him how hurtful I am.. I cried so many times also.. But I think it doesn't matter to him.. and I'm beginning to hate him.. thank you for your opinion..
@santosmarichris (1849)
• Philippines
28 Aug 10
So, sorry to hear that. 
I hope you get over this soon. I know it's heart breaking. Don't let him do this to you over and over again, you have to do something about it.
I hope you get over this soon. I know it's heart breaking. Don't let him do this to you over and over again, you have to do something about it. @Libertywu (136)
• China
28 Aug 10
yes, santosmarichiris, i agree with you. You are right, at least you should let him know your feeling.
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@asxenon (1440)
• Malaysia
27 Aug 10
Sorry to hear that raynejasper. Sometimes it is hard to understand a person. For your case, i think your man is really too selfish and inmature. Maybe u did gave him too much that he has nothing else to do and have the time to flirt outside. Pass more responsibility to him so that it occupies more of his time. Also, let him be the breadwinner, else let him starve. If nothing changes, i think it is best 4 u to leave this jerk.
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@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
28 Aug 10
..hi asxenon.. yeah.. I'll think it over.. thank you so much..
@cbar86 (80)
• United States
27 Aug 10
Not all husbands are cheating jerks, but unfortunately a lot of them are. I know it is hard, but leaving him might be the healthiest thing that you can do, for yourself, and for him. If he isn't being faithful to you, he's not happy, and shouldn't drag you down with him. You sound like a wonderful person who knows how to treat a man right, you should go find a deserving man to treat you right too!
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@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
28 Aug 10
..thanks.. you're definitely right.. however, I'm a bit afraid to enter into relationship with another man because I already have the fear that the man will take advantage of my love..
@prettyauds (258)
• Philippines
28 Aug 10
Hi! I feel sorry for you to have that kind of husband. He's so stupid,to cheat on you. Maybe you should take some time for yourself now. He's taking you for granted for cheating on you over and over. Let him realize your importance in his life, He's so lucky that you still able to manage his needs even though you're working. You should love yourself more,take care of yourself and your kid.
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@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
28 Aug 10
..thank you so much.. you're all a great help.. yes, I will love myself too and focus on my daughter..
@youless (112123)
• Guangzhou, China
3 Sep 10
Believe me, I can totally understand your situation. You are a very good wife. Your husband just doesn't know how to cherish you. I also won't understand why there will be so many stupid men in the world. They have a good wife and happy family, why they are not satisfied with it? The life may be plain but simple is the best. I also hate cheating because this is totally disgusting and it will really spoil the relationship. I don't know how to solve this problem because it depends on the husbands. It is so bad that usually people feel regretful when they lose the most precious thing. However, it is already too late.
I love China
@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
28 Aug 10
Hello my friend raynejasper Ji,
It is reaaly little sad, but as per Univerrsal law, everything has limits and boundaries, whert can never be more than that,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,e after Night falls, Day breaks, I am sure this living with your hubby will come to end and he will be at par wit your ideas. It is just matter of time. One has to wait for time. When time comes, just grasp Think that, that is part of your life.
May God bless You and have a great time.
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@p3ks626 (6538)
• Philippines
27 Aug 10
He's just stupid he didnt know that he's lucky to have a wife who never nags at him. I hate men like that. They are really stupid. I dont know where they put their brains or if ever they have one.
I understand how you feel. Take time for yourself. Dont think about your husband. Take time for yourself. Gather the strength and courage for you to be okay. Dont push yourself if you are not ready yet. As you said, the pain wont go away overnight.
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@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
28 Aug 10
..you're right.. Actually, I decided to stay with my friend starting today.. I'd like to think carefully and make a final decision.. I love him but I have to love myself also and consider my own happiness.. Thank you so much for your advice..
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
27 Aug 10
I think sometime you need to do something to make him realize that you care for him and let him think that you are very important to him. I think you pampered him too much and make him think that you are not important and no matter what he does, you will still with him. You can try to ignore him and let him feel like he is going to lose you and I think he will come back to you...good luck, just hope this will work for you. But it is up to you whether you like to use it or not, I am not guaranteed that it will work or harm you..(use at your own risk...)
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@raynejasper (2322)
• Philippines
28 Aug 10
..thanks.. maybe you're right.. like I've said on top,I decided to leave him but I don't know if until when.. I would like to think very carefully and consider my own happiness.. I have the right to be happy too..
@sandzokawa (8)
• Philippines
27 Aug 10
Men think from their groin. As simple as that. Never allow your husband to hurt you that way again, because when you do he will repeat it over and over again.
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@flauee (92)
•
17 Sep 10
im so sorry that it happened to you... if he does it again and again, maybe you to think it over... i know lots of us wanted a complete family but it ain't healthy anymore.. how can you concentrate at work when you will be wondering if his with another one now... and to think you are the one feeding him..
do take time to think things over... thinking of parting with the one we loved for years is painful. but you too deserved to be happy...
take care...
