why they even bother???

@genevy04 (793)
Philippines
August 29, 2010 11:48am CST
My father doesn't live with us anymore.. His work place was transferred to another province and so he has to transfer there too. He hasn't been home here for a month already because he was very busy and his arthritis striked again since it's been rainy these days. Just this week I've learned from a source that a neighbor was spreading bad gossips that my dad suffered from a stroke and that he was admitted to a hospital. At first I was shocked at the dirty news, and then I really got annoyed about the wrong news, and the neighbor responsible for spreading the news, which wasn't really funny at all. I felt totally pissed off that I wanted to confront that neighbor and ask her how the hell did she ever got that idea that my dad was stroked? But I didn't. I used diplomacy on her. I don't wanna mess up with gossipers like her. But what irritates me is that, why would they even bother to bring up an issue on someone who has nothing to do with them? And why is it that, they bothered to build up stories, but never even bothered to ask us, the family of the concerned?
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@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
hello dear,those people have nothing to do with their lives,so they want to ruin other's. don't mind them too much cause you'll just be stressed when you keep thinking of them. we can't avoid to have such neighbors like that.but if it is about family,you can contact your own parents or the people concerned before you believe other people's such craziness. i hope your father is in good condition as of the present time.
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
1 Sep 10
Hi there my friend.. I don't allow those people stress me because that won't do anything good to me, nor my family.. Actually by this time, we just laugh at the rumor.. I mean, what's important of all is that my father is well, and all of my family is healthy too. It's up to their conscience now. If ever something has happened to one of my family member, I'm sure we'll always be the first to know about that and absolutely not those people doesn't even think first before gossiping, or even believing the things they have heard of.. Yes my papa is in very good condition and I am happy for that.. Thanks God because he makes us all healthy and free of any sickness..
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@annavi23 (6302)
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
hello dear,well,i am happy that your family is in good conditions.that's what's important in life,don't believe too much on what others are saying,cause it may just be rumors that are signs of testing your faith. it is much better to know things directly from your loved ones or those people concerned,not just instantly believing on others. i hope those people who like rumors may have carma on their own. it's not good to make rumors when you know it will cause harm or violence to most people around. they are not helping their fellowmen.they are just letting their own selves cause bad image to others.
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
Yes definitely my family are all in good condition.. and I hope my gossiper neighbors will reap a karma on their bad deeds.. Shame on them to build up that kind of false stories. I believe in the saying that what you sow, is what you reap. So If in their lifetime they didn't do good with other people, then they should expect to get the consequences in return.. I just feel bad because they were my sibling's godparents.. How could they do that to their kumpare?
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@cream97 (29175)
• United States
29 Aug 10
Hi, genevy04. I am very sorry about your dad's condition. I am also sorry that your neighbors have gossiped wrongly about him too. As long as you know that truth, that is all that matters. Forget the nosy people whom speculate, to dictate, what they think that they know. Your neighbors, are just doing this because they want to have something to talk about. Their lives are so miserable that they try to get into your lives by gossiping and telling tales. They have nothing better else to do than to aggravate people. They are just bored and are looking for something that will keep them occupied, and that is just by being in your family's personal lives. I don't blame you, don't bother bringing this up to them. Let them think that they know what they are talking about. The truth will come out someday, and the ones that have gossiped will be the ones that will look stupid in the end.
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
29 Aug 10
I agree with you cream.. I think they really are bored with their life so what they do is speculate on other's lives, and I think that's very stupid of them to do.. They're aging already, but I think they doesn't realize it yet. They should be respected. But how will they get respect if they don't even know how to respect others. I don't mind it at all. I know there will always be a karma on what they do. I think they do know that we know what gossip they've spread. Thanks for responding!
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@cream97 (29175)
• United States
29 Aug 10
You are very welcome! I am just telling it like it is. Lord knows, that I have had my share of instigators and gossipers that have ran in and out of my life.. BTDT!
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
Nice to know you coped up with them so well.. That's a good and positive thinking cream.. Thanks again! Anyway, what is BTDT? LOL for me..
@Adoniah (7523)
• United States
29 Aug 10
There are some people in this world who just HAVE to make things up.. It is like a sickness with them...You cannot stop them and you cannot change them. It is just good to be aware of them and avoid them. I am sorry that it upset you...Now that you know about them it should not upset you when they do it in the future. You know that they will. I am sorry that you Father is having to work so far away. It makes it hard for the family Shalom~Adoniah
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
29 Aug 10
Thanks Adoniah, yes I think it really is a sickness already for them. I've read a quote which states that gossiping is like having a malignant throat which is not sore at all. Too bad to have them as our neighbor.. That's why I avoid them, because I know already what they can do, and what stories they can build up. Yes it's kind of hard, but I think we got used to it already.. (our father being far away from us) Besides, I already have my own family.. And he's got his new family now, since my mom already passed away years ago. Thanks for responding Shalom Adoniah!
@Adoniah (7523)
• United States
30 Aug 10
You take care Gen. Shalom
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
You too Shalom! Take care always..
@ip5217 (1656)
• Philippines
3 Sep 10
You are exactly right. People like your neighbor are really annoying. I am always wondering how they can fabricate a story like that. I know there are people born a liar, and I think your neighbor has that kind of disease. You are actually doing the right thing by not minding him.
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
3 Sep 10
Guess my neighbors are a pro in gossiping that's why they invent stories really well! What I can't believe is that they are in their mid 50's already, some mid-40's and yet they haven't even realized that what they are doing can bring nothing but trouble.. I guess my neighbors are severely infected already. I really never mind them at all. They'll just ruin our lives if we get close to them so we beware.. Thanks for responding ip5217!
@juggerogre (1659)
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
They probably just hears a story from somewhere about your father and then created their own version. That's what gossipers usually do. And they don't need a reason to mess with other people's lives. They just want to. So its a good thing you didn't go down to their level. Now we know how celebrities felt whenever there are gossips about them.
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
31 Aug 10
Thanks jugger for your response.. Yes, I would never go down to their level even if affects us.. as i've said, I used diplomacy on them.. It's up to them if they would feel guilty about what they did.. It's on their conscience now and not mine.. What's important is that we don't take them seriously because they won't do anything good for us.. Let them realize what is waiting for them in due time.. I know karma will hit the. And it's not my business anymore.. My dad, my family,They are all healthy.. That's what is important for me..
@nicole00 (141)
• United States
29 Aug 10
Well some people are just cruel. And some others are just plain stupid. You have to ignore what people say and what isnt true, I know words can actually cut you, but tell me this, can words make you bleed? No so they may cut but as long as you dont see any blood theres no need to be alarmed that means as long as there not putting their hands on you or abusing you physically than its ok. Yes these things can wound you mentally but you have to overcome stupid comments by outsmarting the gossiper They dont know anybetter Gosspiers are people that dont have anything better to do, the definition for gossiper is " Bored people who have no life" So to heck with what they say your day is alive and if they want to make dumb comments let them in the long run their not hurting anyone but their selves because it online shows their stupidity and ignorance ok.
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
Thanks for a very nice response nicole.. Yes, gossips can't make us bleed.. and so they shouldn't get us affected in any way.. It just hurts us 'coz I can't believe they really put up stories like that.. I mean, my father, nor my family doesn't cause them any trouble, and my dad already lives far away from here, so why bother to put up things like that when it's not their business anymore. I think the main thing here is their insecurity and jealousy. So we let them get away with it.. What is important for us is that our dad is healthy.. and is not sick at all!
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
29 Aug 10
Becoz some people are really like that. They can't lived without gossips. Well,if we always entertain people of that kind,that will only irate and annoyed us. Better ignore such kind of person. I used to be bothered with person like them,but now i never dare to care anymore. The more you give them attention,the more they hit on us and the more they feel as if they're the right one always (why can't they mind their own business ugh!!!) Ignore them and don't let your day be spoiled with those kind of people
@genevy04 (793)
• Philippines
29 Aug 10
Yes indeed you are right Jaiho.. But you know what, I think ignoringb them doesn't work best all the time.. Because I have this friend who has always been gossiped about by her neighbor, and she just ignored her, but she learned that the culprit have already gossiped her to almost everyone in their place, and it really pissed her off.. Because she was already ruining her integrity.. But in my case, me and my siblings preferred to ignore that neighbor's bad gossip because we think it's not worth any confrontation at all. We just let them realize that what our neighbors heard from that gossiper is wrong. I just hope she realizes that she should feel ashamed about what she did..