What makes a good friendship last forever?

China
August 29, 2010 9:45pm CST
All people want to have the friendship that lasts. This is because having good friends in life is very vital. But what should we do to last the friendship, instead of just wishing for it? It is vital that you look at some of the things that you can do to make sure that it lasts long. How to help not just establish good friendships but those that will last? Is there any good advice to be provided? Thank you for your sharing.
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27 responses
@aevans (255)
• Malaysia
27 Sep 10
There was a time i feel stress to be friend when my friend care too much of our friendship. i appreciate that he care about our relationship, but if you too care about something, things will just get worse. i found that a simple relationship always last forever. we don't have to do anything special to make it last because it can be simple that will last. we care about our relationship but we more care about our friends. understanding and trust among each other is important for friendship
@aevans (255)
• Malaysia
28 Sep 10
Thx..it was hard for that period. But after we have a talk for the matter we are getting better. Now we are still important friend to each other. Sometimes it just need a real talk to make thing better.
@AvI0907 (230)
• Malaysia
28 Sep 10
may be the ones you mean is not your true friend... Simple relation wouldnt be last forever but simple life makes you less of stress?Sometimes, the thing wouldnt goes as easy as we thought. Means simple is not for everything... wish you have a great day with your friends.
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
For me, you just have to be yourself, make sure that your friend knows that you value them, be open and honest with them, and don't lose touch, communicate always. A lasting friendship will get through tough times. True friends will stand by each other no matter how hard things are. They should always talk. A good communication goes a long way. It's just like having a relationship with someone. It's give and take, and lots and lots of communication. :)
• China
30 Aug 10
communication can solve many problems in your friendship. Even if some misunderstandings happened between yours.
@Bhemzky (423)
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
I think friendship or any relationship will last if both parties have good communication for better understandings. It is very important to know whats on each others mind although not necessarily every time but if possible be able to open up things in mind. That way, both will have a clearer and better understanding to one another. It'll avoid possible problems in the future. Happy mylotting!
• China
30 Aug 10
Good views. Understanding well between each other will last the relationship for long. And misunderstanding would be the most terrible thing between the friends.
@mauie0918 (337)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Well making the friendship lasts would mean trust and love! It doesn't measure the longest time, who came first or who cares the best, it's about who came and never left!
@joyce318 (139)
• China
31 Aug 10
Maybe at the beginning, we should take effort to bulid the friendship. But once built, the relationship will not break up easily. For me, I have several intimate friends, but I don't communicate with them frequently, especially after marriage. We even don't have a meet one year, but the heart is connecting together all the time. We maybe will not communicate everything, but the important one must informe the other side. So, I think only be sincere to make friends with everyone, they will feel it. Good friends are not the one who get together all the time, communicate with every ways, but the one who help you when you are in troubles.
@Sakura24 (175)
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
For me, Communication makes good friends stay together and also the heart that cares for each one. I had friends but we are not always seeing because of our line of work. We hardly have time being together and having quality time because all of our schedules won't match but all of us are still communicating through our cellphones and sometimes in computers and chatting. Even if we are all not seeing each other, I guess presence is good but what really counts is how we care for one another in times of each need and we all felt that we have a friend to belong to or a group.
• China
30 Aug 10
Hi Sakura, you are right. It is so important to communication with each other, when we cannot get together. I have several friends in college, but we have several years not to communicate. I hardly to to remember their faces now.
@yugasini (12836)
• Anantapur, India
30 Aug 10
hi liweivei, i always respect friends and treat them as best friends,but they are not doing like that to me, what ever possible to me i will offer to the friends,if they ask me for that thing,i feel happy in giving things instead of taking from them,i am straitforward person,some time i may hurt people with words,but that is my weekness,i am having all friend since 20 to 45 years range,only one friend left me for my hurting words,have a nice day
@GemmaR (8517)
30 Aug 10
I think that you have to be into the same things to have a long lasting friendship. If you can do lots of things together you're much more likely to be able to stay friends with that person than with a person who you don't have anything in common with, and never will. I also think that trust is a hugely important thing. If you can't trust a person, then why would you want to be friends with them in the first place? I know that for me to have a friend, I have to know that I can trust them 100% before I tell them anything about myself that they might not have got to know if they weren't my friends.
@jaiho2009 (39142)
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
Honesty is one of the biggest factor to make any relationship lasts long. We need to be honest and open to our friends,to the extent of disclosing all our secrets (well,it depends on what kind of friend you had or how do you trust him/her) And,being honest means,hurting him/her with the truth. If he/she is doing wrong we should correct them eventhu it hurts. We should tell them that they are doing wrong and yet give our full support to help them make things right.
@AvI0907 (230)
• Malaysia
30 Aug 10
we need to have a strong commitment and respect for keeping a good friendship last and forever. Strong commitment and respect may lets us close to each other in every sense and might avoid conflict. So, to keep hold on a good friendship is not an easy way because there has some sorts of matter which might caused conflict such as individual environment, age, experience etc
@juggerogre (1653)
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
The most important thing for a friendship to last is trust. You'll have to deeply trust each other and don't let that trust be ruined by anything. That way you will be friends in a long long time. And how will you maintain that trust? Simple. Just don't do anything stupid that your trust to each other will be gone.
@deve_annrn (1856)
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
I believe that in order for friendship to last for a lifetime.., the foundation must be strong enough to hold and stand against any storm of trials.., there should be respect in each others differences and trust worthiness.., and being able to listen not just with our ears but with our hearts too..=)
• United States
30 Aug 10
Chemistry, you have to get along with the person and just feel comfortable and able to share a piece of yourself with them. You can't be jealous of them, cause chances are if thats the case you two are too much alike, studies suggest that when there is jealousy in a relationship with anyone whther it be a friend or a significant other, it often means you see things in them that you see in yourself. You also have to be able to feel like you haven't missed a beat, even if you guys haven't seen each other in days, weeks, months. You'll know when you've found a good friend, so theres nothing to force follow your heart, it'll lead you the right way.
@xtmlove (402)
• China
31 Aug 10
For me,I think trust and a sense of understanding are both important at first.Then we should have the same hobbies more or less,so we have topic to conversation all the times.Communication is also very important,we should keep in touch altogether.Sometimes we have some troubles or other puzzle cann't resolve,we will pour out ours trouble to friends.They will try theirs best to help our to get rid of this difficult position.If we can do these things well,I think the frienfship will be last forever!
• Philippines
30 Aug 10
I agree with the posts, i don't often see my friends due to our work but we make sure that we have a constant communication, in which presently we have a lot of means for that such as emails, cellphones, chatrooms, etc. second is trust, and third is you also have to treasure them as they are one of our precious things in life. Quality time usually on during bonding moments make that a time to share feelings, have some good laughs and as an output after a whole day stress at work.
• Boston, Massachusetts
30 Aug 10
Hi Liweiwei, Being there for each other no matter what. do keep in touch and be updated of what's happening to one another. neear or far, we need to let our friends feel that we will always be here for them. The KEY IS COMMUNICATION!
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
30 Aug 10
A good friendship needs a good beginning. it needs a foundation of caring, devotion and trust. It is a bond that can never be severed unless you allow it to be. A good friendship can last forver if you nurture and take care of it. Sometimes good friendships are hard to find. Don't let something good go.
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
30 Aug 10
I think to make a good friendship that last forever is both parties must have trust in each other. And always take care of each other like a brother or sister. Of course there sometime will have some up and down, so to handle this, you will need to learn how to give and take...that will make the friendship last..that is what I believe...
@yeyelee (370)
• China
30 Aug 10
Share your happiness and unhappiness with your friends sometimes,which makes you trustful.Communicate honestly and attentively.Of course,chatting humorously is also a good choice for promoting the friendship.You can organize some activities like singing in a KTV or dining together now and then,that will creat a good circumstance for interaction. Afer all,you and your friends are different individuals,have differernt lives,so how long will the friendship last depends on many things,even sometimes out of your control.Let it be and take everything as it comes.
@Libertywu (136)
• China
30 Aug 10
As to me, sincerity is the most important factor for us to keep good friendship forever. When you really caring about each other, he/she can feel it. Of course, communication is innevitable.