should a mother/father feel guilty?

@zapatee (477)
Philippines
September 5, 2010 12:03am CST
should a single parent feel guilty about leaving their child/children with relatives when she/he needs to work far away from home? tell me what you think, guys?
10 responses
@kquiming (2999)
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
I'd feel sad and guilty if I were in that situation, but I could also understand where the parent is coming from, I mean, let's face it, we all need money and we need really good-paying jobs to pay the bills, kids' expenses, etc.... and sometimes the only option for us is to go abroad. Well I guess in my opinion, and this is just my opinion - if I had to do it, I'd do it, but only for a couple of months, or maybe a few years. When I've finally earned enough, maybe I'll just put up a business so I can be with my child / children and still be the one who personally takes care of them... I think nothing else is more important than time...because it's the one thing we can never earn.
@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
that is true. that is actually my plan. but it'll take a few more years before i can do that. tnx, kquiming!
@fanzejian (372)
• China
5 Sep 10
that all parents should insist never feeling guilt forever is always right and justice I think .children will enderstand why thier parents had to do like that when they grow up.so never complaint your parents what they have done noe or in the future and believe that your parents are right good luck with you .
@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
that's true. everytime i go home and spend my limited time w/ my son i also explain to him why i had to work far from home. he nods and nods and smiles. though he keeps asking more questions, it's alright i just try to explain some more. tnx for the comment fanzejian!
@thebest1 (658)
• Romania
5 Sep 10
Hello! Is hard to find a job,a good job,and also we need money.So,if parents find a job far away from home...well that's all!They must go to work and earn money!Why feel guilty?I think is better to work than stay home without money,doesn't matter where you work. If you don't work,than you feel guilty because you can't buy all your children need. All the best and have a nice day!
@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
tnx thebest1! you're right. im actually referring to my own situation. initially, it was very difficult being away from my son and work far away from home. but after a while, i learned to accept the situation and explain to him why i had to do it. it's for him too. i just try my best to go home whenever i can and spend more of my time with him than with anyone or anything else, although i know it's never enough.
@bingskee (5238)
• Philippines
11 Sep 10
i think when the child is still in the formative years, parents should not leave their children. if it can be avoided, do not leave until they are old enough to understand. in saying this, i think a parent should feel guilty. but that is just me talking.
@Sphinx30 (286)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
We both have the same situation here, I've been married for two years and I have a daughter 2 years and 4 months but she was far from us, she was with my parents-in-law in the province. Because my wife before works far away being a teacher, so she could not take good care our daughter and I have a work also here. Even that we wanted our daughter to be with us but we have no choice because both of us have worked. And it's really hard for us. But I don't feel guilty because we don't actually leave her without a reason, we just giving her a good future but I know time will come for both us together as one happy family. So, Why feel guilty when you know that what you have done is for the good of your child.
• United States
5 Sep 10
No you shouldn't feel guilty at the end of the day you making a better life for your child/children.
@kquiming (2999)
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
I'd feel sad and guilty if I were in that situation, but I could also understand where the parent is coming from, I mean, let's face it, we all need money and we need really good-paying jobs to pay the bills, kids' expenses, etc.... and sometimes the only option for us is to go abroad. Well I guess in my opinion, and this is just my opinion - if I had to do it, I'd do it, but only for a couple of months, or maybe a few years. When I've finally earned enough, maybe I'll just put up a business so I can be with my child / children and still be the one who personally takes care of them... I think nothing else is more important than time...because it's the one thing we can never earn.
@kquiming (2999)
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
I'd feel sad and guilty if I were in that situation, but I could also understand where the parent is coming from, I mean, let's face it, we all need money and we need really good-paying jobs to pay the bills, kids' expenses, etc.... and sometimes the only option for us is to go abroad. Well I guess in my opinion, and this is just my opinion - if I had to do it, I'd do it, but only for a couple of months, or maybe a few years. When I've finally earned enough, maybe I'll just put up a business so I can be with my child / children and still be the one who personally takes care of them... I think nothing else is more important than time...because it's the one thing we can never earn.
@kquiming (2999)
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
I'd feel sad and guilty if I were in that situation, but I could also understand where the parent is coming from, I mean, let's face it, we all need money and we need really good-paying jobs to pay the bills, kids' expenses, etc.... and sometimes the only option for us is to go abroad. Well I guess in my opinion, and this is just my opinion - if I had to do it, I'd do it, but only for a couple of months, or maybe a few years. When I've finally earned enough, maybe I'll just put up a business so I can be with my child / children and still be the one who personally takes care of them... I think nothing else is more important than time...because it's the one thing we can never earn.
@kquiming (2999)
• Philippines
5 Sep 10
I'd feel sad and guilty if I were in that situation, but I could also understand where the parent is coming from, I mean, let's face it, we all need money and we need really good-paying jobs to pay the bills, kids' expenses, etc.... and sometimes the only option for us is to go abroad. Well I guess in my opinion, and this is just my opinion - if I had to do it, I'd do it, but only for a couple of months, or maybe a few years. When I've finally earned enough, maybe I'll just put up a business so I can be with my child / children and still be the one who personally takes care of them... I think nothing else is more important than time...because it's the one thing we can never earn.