Are all mens like this?

Finland
September 5, 2010 12:42pm CST
I have this problem, if someone helps me i will be happiest person ever. I always clean house by myself, when i ask him to help he tells me that hes done something too = sitting on computer drinking coffee. I have tryed not to clean. We even had flyes everywhere, but still hes not doing anything. What should i do to make him clean too?
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@cream97 (29166)
• United States
5 Sep 10
Hi, Laurenzixi. Well if he does not help you clean up, just leave his side messy and just clean your side up. If this does not work, then vacate your home and let him stay there all by himself. It will be just him and his mess that he has made. He should at least help you clean up. Using excuses only makes him look lazy.
• Canada
5 Sep 10
That is a great outlook it really is...
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• Finland
6 Sep 10
i tryed that too...not working :/ thats why i made this conversation, to find new ways from others opinions...
@tatturoy (139)
• India
5 Sep 10
You cam try one think.Dont do any of his work.If he asks you,tell him- its your work,you better do it.If he still doesnt do,then its his basic nature, you cant do anything.Wish you all the luck.
• Finland
6 Sep 10
well i tryed that one too...
• United States
5 Sep 10
Oh wow...I have had the same problem. Mainly with the dishes. I always end up doing them. My fiance usually says that I don't give him the time to do it because I want it done right away or he says that I make him feel like he doesn't do anything around the house. I told him that he does do stuff, but I get overwhelmed doing everything myself! Doing house work is a lot more work then men think. Yea, I have tried the whole 'do nothing and see if they notice'. It doesn't work because he says he just waits for me to do it. I have had many conversations with him about this issue. I tell him that I do appreciate any help he does do. He says that we never go and do anything. I simply tell him that it's because I have stuff that I want done at home. I told him the stuff I like to have done everyday, but I don't always have time for it. He tends to start helping out more. for example, I woke up this morning to coffee made, dishes done, he swept down stairs, and got the animal hair off the couch. Have you tried telling him your feelings on it? granted, sometimes it has ended up in a fight, but points get across and things are so much better after we talk. Hope this helps! :)
• Finland
6 Sep 10
tryied that so many times...i tried to cammand him today "now you will wash those dishes and ill clean up other rooms!" it worked...kinda. he did washed the dishes, but when i asked him to help me cleaning other rooms he went lazy and it started again...
@Aja103654 (5658)
• Philippines
9 Nov 11
nag him? but that wouldn't likely give results, he'll just get annoyed so... 1. plug off his computer if he doesn't listen for like the 100th time 2. reward him something as a promise 3. leave the house until he cleans it?
• India
6 Sep 10
Hi Laurenzixi, Its really very bad when one had to take all the burden of the house-hold responsibility alone.Yes all men are the same, so there must be one common answer to the problem associated with the men,after all if we ponder into the world of worms or insects these men are born and brought up by the women only therefor its totally in the hands of the women how to handle or inspire these men to do the jobs. The women who have change her self to make the men work is what the all women has to learn the tatics so that these men do the jobs automatically without any forcing or ordering,these simple clues are always very abundantly available to the women in the lap of Mother Nature itself i. e. except we humans being all the animals and the insects or rather all the living things know it better and the females have to sharpen its true skills.
@BlueAngelRS (2900)
• Canada
5 Sep 10
I think alot of men are like that.....I think that if you let him know that it hurts you when he doesn't help or use an I feeling when trying to get him to help clean...