Whats the difference between Flirting and a Normal Talk?

@gunagohan (3414)
India
September 6, 2010 7:38am CST
Well, i have seen most of my friends comment on other people who talk with opposite gender as Flirting and they use a word in my Regional Language which is very common among the youngsters.. Whenever they see a boy talking to a girl , they just say that they are Flirting.. So, i'm in a confusion between the Flirting and the Normal Talk.. Whats the actual meaning of Flirting and the Normal Talk.. Even if a girl talks to a boy normally , other guys surrounding just call the conversation as Flirting..
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@diamania (7011)
• Netherlands
6 Sep 10
Normal talk is just normal talk. Flirting involves sexuality and playful chitchat, little bit of banter and playful annoyances.
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
6 Sep 10
Come on, in my place it's very common we call a boy and a girl talking in public as flirting..
@diamania (7011)
• Netherlands
7 Sep 10
What 'come on'? Flirting really is what I am saying it is. I gather that in your country/region/area/neighbourhood a ordinary conversation between a boy and a girl is erroneously called flirting. Really if I am talking with a girl I am not always flirting, same goes for other people. It's not always flirting, rather a chitchat or small talk.
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
4 Oct 10
But , this is in the reversible format in my place..U find a pair talking to opposite gender, we classify it as Flirting !!!
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
Normal talk is an innocent conversation. Flirting includes from subtle jokes to a more vulgar but appropriate one. That's what i think.
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
6 Sep 10
it's ok, why have u made 4 replies to this topic at an instant?
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
It's a phone glitch. I'm using my phone to post and i was redirected to the "post response" page four times. Lol.
@balasri (26537)
• India
9 Sep 10
If you find the way you talk ridiculous it is flirting. And if you feel normal as you talk it definitely is a normal talk.
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
9 Sep 10
It's possibly an easy thing to identify for the two people involved in the conversation whether they talk or flirt.. I'm mentioning about the third person who is watching the conversation!! How could a third person should conclude it's flirt or a normal talk!!?
@Ramaditya (1227)
• Indonesia
7 Sep 10
I think this is more to your custom. Is it normal for a boy and a girl to talk just both of them? Or not? I believe normal talk is like we speak to each other. Even a couple can talk normally. What matter is in what context we speak. Flirting, in my opinion, is one of the acts to seek attention from the opposit genre (man to woman, or vise versa). It involves giving sweet words, over-reacting actions, etc.
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
7 Sep 10
I got it!! Attention, sweet words and over reaction !!!
@rmnrmn (688)
• India
8 Sep 10
Flirting is diferent from norml talk. When a person flirt, its pumper the other one whom for those words said. Example, "you looks pretty today, do u know wats best thing about you?" People do flirting to impress other people which is not necessarily mean only for opposite gender. It can be for same gender too! Its for impress peole through words of mouth. Too much flirting might be an irretating thing. Everything has a limit to do. While normal talk may be discussion, enquiry, sharings thoughts and so on where as flirting only consider pumpering or sometime unrealistic comments like " when I see you, I like to fly"
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
9 Sep 10
Yeah got it.. Thanks for the real time example.
• India
7 Sep 10
i think when you talk to any guy or boy or man its a normal talk,but when you talk any beautiful girl or woman in your college or places where you work is called as flirting..!!
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
7 Sep 10
So, u say beauty plays a role in between a conversation?
• Singapore
7 Sep 10
LOL, flirting and normal talk are completely two different things. Flirting involves some "sexy talks" while normal talk is just a mutual conversation.
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
7 Sep 10
Thanks for your response.. In my place here, if a group of boys catch a conversation between a boy and a girl, they just call it as flirting, without having the in depth knowledge of the nature of conversation !!
@mikeowl (200)
• Malaysia
6 Sep 10
Flirting is more like playing with the words and contains flirty words. Chatting is more towards normal chats and there is no intention to play around. Flirting is more towards playing with the other party and having the intention to flirt with the other party. That's what I thought of the difference between them.
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
7 Sep 10
Flirty words in the chat !!!!! This is really explaining.. Let me add this to my research !!!
@ANIME123 (2466)
• United States
6 Sep 10
To me I don't think that my friend ever talks to boy in a normal way she is always flirting with them because she giggles and she twists her hair with her hand it's really easy to tell and then I tell her why were you flirting with that boy and she says really I wasn't flirting with him and I told her what she was doing and she said that she didn't notice, but I knew that she was flirting it was really obvious. I think that she denies that she was flirting because she does not want anyone to find out especially her boyfriend because then she would get in trouble and she does not want to get in trouble with her boyfriend because she loves him a lot. Still in my eyes I still think that flirting will be a sign of cheating for me that's how I will always see it. Other people don't consider it cheating, but in my view I do see it as cheating. Anyway I wouldn't go off and tell her boyfriend about that since she is my best friend and her boyfriend is just a friend to me and not a best friend so I would never tell on her. Anyway ever since she has been with this boy she has changed a lot and in a good way because she is like totally new boyfriend I am just glad that he treats her with respect and that they both get along.
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
7 Sep 10
Great and a better real time example.. Thanks for the response!!
@jennbart (1330)
• Philippines
7 Sep 10
Normal talk is just talking. Flirting is when a person touches the person they are speaking to. Also, when the topic is kind of suggestive of a date. Twirling of hair,blushing. placing hair in the ear..
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
7 Sep 10
Date--This is highly understood.... But i have found many group of youngsters just comment a normal conversation to be a Flirting..
• Portugal
6 Sep 10
yes ahah some people say a boy and a girl cant be only friends bcs there is always one of them that has even a lil crush ahah my sis said that at least one of them had to love the other once at least. about me i dont think so :) sure a lil crush is normal but love really i dont think. i used to have many friends boys in school and we were all good friends only :) but yes i had a crush on my best friend ahah so i dont know really^^ but sometimes boys talk with girls without flirt^^ it depends if you like the way other person talk or not^^ and if attracts you^^
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
7 Sep 10
Attraction----A word that matches the flirting sense
@cajimenez (452)
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
I think normal talk is just a normal conversation. Flirting on the other hand may be a conversation that looks normal but it includes certain malice. Friendly conversation with a touch of malice, I think that's it.
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
7 Sep 10
Friendly conversation with little toppings? I think this is getting a better shape on the topic!!
• India
7 Sep 10
well according to the difference between normal talk and flirting ..is that wen u tok to a girl..and is sum or the other way try to impress her wid ur talks.. or show her inderectly that u r interested in her .. where as in normal thalk this doesnt happen.. u jst tak normally wid her!!
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
7 Sep 10
Thanks for the response... Creating an extra impression telling that he is interested in her!!
• United States
7 Sep 10
Flirting is talking to someone using gestures and their body language saying "I like you" and the Normal Talk is talking to someone without using these "I like you" gestures.
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
7 Sep 10
oh thanks for your response!!! Welcome to mylot !! Have a great time !!
@redhotpogo (4401)
• United States
6 Sep 10
Flirting would be giggling alot. Holding the person's arm, or touching them alot. Talking about things with that person that doesn't interest them. Laughing at things that person says, that they wouldn't normally laugh at. Talking in a way to impress someone.
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
6 Sep 10
I got it.. Trying to capture the attention is commonly the Flirting !!!!
@vandana7 (98876)
• India
6 Sep 10
Guna - there are many factors involved here. You all are just coming into the adult group. There is change in the social pattern, and consequently, some confusion. A normal conversation for 15 minutes between fourth standard students of different gender would not be any different from similar conversation between 18 or 20 years old. The only difference is there are hormonal related feelings that may be coming into play now. There is this need to tease may be? If so, it is flirting. If not, it is normal talk. :) Why teasing should be treated differently at this stage would be your next question I presume. After all, we all tease our friends and close relatives. But we dont really think that much about them as we start thinking about this person or persons. Likewise, we may even be feeling shy or hesitant to talk, something we never felt when we were young. So when such emotions come into play, the talk ceases to be normal. Then again, some boys may be growing up faster than others, and therefore, they presume others feel the same way as they do, which is not always right. Last but not the least is our cultural upbringing, which inhibits us. But we are at a stage when we are willing to defy it. We would like to do what we are asked not to do. :) That is when it becomes not normal. :) Hope I have explained it satisfactorily. :)
@gunagohan (3414)
• India
6 Sep 10
I have read it twice.. I have understood some main concepts!!!
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
6 Sep 10
I see normal talking as just conversing with someone. you are just passing your time in conversation with another person who shares your interests and views. Flirting is something different. You are doing your best to gain the attentions of another. You don't even have to speak to flirt!
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@gunagohan (3414)
• India
6 Sep 10
Wow !!! Excellent !!!!
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
Normal talk is an innocent conversation. Flirting includes from subtle jokes to a more vulgar but appropriate one. That's what i think.
• Philippines
6 Sep 10
Normal talk is an innocent conversation. Flirting includes from subtle jokes to a more vulgar but appropriate one. That's what i think.
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
6 Sep 10
Normal talk is what we do here, sweetie. Flirting can be a lot of things, but it ends up with much more than talking. I see guys are good at it these days. You will not try it out now, okay. TATA.
@vandana7 (98876)
• India
6 Sep 10
Really, now? Who are you fooling blondie? None as dumb as you around here..
@vandana7 (98876)
• India
6 Sep 10
Guna - she has invited you to flirt with her with "you will not try it out now, okay".
@saphrina (31552)
• South Africa
6 Sep 10
Vannie, i love to flirt with my boyfriend. I can only give one that much attention, you know.