When is the right time to get married?

United States
September 7, 2010 7:48pm CST
I had this relationship until now for 9 years and its been the happiest thing in my life and we still deciding when to get married? Is it really important to have a good financial support rather than being mature enough to be ready to settle down?
12 responses
@franne32 (694)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Nobody can tell you when the right time of getting married is. It varies from a couple's point of view to a bystander like me. For me, I think it is important to have BOTH financial support and maturity in settling down to establish a good foundation for your marriage. You can't get married without money and you can't have a solid married life without dealing with it in a matured way.
@franne32 (694)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Additional comment: It doesn't mean you have to be rich...just enough to support the both of you if one of you has no job currently as you've said. If both of you are ready to get married and can actually deal with problems in a matured way, then it's okay to tie the knot.
• United States
8 Sep 10
Well I guess that I'm right! Money is just very important whether to decide to get married when and how...
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Wow..9 long years..i think that's really enough to level your relationship up to the next level. For me, the right time to get married is when you and your partner are both ready, physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually and financially. And of course being mature enough is part of it already..mature enough and ready to face the challenges of a married life. Good luck to you and your partner :)
@gaiza12 (4884)
• Philippines
9 Sep 10
Yes i think you should also take into consideration being financially stable because who would want his family to suffer from hunger and paying the bills and other physical needs..i mean we don't have to run to our parents always when we need money since we are already married individuals.
• United States
8 Sep 10
Is it really important to be ready FINANCIALLY? I mean We are both ready physically, emotionally, mentally & spiritually but the other category is kinda difficult knowing that I only have one job and my girlfriend is hard to find a job. and sometimes I just think "What will be next?" knowing that its not that easy to get married.
• Malaysia
9 Sep 10
For me, yes financially stable is important..but the most essential thing is how you felt actually..
@shia88 (4571)
• Malaysia
8 Sep 10
Hi, 9 years relationship is pretty long and salute both of you. Before deciding to get married, it is best to have a stable financial support and make sure both of you are ready to walk into the marriage life. Marriage life is totally different with dating life. It is like another new world to explore. It is pretty important to have the proper discussion on where to stay after married,etc.. Some people avoid staying with their in-laws,but some are agree to stay with their in-laws.It is best to have this agreement before decided to get married.
• United States
8 Sep 10
Thanks for the advice! We have both agreed to get ready for it but its just hard to decide what to do first...
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Theres actually no right or wrong time as to when youll get married, it about having the perfect man at the perfect moment. You can actually feel it if he is already the man you wanted to be with for a lifetime, and if you feel the magic that signals thats that is the best time.goodluck
• United States
9 Sep 10
Thanks for the advices you given me!
@aaronfyzeon (1920)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Hello there! The best time to get married if you feel like you really need to get married already. If you are already successful which means you will be able to be financially stable, If you are already sure of each other that this person you are going to marry is the person you want to be with for the rest of your lives. Then It is time for you to get married but just plan the whole thing in advance. Good Luck!!
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Thank you for making this the best response. This is my first time though. It is really nice that you get this kind of recognition just out of being honest with what I feel like posting my response. This is also the basis that I am having because if i really feel the urge to tie up the knot and we are already engaged for a long time and i feel like i already know this person then I will be more than ready to plan for the wedding. either it would be a simple one or grandiose. Thank you and enjoy the rest of the week.
@jojorv (201)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
the best time to get married is when you are financially stable to support a family and when you are emotionally stable to withstand your nagging wife. ha ha ha. kidding aside, before you get married you should have a stable job and a stable heart. getting married is no joke, its a responsibility.
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
The best time to get married is when you're already sick of being single and wanna start a family. You can't really focus on the marriage if your mind set is still in "single" mode.
@Metatronik (6199)
• Pasay, Philippines
8 Sep 10
I agree that financial support is still needed for you to settle down.
@misheli (552)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
It really depends on the person. And yes it is important to have a good financial support. You have to be stable so that you can give a good and better life for your future kids. Being together for 9 years i guess you are both mature enough by now. And the most important thing is Love, if you love the person and you want to be with him/her for the rest of your life I think the is the best time to get married.
@rhodzptc (1317)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Me too have been encountering same situation as you are we are both have a stable job and the only thing is missing is the marriage. We don't like commitment yet as far as I know we too like the status of being single but I was asked by my parents when should we get married because we are not getting any younger any more.
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
8 Sep 10
Marriage is a contract made by two matured persons who decides to share their lives with each other. Financial security counts but most of all,true love matters most!