i enjoy being mother but,
September 15, 2010 4:57am CST
its hard sometimes to a new mom, i have a son and he is toddler now and its hard to deal with him because if he want something but i don't know what something he wants because he can't say anything and he don't want to speak on his mouth so i am confused and i am stress about everything around this house and i can't relax because i have so many stuff doing and my husband sitting on the chair playing combat arms while im cooking,cleaning and his son is crying... And my husband he still smoking he always promised me that he's stop smoking but he did not promised it!! i can't live like this!!! And my son im still breastfeeding him how can i stop weaning him? i try so many times but he can't stop breastfeeding him!!!!
• United States
19 Sep 10
I do not think that anyone has ever said that motherhood is easy. I actually left my husband with our child for 2 days. The house was clean, the laundry was done, i even had the meals laid out for him. I came home to my child filthy dirty, my house looking like a tornado had hit it, and my husband all but pulling his hair out of his head. he handed our daughter back to me, and disappeared to take a shower(he couldnt find the time to do it). Since that little lesson, he has been much more helpful.
17 Sep 10
I can totally relate to you as a new mom. I, too is a first time mom to my toddler. He is 2 yrs and 7 mos old but he utter couple of words only; not that conversational type of talking or speech. I am quite stress with his speech but as his Pedia was saying that there's nothing to worry about as long as he produces sound whenever he opens his mouth. Besides, I have read that child development can be different from one child to the other. In fact, we have a neighbor whose child (also a boy) started talking only when he was 4 yrs-old. I also brea$tfeed him to this date. Just a month or a couple of months ago, I was also bothered with the fact that at his age I was still brea$tfeeding him. I am a working mom. God knows I went through a lot of difficulties with it. I had muscle pain due to brea$tfeeding. The pedia also said that I should begin to stop brea$tfeeding him because to a toddler, the nutritional value of brea$tfeeding is less. And so I tried to cut it off, but he was not taking a 'No' for an answer. I tried bribing him -giving him his favorite foods or toys in lieu of brea$tfeeding him. But it just didn't work. And I was feeling guilty, I pity him. Finally, it came to a point when I said, okay, fine! brea$feed him as long he wanted to. Surprisingly, late last month, I noticed that he do not brea$tfeed that much anymore. Although we are in the same position of brea$tfeeding, most of the time he's just into it because of cuddling and playing stuff, and not really feeding himself. I therefore conclude that children do really "grow up". It was just a matter of time. With your husband, I think you just have to talk things out. There's nothing that cannot be talked about especially so when our children are at stake. Talk and listen to him. Explain to him your side of the story and listen to his also, compromise. Remember that keeping the family together is part of being parents to your child. Enjoy Parenthood! ;)