For the women... on pressing charges on abusive BF/Husband...
By chiyochan
@chiyosan (30184)
Philippines
September 15, 2010 11:09pm CST
Hi Everyone, you know i just cannot think why some mothers would really let a situation such as the one we saw in the news the other day pass.
Her baby- barely a year old is vomiting weird white stuffs - when she went to the doctor, she was advised that it was actually a man's semen. so she went back and put a camera on their room. later that day she found out that instead of milk bottle, her boyfriend was letting the kid suck his private! (sick man!! by the way). She filed charges against the man - but later on i guess she was paid and she dropped the charges!!!
If you were the parent in this situation will you drop the charges? - i would think that beating this guy brutally is not even enough to cover what he's done to my child!!! How could some mother really not care so much as to protect and fight for their kids???
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9 responses
@emgee595 (335)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
What that despicable man did was horrible and very repugnant! He should not be allowed to walk freely in the streets otherwise more victims will suffer what that poor lady and her baby underwent. He is a menace to society and the baby's mother shouldn't dropped the charges. No money can pay for what that sick man did to her baby. He should be put in jail or must be given medical attention to stop him from causing harm to innocent and helpless victims.
There are laws protecting the rights of women and children. The law on Anti-Violence Against Women and Children (also known as the Anti-VAWC Law) is an one of these. There are also laws against Child Abuse. I hope the mother was given proper legal advice before she opted to drop the charges against her abusive boyfriend. Even if she doesn't want to go through the hassle of litigation, she should at least let the State make appropriate actions so to punish and/or correct the misdeeds of her boyfriend. Acts like this should not be disregarded because our failure to address these matter might boomerang and she is setting free a very dangerous man in exchange of some money. We should never forget that money cannot buy life nor money can correct the psychological damage that man has done to the baby.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
you are right. it is really about the mother. i think she herself is not a fit person to become a mother. any normal mother would not let this pass.
my only confusion was that how come the police did not pursue the case, since the crime is for children right, it should have been a criminal case... i would think.
@emgee595 (335)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Yes she shouldn't have let the reprehensible act done by that man pass. She should have abhorred what that man did to her baby. Maybe she wanted to avoid the scandal or maybe she is afraid to get involved in a tedious litigation or still maybe she cannot afford to file a case against that man but still she should have done something to stop that man from doing harm if not to her, then to other unsuspecting children or women. The police should have given assistance to that poor woman. There are public attorneys who can give her proper legal advice on what to do in cases like this even if she cannot afford to hire her own private counsel. This is a matter of fighting not only for your life or for your rights but also for the life and rights of your loved one. Her courage and initiative could also save lives. The bottomline is she should have done something...the government could have done something and that criminal should not be walking in the streets like any other free man.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
16 Sep 10
Pressing charges against the man they love is not an easy task for all women to take on. When there is abuse in the relationship, you have to take a stand. You have to do something whether it is something you want to do or not. When your life or your child's life could be in danger, you have to get help when it is needed. The next time you may not be so lucky to make a choice.@emgee595 (335)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
Yes it is very difficult to file a criminal case against someone you love. It will break anybody's heart to see the person you love sent to jail because you wanted him to be punished. However, there are exceptions and this is a classic example of that exemption. What you said is very true. Abuse, in whatever form, should not be ignored nor taken lightly. Loving someone does not mean giving him the right abuse and inflict pain to you and your children. I totally agree with you. When your life and your loved ones' lives are in danger, no matter how much you love that abusive person, you have to get out and save your lives. Otherwise, it may be too late and the damage could be worst than what he has already done. Sometimes we need to stand up and defend ourselves. It does not necessarily or literally mean that we have to fight back. Sometimes it simply means seeking help and protection or simply just staying away from that dangerous man and that means keeping him out of your lives.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
16 Sep 10
I would have killed that man! I would have beaten that man to a bloody pulp! What the hell?! That is so sick! That man should have gone to prison. That man should have suffered a consequences. I would never let a man do that to my child. That's horrible! Why doesn't that mother care for her child?!
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
17 Sep 10
He'd be lucky to be alive! The fact that I had a small child would be his only security!
I would not drop the charges he needs to go away for a long time!! But you have to remember that when we are caught up in abusive situations there is a lot of fear. That sometimes rules over sane decisions!
I would not drop the charges he needs to go away for a long time!! But you have to remember that when we are caught up in abusive situations there is a lot of fear. That sometimes rules over sane decisions!
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
16 Sep 10
The heck!!! The guy don't just deserve to be imprisoned. He is a sick nympho. If I would be in the shoes of the mother, the money is not enough for what the guy have done to my baby. His life is not even enough for that abusive act he has done. I cannot control myself saying the F word when I read your discussion my friend.
@BrittneeD (351)
• United States
16 Sep 10
Maybe she did not want to go through all of it never the less I would never see the man again or let him into mine or the childs life ever again. Yes this is sick and he should be locked up but can you imagine how the woman may be feeling right now with everyone knowing she left her child with this man not knowing he could be like this I'm sure people are tellling her she should have known there should have been signs Maybe she finds it easier just to cut him out of her life without the whole court case and media to go along with it.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
20 Sep 10
oh.. i would see the point, but most mothers i knew who knew about this would not even want this guy to live anymore. how can a mother let a man get away with this. i would not even think that i have had a relationship with this man - he would only look like a monster in my eyes!!
