How do you confront a friend who has lied to you?

Nigeria
September 18, 2010 8:38am CST
This is a very difficult situation. I knew my friend lied to me because I discovered the truth. I felt bad. What do you think I should do?
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4 responses
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
Try to approach him/her as kind as possible to avoid quarrels. I'm experiencing same situation too but he's a guy. I do not actually love him but I want peace but I think he feels that I like him and that I'm stalking him... If thinks get worst, try to ignore him/her by not sending any messages anymore There's a lot of people deserves your GOOD HEART, don't stay to those who uses you. GOD BLESS US FRIEND!
@Catana (736)
• United States
18 Sep 10
For me, whatever I did about it would depend on a couple of things. Is the lie really serious, something that could destroy the trust you had in your friend? And is it part of a patter? Is this someone who lies a lot? If it's the first time your friend has lied to you (as far as you know), then I'd certainly talk about it. You have to find a way that doesn't make the situation worse, though that's not always possible. Stay calm. Don't accuse them of lying. Just state the facts -- what you found out. If your friend gets mad or starts denying that he/she did anything wrong, you're probably not going to get anywhere in finding a way to settle it. Again, depending on how serious the lie was and how your friend reacts to being found out, you might have to give up the friendship. Friends have to trust each other, and anything that shows that you can't trust this person is a good reason for ending it. It's possible your friend thought there was a good reason for the lie. You just don't know what's in other people's heads, and you need to give this person a chance to explain themselves, if he/she can.
@chiyosan (30206)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
i would definitely go and talk to the person, i will not confront anyone, even my friends i have this tendency to just shake and not do what i will say if i get really angry, i am not a confrontational person really but i will be able to face someone who's done me wrong and to someone whom i've done wrong by talking to them face to face in a very good tone.
@segungb (169)
• Nigeria
18 Sep 10
If you are too hurt to talk face to face, send a text message.