when he/she doesn't want you anymore

Romania
September 18, 2010 11:19am CST
what would you do if your were supper in love with somebody but he/she wouldn't want a relationship with you. or even worst act like you don;t even exist?
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6 responses
18 Sep 10
Well this has actually happened to me.... After having been together for nearly a year she started making excuses like I was too young which is true there was a massive age gap but I didn't care but it was harder for her I guess since she was the older one. I always thought about her and it got in the way of my life and I failed some of my exams I was pretty heart broken. It took me a year to get over it I just had to wait it through there is no quick way to go about getting over someone. I stopped seeing her completely so that did help to speed up the process. Now I am so so glad I'm over it, we still keep in touch but not a lot. I have forgived her, I don't want to remember the past with her anymore and I'm happy being the single person I am :)
• Romania
18 Sep 10
this happened to me too ::(...at the begining he was like soo in love with me .. we used to talk on the phone for ours, he told me that he got used to talking to me and that if he didn;t hear my voice for one day he was soo sad. the first time when we kissed was like wooow... I don't know he was also really good looking, handsome and sexy. so as I awas saying everything was ok till one day he strated to behave really weird. I asked him hey what's wrong with you..and he said that there is nothing wrong and that it was only my imagination. but he kep acting really weird till one day when he told me that it would be better for both of us to stopp seeing each other..I was devastated...the first month was horrible. I felt like I was going crazy. I was hugging the pillow and crying for hours. 6 months passed and no sign...till one day he have me a message on yahoo messanger and said that he felt sorry, and hoped that I would forgieve him and that we could be friends. if I didn;t forgieve him he would understand. we kept talking and from time to time he kept sugesting me that he would like us to be together, that he would like us to go out, that he would have liked us to continue the relationship. he also explained me that he was forced to break up with me beacuse his ex kept looking for him and she treathenead him that she would kill herself. i was like ok we/ll see what happens ... and after that...no sign again. after one month he told me that he would like to see me. I accepted we talked alot went to the cinema, he hugged me but he didn;t kiss me :(, we went a few times in the park..and nothing more. I don;t know what to do. I;'m so confused. he's the only guy that I like and right now he doesn;t give me any attention. I mean why did he say that he would like us to still be together if he does nothing...I know that he keeps on having problems with his ex...he said he liked me and that he didn;t want to hurt me and that he would like us to be friends for now
@zapatee (477)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
i wouldn't bother. i would just move on. for some people, it can be difficult, but given the situation that you just provided, it's a one-sided love affair and should not be pursued. the best way is to move on ahead with your life. there are always other important things or people around us that's worth our attention, time, and effort. these are things or people that may give us back what we desire if we put in the effort like when we're in love. we should never focus ourselves on one thing or one person if we wish to move on with our lives. some great sacrifices are necessary, yes, even in love. cheers, swissheart!
• Romania
18 Sep 10
congratulations
@kaka135 (14916)
• Malaysia
18 Sep 10
I believe it's very difficult, but we have no choice but to let go the relationship. I always believe if the other person doesn't love us anymore or doesn't appreciate us anymore, what's the point of keeping the relationship but it's not real? We are only hurting ourselves, and we will get even more hurt in future. I understand it's always easier to say than to do, but I still think it's my life, and there's only one lifetime, and hence we need to really appreciate ourselves and enjoy our life.
@kquiming (2997)
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
i let that person go...and i usually become more happy after i accept reality , that this person is not meant for me...because the person is not in love with me. it's hard at first, and it hurts.... and it takes a lot of time to recover...but eventually you'll come to realize that you've made the right decision.
• Philippines
18 Sep 10
What would you do then but walk away and leave... it is the best thing to do. The more you chase someone who has no interest in you, the more they resent you so why go after the other person? If you were meant to be your paths will cross again if not then you won't be.
• United States
18 Sep 10
i can't make anyone want me if im in love with the person and its not the same way with him i'll just gone on about my business life goes on.