Its not you... ITS ME.

Well, it was as if we were into the thin line then but we have saved our relationship. And that was the same phrase I told him because I have done something against his will. It was not because of bothered feelings, a third person whatsoever. I meant it and if he would ever gave up on me or cool off for a while, I will accept it. But, he did not... and I can say I am lucky enough to have him.

I have bever had to use this line on someone i have been in a reelationship with. unfortunately, i have had it used on me. It does nothing for your self confidence to hear this. It's like a slap in the face for rejection.

this line has been used on me.... but then after i was blamed for the things that happened why we broke up but unfortunately, God has helped me open my eyes to reality that my ex boyfriend cheated on for another woman who also was a friend of mine. they both cheated on me and that helped me somehow move on with life. after 3 months of my recovery stage again, my ex boyfriend sent me a message asking me if we could talk again. i agreed. somehow i believed in karma because after 8months of me being single, karma has set upon my ex boyfriend. his so-called "gf" cheated for another guy. but my ex and i are okay though. we are good friends and tries our best to catch up for the times that was lost. since what i have been telling you is already off the topic, all i can say is that this phrase it is not you, it is me... has been used on me and now i have learned that i won't even bother to believe a man when this phrase will be used as an excuse for the faults and lies this man is about to do on me...

" It's not you, it's me " you use these because you really don't want to hurt someone else feelings but also help you feel guilty when you feel responsible for someone else pain. Sometimes you used them to leave a door open. No matter what you say youre not ready to commit your partner wants continue, he will be hurt. No getting around that. The challenge is how to get your message across humanely without sugar coating the truth using platitudes or stringing them only. Opening with " It's not you, it's me" is just going put your partner on the defensive from the start. Skip the line and get right to explaining specifically and succinctly what it is about. you that make the relationship mismatch.

i have not used this line....but if it will come to me that i will be using this? yes, i will really be honest to my partner that its my fault, because sometimes honesty can set you free...

I've used that line before but only because I really meant it. It really was me. I was just too busy and too wrapped up in my school studies and job to have a boyfriend, even though he was so sweet. It was my first boyfriend and I was so young and so insecure as well, and he was well... very experienced and I was terrified. However, I don't think you should use the line 'It's Me' unless you really mean it. And even then, EXPLAIN how it is you. Anything else is cowardly and just seems like a cop out, really.

I guess if its true then you should say it, most of the time people will tell you if its you, its not easy to hear but the truth isn't designed to make you feel good, just know the real reason. I've never used the line and I don't think its been used on me either. Sometimes its a mutual agreement that one person is messing up the relationship, whether or not its them and they are willing to admit it is another story.

I have heard this line a couple of times and I do believe that it is really their fault. I have also used this line and I also really meant it.

I used this once to get out of a relationship. I really didn't want to use this. For me it's the lamest excuse of all! and yet I did, and I was aware that it was a lame excuse, but i really did want to get out of the reltionship and didn't have any valid excuse, except I grew tired of our relationship. I grew tired of our bad habits, so in a way it is true. It's me. I'm giving up because I can't take it anymore. Not that my partner did anything wrong. Am I making sense here? haha

It sad people cannot be honest and simply say they are ready for a relationship or simply that I find we can no longer be together. I suppose if this line is used I would still respect the person as better to be told the relationship is over than cheat on me later or something like that.