What makes a woman a good wife?

India
September 23, 2010 10:20am CST
What are the qualities of a good wife? Pleasant looking, pleasing manners, caring, friendly, supportive, good at bed,respect for husband, does not nag, good at cooking, chaste, ability to produce and raise good children etc etc .... These all what I can think of.. Now tell me about your views
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@formidexo (1351)
• Canada
23 Sep 10
A good wife has a deep love and respect for God. If she has that, then all other things will be fine. That's the most important ingredient. If that is genuine then she will happily fulfill all other duties and responsibilities. That's my opinion!
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• India
23 Sep 10
Hi, formidexo, this is another point I left out. Respect for God definitely a quality of a good wife. Your opinion suits me friend.
@formidexo (1351)
• Canada
23 Sep 10
I remember reading that a good wife is a gift from God. To those that have: keep cherishing her and make her rejoice all her life.
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• India
23 Sep 10
Oh, that's a good one formidexo , I like it.
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
23 Sep 10
Good qualities that makes a women a good wife. Do we really have to have good qualities, sweetie? I mean really. Pleasant looking, pleasing manners? Good at bed, not nagging? uumm, what is the ability to PRODUCE and raise good children? Women should be pleasant by nature, friendly if they feel like it. Adored for what they are. Have to be loved unconditionally. Cooking if we feel like it or you can stay without food. We do not have to have good manners at all, sweetie. Husbands should respect their wives before we can respect them. That's it, i think. If i think of something else i will let you know, okay. TATA.
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• United States
23 Sep 10
loving this response. exactly
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• India
23 Sep 10
sweetie, I know there could be no woman with all these qualities..Some men think a few qualities from the list makes a good woman. I have just tried to help the Mylotters with my points so that it will be easier for them to respond, that's it. To me loving caring woman matters most, rest come after. Mel, You could pick two qualities from the list, others may use other points..
@saphrina (31739)
• South Africa
23 Sep 10
Thanx sweetie. meluan, there is no difference. Women are the same, no matter where they are from. And you know they won't dare defy me on this.
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• United States
23 Sep 10
Being herself.... whatever qualities she already has. She doesn't have to look good or cook well to be a good wife. She just has to be herself and love her husband and she is a good wife.
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• India
23 Sep 10
Hi, Ambitiouslyleiah, every one has their own definition for a good wife. No wife can have all those qualities, I know that.I agree that a good wife can be a loving woman with her own qualities.
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• Germany
23 Sep 10
Ambitiouslyleiah! Your answer is supper. i just behave like 'I'. I don't change myself. Mine is from childhood love. So I think my husband as I. I never think he is another person. I have less than half of the qualities which Vijay state. We have many problems in our family. My boldness in facing the problems helps my husband a lot. I think we both are not perfect. but we much to each other.
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
Though I haven't been married my whole life yet, I think what makes a woman a good wife is the way she takes care of her family, the unconditional love for her husband and children will definitely sum up everything.
@SinRealm (559)
• Philippines
23 Sep 10
Loyalty and supportive. That is all that I seek for a good wife. Plus shares the same interests as me. That way she can understand what I am interested in and won't get mad. :)
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• India
23 Sep 10
Hi, SinRealm, thanks for sharing your views on good wife.It is so interesting to know about opinions of different people from different countries. It makes me know more about relationships. Mylot is a great platform to learn several things.
@SinRealm (559)
• Philippines
23 Sep 10
Indeed it is. :) Same goes for you, thanks for sharing your opinions.
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
I think your views are perfect; I mean the factors of being a good wife, those are the qualities you're looking for or most of the men. Well I'm a wife too. I'm a good cook since I've studied culinary arts, I have two children, I respect my husband and have a pleasing manners. But I'm not perfect. I believe nobody in this world is perfect. I nag but not often. I only nag if my husband and children don't help me with the household chores. I'm very supportive with my children's plans. Sometimes I'm irritated especially if members of my family expect me to a superwoman.
• India
30 Sep 10
hi, mercedlegurpa nice to note that you have many great qualities of a good wife.I also agree with you that no one is perfect in this world.I think a little bit of nagging is okay. Every man and woman does it. It should not be too much though.
@vathsala30 (3728)
• India
23 Sep 10
What ever you think is true. Now a days besides being a good home maker women are also earning and helping their husbands financially and being educated, they are helping their children also in their studies besides doing the best house management and outside work
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• India
23 Sep 10
yes, vathsla, supporting husband financially, helping children in education, house management all are superb points dear.
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@pogi253 (1587)
• Philippines
23 Sep 10
A good wife should be creative and hardworking instead of sitting and waiting for the husband to bring everything at home. She should be her children's role model.
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• India
23 Sep 10
Hi, pogi all your points are good. I do agree with you.
@SHAMRACK (8525)
• India
23 Sep 10
Dear friend, I feel it is being sincere in love and as a wife to her husband and family. Moreover I feel how well a wife can understand her husband and behave accordingly. In that case I feel that that wife would the manger of that home. May be that home would be a heaven.
• India
23 Sep 10
hi, shamrack, this is another good point, managing home effectively. So we are now getting more and more ideas, thanks.
@eurekafemme (5881)
• Philippines
23 Sep 10
Hi, Vijay.:) What you have just described is a saint, dear.LOL But, kidding aside, yes, at least some of those qualities you stated here are present then she must be a good wife.:) But, Honestly, I am not sure. I couldn't speak for myself. Only a husband can answer that.Perhaps, you have your wife on mind while you are writing this.:) As A wife, dear, I did everything I could to be a good wife to my husband. But what I thought was my best wasn't good enough for my him.... So,it makes me wonder what is a wife anyway?
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• India
23 Sep 10
if one woman has all these qualities then she will be much more than a saint dear eurekafemme. I just posted all qualities that came into my mind while posting. People are different dear. Every man is different. what you had given may be more than expectations for another man.. You tried your best honestly-this is more important, now you can be satisfied with that. May be your efforts will be recognized in future by your loving husband.
• Canada
23 Sep 10
My view is as I am a wife to a wonderful husband, I know he likes the fact that I cook, keep a nice home for him, respect him and do everything I can to support him and decisions that he makes on the flip side of the spectrum I found someone who respects me and supports me in decisions that I make.
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• India
23 Sep 10
I get some more points from you mrsmakawak , thanks for sharing your views. I do agree with you that keeping a clean home is one of the qualities of a good wife.
@indahfth (11171)
• Indonesia
23 Sep 10
In my opinion, a good wife is a wife who is honest or not Like Lying, Love and Faith, Attractive Appearance, Obedient Worship, Healthy Physical And Spiritual, Can be Controlled and Controlling.
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• India
23 Sep 10
hi, indahfth you made me understand I have left many points. I agree with you about all those qualities.
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@aerous (13465)
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
The best woman in my opinion to be a good wife. Is a woman that have faith and fear with God...Because I know that if she follow God, commandment she never do anything cheat to her husband... Have a great day!
• United States
23 Sep 10
Currently I am not a wife, but I was an excellent one before. Now I call myself a wifey as I live with my boy-friend for 4 years and tend to all my wifey duties even though we have no legal confirmation. What makes a woman a good wife? I suppose to a man a good wife means a mannequin doll as if she nags and complains too much she is acting up and not a good wife. So perhaps a man should marry a mannequin and not a wonderful woman.
@iowachap (100)
• United States
23 Sep 10
Nah, maybe to some, but a good wife is one that is supportive, yet also knows how to stand her ground when needed, as the relationship for the most part should be 50/50 however one should have the advantage now and then but overall it would balance out, sometimes the man gives in, sometimes the woman, and one thing you have to realize sometimes it does not really matter as much who is right but that someone says they are sorry, and yes that can mean even if one is right, eating pride now and then so as to show you care can go such a long way. A wife should be able to cook decently, but so should the man, she should be able to dress up and put some make up on now and then, just like the man should dress up now and then, and take his woman out to dinner.. as you can see lots of these things balance out.. a woman should not be quiet until spoken too, should not have to cover her face in public, she is ot a object, or owned, or beneath a man.. and thats my say...
• United States
24 Sep 10
Oh blush, blush. Are you someone's hubby cause you sure know exactly what a woman like me, likes from a man if he speaks like you.
• India
30 Sep 10
great discussions by you both hardworkinggurl and iowachap. I enjoyed reading them.
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
23 Sep 10
Wow, you don't ask for much!
• India
30 Sep 10
hahah, I am not expecting all these qualities in a woman. may be some from the list will be enough, I think.
@Janey1966 (24126)
• Carlisle, England
30 Sep 10
That's a relief!
• India
30 Sep 10
@RobtheRock (2485)
• United States
23 Sep 10
I agree with all of your points except "respect for husband." I don't agree with "respect for husband" because that's a given. They wouldn't be together if she didn't respect him. If she loses respect for him, it's either because he does something to deserve it or she never loved him in the first place which is why men should pay attention to their ladies before marrying them. Don't let her charms cloud your judgement. See if she only wants you for your money. And there will come a time before marriage when you will see if her respect for you is genuine or not. Two things I might add is that she is "smart" and has a sense of humor. There's nothing like making a comment you think is funny which actually makes your wife mad. And when both of you know how to make each other laugh, then that helps your health as well.
• India
24 Sep 10
hi, RobtheRock, you are right that most women will not stay with their husbands if they don't respect them. But may be some women who still have to carry on with the relationship for the sake of children even they lost respect for the husband, this is my opinion Friend.
• United States
24 Sep 10
Greetings Vijay. I see what you mean. But then in this case, isn't she still a good wife in spite of his indiscretions and earning of disrespect?
• India
30 Sep 10
yeah, definitely she is more than a good wife.
@jaiho2009 (38996)
• Philippines
23 Sep 10
hello dear anna, In my real experience i can say that. What makes a woman a good wife is...how her husband makes her feel she is. Sometimes husband says some flattering words to their wives,but,it has no meaning at all,emotionless. Words spoken can be blown by air,making us(the wives)feel our importance is enough to give us inspiration to do our best,be the best wife and mother. No once can ever define the real meaning of being a GOOD WIFE but the Husband alone who makes his Wife a GOOD WIFE. Have a great weekend ahead dear bhai
• India
23 Sep 10
nice share dear sister jai. It's true that a husband can make a woman a good wife. But still the woman also will have her own good qualities that make her a good wife.
@jaiho2009 (38996)
• Philippines
23 Sep 10
Ok,i am a good wife,i did my best to be a good one,but,my husband is not a good husband. Then,what's the use of having all the good qualities when the husband is not worth for all the sacrifices? It's not how a wife excel in her qualifications that matters...again...it is how she was treated as a human and a wife by her husband.
• India
24 Sep 10
I know dear jai, you are a good wife and a great mother. Sometimes we are not recognized for what we are. It's okay, this is what life about. We need to live with good and bad, success and failure, happiness and sorrow.
@ankster (273)
• India
24 Sep 10
I guess to be a good wife one has to be patient,she may not be good looking but she must behave and live in a style that her husband is always attracted to her.The good wife will try her level best to make his husband happy through her services at home and a good wife will help husband in all his endeavours.Good wife is one who is cheerful despite of whether husband has more or less money.Good wife is one who keeps faith in her husband and helps him in succeeding in his career.I guess good wife should also maintain her cool and calm temper to smoothen lifes ways.
• India
30 Sep 10
hi, ankster you have made great points there. Patience and being cheerful are top qualities of a good wife.As you said good wife should also maintain her cool and calm temper to smoothen life's ways.well said.
@ankster (273)
• India
30 Sep 10
Thanks for acknowledging me.
• United States
24 Sep 10
Wow. I guess that the list And the reason I will Never be a good wife.
• India
30 Sep 10
hi, sarahruthbeth22 , nobody can have all those qualities. If you have a few from the list, sure you can make a good wife.
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• United States
30 Sep 10
No I will never be a wife.I never will marry.As for the qualities. My guy thinks I'm pleasant looking. I do have and will use my manners. I can be caring ans friendly. I will support my guy til my dying breath. God in bed? He thinks so, that's all that matters.But to respect a husband. Never!I don't nag. what is the point? I am not his mother. And speaking of motherhood.Havig the abliity to have kids and Wanting kids are two different things. I have been able to have kids since age 13 but I will not! I don't cook. Chaste? Uh, No!This and the simple fact I see marriage as a prison are the reasons I will never marry.
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
Each person have unique personalities and qualities. For a woman to be a good wife she should have a good character traits, understanding, loving, carrying and responsible for her family.
• India
30 Sep 10
hi, account, I do agree with you that a good wife she should have a good character traits, understanding, loving, carrying and responsible for her family, great ponts there from you.
@ANTIQUELADY (36471)
• United States
24 Sep 10
U did say a good wife not a slave or a robot , didn't u? I think a good husband makes a good wife.
• India
30 Sep 10
hi, ANTIQUELADY I do agree a good husband can make a good wife. But not all the time, you know, sometimes you can't make a good wife unless she has some stuff within herself naturally.