Why there are some people who love and like to use other's things?
By airasheila
@airasheila (5454)
Philippines
September 24, 2010 6:47am CST
A pleasant day to you Fellow Mylotter,
I really dont know why there are some people who love and like to use the things of others. Wherein, they dont want to buy their own. And yet, not even bother to ask, who is the owner and even ask for permission that they will gonna use that particular thing.
These are the ways, that I always encounter since I am just renting a place. As much as possible, I dont want to use the things which is not mine. Wherein, I truly give respect to the owner of that particular thing. And since, we are both a tenant of the place, I dont want to bother others just because I will use their belongings. So, I am just ending up in buying, at least to have a small one for my use. But, apparently, the respect that I am giving is not the same that I am getting. Wherein, my co-tenants does not know how to respect. And, yet, they are using others belongings such as kitchen utensils.
I am planning to put some labels on my kitchen cabinet to inform them, that those kitchen utensils are mine. However, my bestfriend, told me to give them a chance, as per my bestfriend, maybe they will not use it again. As of now, I have listened to my bestfriend's advise. And will just do the move if they use it again.
If you were on my shoe, what measures you will do? Is there any right move to do? or a best strategy?
6 responses
@macey_27 (23)
• Philippines
25 Sep 10
I myself don't want others using my things without my permission or better yet others returning my things a bit broken. Some people don't care if they wrecked something because it's not theirs anyway, so the owner suffers the most. As to your situation, I think putting on some labels will be a good idea, that is if the co-tenants won't get offended. But maybe it would be better if you'll just move to another place. Some place where people/co-tenants will respect you more.
@laken02 (3065)
• United States
24 Sep 10
i think your best friend is right, pray about it and give it a lil more time if the people keep disrespecting you , then you need to be honest with them and explain that you work hard for what you get and you would at least like them to ask you before they just go and grab your things it is ok to tell someone in a nice way when they are dis respecting.you. they may not even know it bothers you it could be that they grew up in a way that all people shared there things and did not even have to ask.. i dunno.. but if you tryted to talk with them and they still dis resect you or your property then i would be looking for a new home... were you can be happy... have a great day.. :) happy mylotting and this question was a excellent
one..
@bettydeng5 (1822)
• China
25 Sep 10
I didn't experience the things like you, however my younger brother complained one of his colleague who doesn't buy anyting including daily things, like shampoo, shower fluid,washing powder etc. His colleague used his things without ask his permission, my younger brother really doesn't like his colleague's activity.
@tkonlinevn (6411)
• Vietnam
25 Sep 10
I suggest that you should destroy your plan. If you implement it, your life will be uncomfortable. You maybe will loose some friends. If you don't like, you can talk to your roommates or you can rent a small private room yours. I used to do it before. It's no problem when we focus on the matters, not focus on the person.
@aeisle (377)
• Philippines
24 Sep 10
Yes that's true! I personally experience that with my boss. He's the type of person who has the thinking like, "Why bother buying if I could just borrow?". I'm really pissed when he does that. It's not that I'm stingy or something, but doing it all the time does really piss me off. He likes watching movies so he does borrow external disks from his subordinates always. Other managers love watching too but so they did buy their own external hard disks so they could just copy instead of borrowing it for the weekends. But my boss doesn't want to buy his own and prefers just borrowing. He also does borrowed a headphone to one of my colleagues too, it's already been a year and he still didn't return it. My colleague didn't already expect it to be returned anymore so he already bought his own headset instead. Maybe my boss thinks that the headset was really his and forgot that he only borrowed it.
When these things happen, we ofter preferred to lie just to prevent our things being borrowed and returned already damaged. The bad thing is, he would just say sorry. I hope those words could fix the broken things that he always borrow. :(
