I secretly feel dumb inside :(

@oscar6 (1939)
United States
September 27, 2010 7:37pm CST
I grew up in a great family that constantly told me how smart I was. My friends also tell me this. However I do not always believe it. I think that I try to look smart but deep down Im a idiot. I just want to be able to believe that I am as smart as everyone things I am. Does anyone have any tips on how to accomplish this? How many of you feel the same way? Any comments are appreciated.
5 responses
• India
28 Sep 10
when ever I do something wrong with someone I really start hating myself i don't know why but till I say sorry to him/her I feel that I am the world's most hated person..but when ever i do some thing good i have that happiness in my heart that I have done some thing good and the feeling of this is immense..for you i would advise that you have some were lost your self confidence so I would tell you tell try out looking into a mirror an look into your eyes if you cannot see in your eyes meaning your guilty some were and this would help you boost your confidence too.....
@chiyosan (29389)
• Philippines
28 Sep 10
you are not alone in this feeling of yours! i mean, we all go through stages where we feel our greatness and we do are actually great in our own rights. i myself have felt dumb in some cases especially here at work where it is a totally different industry. not sure what i can do, and my brain is just too tired or maybe i am rejecting the learnings myself... but when you are at such a point - do not look down on yourself too much. everything will fall into place - just do not think more of the negative feelings you have - you are intelligent, you are a wonderful person because that is what you are - and not what you think you are. alright?!
@Ramaditya (1227)
• Indonesia
28 Sep 10
Is it possible to examine all things you have done? Do you find something which looks stupid? If not, then you have to believe in yourself. It's normal to feel dumb sometimes, when people see us too high or too low, but rest assured it will never bother you from your own track. Keep going, and once again, believe in yourself. Not to be over confidence, but have courage...!
@pokumon (647)
• United States
28 Sep 10
Hi oscar6. The only thing I can suggest is taking a real proctored IQ test. I thought I was really stupid when I started attending Caltech and started failing classes or barely squeaking by. I took an IQ test as part of a full psychodiagnosis panel to assess essentially whether I had attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Turns out that my IQ is within the genius range and I am smart enough to attend my school. I found out some important things about myself at that point though including that I am ADHD, have a learning disability (slow processing speed), and a reading disability. This has helped me because I now get special accommodations that the ADA says schools have to provide including longer test times and allowing me to get medication I need. This has helped me immensely and I got a 4.0 the first term with full accommodations. I also have been more careful about the classes I choose knowing that it does take me longer to read texts. I hope this helps you and you find out the answer you are looking for. Maybe the fact that you are questioning their exclamations just proves how smart you are. You need the empirical evidence and that's what a test can prove, but don't trust the IQ tests online. Those are all crock.
• United States
28 Sep 10
Sometimes I feel like we are our own direct enemies as when we feel this way we have expectations for ourselves.