How do you handle jealousy??

Philippines
September 29, 2010 11:24am CST
Do you feel once in your life to become jealous in your partner like husband, gf or bf isn't it? There are so many arguments behind the relationship as partner because of this feelings. Sometimes if ended up into break up and partway of the couples. As when you feel you are jealous how do you handle it in front of your partner? It is really need an arguments? What to do? My friends here.. let me know your opinion about this common problem in the love society.. thank you guys and have a nice day!
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• Philippines
3 Oct 10
Well, I think that all of us have experienced being jealous of our partner or something else. Jealousy can be avoided by trusting the Lord to have the right heart and avoid human jealousy. I think also that as my mentor learn2earn had said one time in our conversation, that jealousy can be positive. However, it must a godly type of jealousy to be positive. An example of a godly jealousy that he gave was when he heard a man who gave much of his money to the Lord, and in return, he was blessed. So, my friend had a godly jealousy and wanted to follow the example of that godly man who gave much for the work of the Lord.
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Yes there is nothing better to have a godly way compare t0 earthly and this is really good in the eyes of God as long as we did it right and according to His will. I agree with your mentor and even me would like to do all godly way. Thank you so much and have a nice day!
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
Hi! Someone once told me that jealousy is insecurity and I believe this to be true. No one is perfect so we will always have these insecurities. I had these experiences myself but I don't know If I was right in my dealings with this emotion. I would suffer quietly before and somehow, our relationship (w/ bf) stays longer than the "other." I suppose building a strong relationship with understanding and communication is much better than building on insecurities. Getting to know the other better so you would know how to handle the situation and opening yourself up so the other would also know you better and learn of your sensitivities. But I am really a placid woman so I dunno if this will work with others.
• Philippines
5 Oct 10
Yes i believe in your way, building a good communication and and strong relationship is a big factor of handling this issue. Understanding each other and knowing better our partner may help and better to than to feel insecure. Thank you for your participation and have a nice day!
@cutetari (43)
• Indonesia
30 Sep 10
For me the true sign of love jealousy and fear of losing a partner, but if we too show in front of our partners' emotional manner may actually seem annoying. So should we deal with a more elegant way to show that we are jealous and we do not like to constantly hit by such feelings. For that, take concrete and decisive steps in a way to call and talk to people who become jealous cause the object in front of our mates and we just give restrictions on how we position: he and our partners and explain what steps if we can take when constraints are violated. I've done it, how do I do you think?
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
Agree with you friend. That is a good point of view on handling jealousy and i admire such thing doing fine and better way to resolve. Thanks a lot friend and have a nice day!
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
30 Sep 10
Jealousy can be an ugly emotion to have. it is so powerful and can lead you anywhere. Jealousy has a way of turning you into something you are not. If i am feeling jealous, i try to find something else good about the relationship or idea that will take these feelings away. Being jealous doesn't do anyone any good. it can leave your life in turmoil unless it is pushed away.
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
Yes I agree it leads to nothing but destruction if jealous is too much. But this emotion are always present to lovers and jealousy is too high if we really love our partner. Thank you to your response and have a nice day friend..
@jet2r0cks (193)
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
I get jealous easily -_- It's not like I don't trust my boyfriend - it's the girls I don't trust! My boyfriend is not the type to get close to girls, but for some reason, I find a lot of girls trying to befriend him and that's why I get jealous _
@se7enthbird (8328)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
in the early part of our relationship i can say that we can not afford this feeling for we are both in a occupation that needs to be very close to people. me and my wife are both in a band and she is one of our singer. she always talks with other people particularly guys. well its part of being a singer. so i cant just be jealous all the time. the problem is she gets jealous. i am not the person who has a lot of friends and i am not the type of person who talks with strangers, so when she sees me talking with some ladies i can see a eyebrow raise and a quiet travel going home har har har. but now that we are both matured the trust and confidence is stable already though sometimes my wife still has this feeling. she no longer works since the day she gave birth. but i am a very honest person and i love my wife very dearly. i will not do anything to hurt her and to ruin my happy home.
• Philippines
30 Sep 10
WOw! how nice and wonderful couple! I am truly happy to know that both of you are musically inclined and i am a fan of band group. I love music. That is true that both of you are in that industry that mostly talking to people. And if one cannot understand the situation well it's lead to disaster.. Great that you are now matured. Thanks for you participation and have a nice day friend!
@Rtlsnk316 (1197)
• Mexico
29 Sep 10
Even thou I'm not a teenager anymore, and I consider myself mature enough to handle situations based on my life's experiences, I still every now and then feel that anxiety that jealousy provoques. They say and I might agree with it, it's mostly due to our insecurity of loosing somebody that we think belongs to us. Althoug sometimes it's clearly obvious that the significant other does it on purpose because he/she wants to be in one or more relationships at the same time, there are people like that. But when you know that your partner is trustworthy, and you just know it because he/she has demonstrated it, that you have nothing to worry, that is the person you wanted to be with. Still, I might get a little jealous, but I can talk about it with my girl and you know what, I can't argue, she is right when she explains to me why I shouldn't worry.
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
You are so kind and have a big understanding when it comes to this matter. We need to trust our partner as long as they are trustworthy. Handling this things may need the big understanding and broad mind to explain all details until it clear. Thank you friend and have a nice day!
@blueblink (246)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Actually it is very hard to handle jealousy, there will be too much conversation,argue, etc. but it our case before, it will last for lets say an hour or two and then we will talk and that's it.everything will befine
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
Yes we will spend too much time to settle arguments when it comes to jealousy. There are so many things to tackle about because feelings was involved. Thank you so much friend and have a nice day!
• South Korea
29 Sep 10
Its easy to say that past is past..and were the present but we cant also avoid to feel jealous of course..theres a lot of different kind of jealousy..but I think whenever I get jealous I just cant hide it.. and Im alsonot afraid to show it.. and if it needs to be discussed it will be better to find a way to make it go away:)
• Philippines
29 Sep 10
You are right princes8881 that's a good point to do to make it clear and feel better after discussion. Thank you so much friend!