I cant choose

United States
October 1, 2010 8:41pm CST
ive been married 10 years recently i had an affair and left my husband .my husband got into some trouble and is serving time.he also had a pain medication addiction to the point close to death.i moved him out of state that help alot and we were getting close again but we moved back and he started the drugs again.i warned him what would happen.he would lose me now this new man wants me to get divorced and marry him but i cant seem to let my husband go does that mean i still need and want him?the excitment of a new life thrills me but im not sure if its for the best.....what would you do? i think i just lust for the new man and hes a good worker and provides for me are those good reasons to marry?
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@LadyMarissa (12161)
• United States
2 Oct 10
You have a BIG problem!!! I can understand why you need to get away from your husband. I can understand your attraction to a good man!!! You said really clear i cant seem to let my husband go and then you asked im not sure if its for the best.....what would you do? To me that is VERY clear!!! Your common sense it telling you to stay with your hubby. Your desires are telling you to look for more. You are enjoying your desires right now (and rightfully so) & I believe you're trying to ignore your common sense. YOU are the ONLY one who can make the decision. However, since you've asked...I hear you speaking MORE of your NEED for your hubby than I hear you NEED to be with the boyfriend. I can tell you from personal experience, boyfriends are great UNTIL they know they have you & then they're NOT so great!!! I think you know what you should do...you just don't like the answer (and I don't blame you)
• United States
2 Oct 10
thanks lady great advice.thanks for sharing.
• China
2 Oct 10
i want to accuse you now. you are a bad woman in my opinion . so sad to hear that , and you are so kidding to say it out here. maybe you are right. but you are a bad woman and mother in my mind. get away . don't reply me .
• United States
4 Oct 10
i think the only reason to get married is for love, and maybe you need to leave everything for a while to get a clear head.
• Philippines
2 Oct 10
hello punlonnjack! you are in a very difficult crossroad of your life. you have to choose between doing what you should do and what you want to do. the answer lies deep within you. if you choose responsibility over happiness, then you have to face the consequences of your decision. on the other hand, if you opt to prefer your happiness, you might face a lifetime of regret. you didn't mentioned if you have kids with your husband or if you still love him despite his situation or if he was good to you, despite the addiction. you should think really hard about your decision, weight what really matters to you. However, i must tell you that relationships based on physical attraction alone would not suffice for a lifetime. true love that emanates from deep within you, no matter how difficult the situation would arise, no matter how he hurt you, still you will stay because of that love.
@ibsnet (1268)
• India
2 Oct 10
Love is something what your heart says. And at this moment what I suppose is you want to stay with your husband though some unknown excitement and thrill is dragging you towards your new love. Now go back to old golden days 10 years aback. You loved your husband and you feel day by day year after year as a flashback what made you apart from your loving husband. Just go the way your husband liked the most. Console him, love him try to get back his love. You will be in more peace than your new love. And also your husband may sacrifice the addiction of his new found old lover girl that's you only. try this you may succeed this way.
@jagjit273 (1740)
• India
2 Oct 10
Well the thing is dear Your mind wants to be with your man, and your body wants your boyfriend badly.You can have them both.If a man can have two women as wife and girlfriend , Why not a woman can have a two men as husband and boy friend.Go for it , enjoy your self. Have great pleasure